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writes:Long story, met a great guy, known him for 6 months + I have 3 kids from previous marriage. About 3 weeks ago he told me he does not think he can ever see himself living with me and my kids,he was not being nasty he is just not sure he could give up his space that way. He says he loves me and that he wants to continue seeing me ( which we have done ) but i am worried. Did he just have a wobble or am i just gonna be his play thing for a while. Its so hard he has met my kids, gets on with them so well and I do love him....where do I go from here ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate all of you that have read my question and offered advice, I know six months is not a long time and to be honest I am not sure i will ever want to wash his socks, but when we are together, not just me and him, me him and my kids we do all get on so well! He plays with my kids, helps them if they ask him too and he makes an effort!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): Yes I was told similar once, if it was just you then I'd move in tomorrow the relationship continued for 4 years, but he never ever changed his mind, despite us talking about it on numerous occassions.Having no kids himself he wasn't prepared for that commitment. For yourself six months isn't a long time, but your guy has made it pretty clear from early on that he doesn't want the responsibility of your children...you have 2 choices 1. Continue the relationship see it as a bit of fun with no ultimate commitment from him and enjoy it on a day to day basis or 2. Break it off and find a man who's prepared to take on your kids too.But you have to decide what it is you really want.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 I'd just keep on dating him, I mean it's only been 6 months. I wouldn't be thinking of living together just yet anyway. I hardly think you should consider yourself a plaything at this point. Relax and enjoy each other's company.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): you're just going to have to tell him that you want more and take it from there. I assume that the kids are his issue, not that he doesn't like your kids, he just doesn't have any & maybe he doesn't want any. If you lived alone, he'd probably never have said that. But your kids always come 1st so there's nothing you can do but talk to him about your feelings. Do the kids go to their father's? Maybe when they are at their father's, he could stay with you so you can talk about this & have a few days together.
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reader, jaxy angel +, writes (9 August 2007):
 bloody hell SNAP!!!!! im in exactly same situation 3 kids from previouse marrage my b friend cant hack it he dont want to live wiv me coz of my kids he cant hack it remember kids come first hunny as im sure you do no bloke is worth it if he cant take on the package take care hun xxx
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