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anonymous
writes:I meet this guy (who is slightly older than me) who gave me his number (whole address in fact). Later that week he and i meet upand got on really well n talk about all sorts of things ended bein up all night and then spent the next 3days with him (In which he and I did sleep together). - and when i asked him is a relationship and me what he wanted he said yeh and that he's going to stick around (both of us had said we wanted more from each other and really liked each other). Next time we meet up he says that a relationship is not possible because of problems goimg on in his life - n not to wait around for it. Week later we met up and yet again I stay the night (and we have sex again). Whilst wiIth in bed does he tell me that there never a problem filling his bed with women (which made me wonder am I just another girl to his list)on previous occassions he and I had meet he had told me about previous girlfriends (everything between relationships he doesn't seem to count) - I also did ask him when was the last time he was with a women and his response was that's too early asking that question (and through talkin to people did I find out that it was only a fee days before he and I first up - he doesn't know I know this though). I went away for 10days (during which I text him a few times - but never had a response). I text him when I got back sayin about meetin up and he was like I'm busy will give you a call ... (I have a feelin also that he has been havin sex with other women or that there are other women in the scene but not 100%) - am I just a one night stand and being played by this guy - HELP please ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): if in doubt there is no doubt - meaning you are being played. it's unlikely that he'll contact you (as he's trained u 2 contact him) BUT if he does it's likely because someone's cancelled on him OR he's horny. in terms of your response to him ask yourself what can you gain from confronting him? if it's self satisfaction then do it - but if you don't need it for closure then just ignore the jerk & never give it another thought. FINALLY if u still 'like' the guy then u r being played for a fool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Despite what has been said i do like the guy (I'm not a gluten for punishment though and won't be played by him) ... have now found out though (not by asking him) that there are many MANY other women on the scene - further he only agreed to see me the second time because this other woman cancelled on him ... If he contacts do I totally ignore or text he saying something to the effect "no chance in hell" or do meet up with him and confront him? Advise is really appreciated ...
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reader, calabarguy  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 Obviously, you are a one-night stand lady. You were having too much fun, too much trust, too early for a stranger. And no, you are not being played by this guy, both of you were players. He thot u'd know and move on too, to your next bedmate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): This guy is not serious about you. Walk away now while you still can.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (21 March 2009):
 It does sound like he is playing you and I think you know it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): sorry to have to say this at but i really do think he playing you hes only after sex im sure you deserve better. leave this guy well alone and you will find someone worth bothering with
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reader, cls1990 +, writes (21 March 2009):
 it comes across to me that this man wants the physical side of a relationship but not the commitment or responsibilities of one.
i think you should move on & find somebody who appriciates you
By the time he has realised how stupid he has been it will be too late, you cant stick around & wait for him to grow up.
He might not be ready for settling down yet so if i were you i would leave him too it.
Hope this helps
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