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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and we haven't fought at all and we're always happy when we're together and we see each other every weekend. Since about 2 months into dating, He's always talking about us being together for the rest of our lives and having kids when we get older, getting married and moving in together when I'm 18(Right now, I'm 13 and he's 15).I know a lot of people think I'm too young and don't know what love is but I swear, I do. I'm in love with this guy and he loves me and I know this for sure. A lot of people including my parents, and siblings say we're probably not going to last but In my heart, and his, I know we can last together. Am I in the wrong for believing that we can spend the rest of our lives together? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): Okay for the sound of your story is similiar to mines and I am about 21 now.. I was not 13, but me and my boyfriend was at the same age as your boyfriend (15). We were not together through the whole time, but we were those on and off couples. At that age guys do not actually know what they truly want and since your a girl you think that it is so love dovie..one day you or him will break each others heart, because there are more people out there and both of you will face arguments one day..well the whole point is that at about 17 I wanted to see other people because i wanted to see what else is out there...i found one but i broke it off and went back out with my boyfriend.. then i move away to college but then found out that he cheated on me back home..got a baby with the girl he cheated on me with..now about 2 years later we are now back together and getting married...
I personally think it is up to you if you could handle going through things in life if you really love him...no matter what people say people do not need to tell you what you need to do...it is up to you if both of you guys could handle each other..never give up if you TRULY love each other...
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Wrong? No. Naive, Yes. You are not too young to know what love is, and to feel love for this guy. But if I would've settled down with the guy I loved when I was 15, I would've been very disappointed at 35. Don't rush this step. Go off and live your life for awhile. Attend college. Get a job. Live on your own. And then if you still want him to be the one, at least you will have experienced life first and will know yourself better. Believe me, you will go through many changes between now and then. Good luck.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (27 April 2009):
 Nope your absolutely not wrong to believe it, because anything is possible if you really love someone. Even at a young age, love is very real to those who experience it and feelings can be deep and intense. Your friends and family are probably just a little worried that you may want to settle down a little too early before you have had other experiences that life can offer.
This is probably the reason they say 'it won't last'. You yourself cannot say for sure if it will last and it's true to say that as we get older, our opinions about what we want change...but who knows what will happen in the future.
The next time someone says something about your relationship that you don't agree with, just turn to them and say ' We are going to wait and see what happens' I guarantee this will shut them up.
You seem like a sensible girl who won't make any big decisions about moving in or having kids until your old enough and mature enough to deal with those experiences, so enjoy your happy relationship...and truly just 'Wait and see'
:-) xx
Aunty Em
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): The only thing that matters is what is in your heart and his heart. Of course you are not wrong for being in love and having hope for the future.
Enjoy your time with him right now. This is a good lesson to learn early on, that you have to do and feel what you believe is right and not fall under the influence of other people.
If they are deeply bothering you, then talk to them. Tell them you know what their opinions on your relationship is but that it's not goig to affect you. tell them that they need to keep to themselves from now on and to repsect you.
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