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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Does my boyfriend really love me? My relationship with my bf is already 4 years.We met in internet dating and been dating 1 year before we met personally.His been living with me for 3 years.I have a son from my first relationship.My problem is,from 3 years being together I still doubt if he takes me seriously.Yes he often tells me he loves me and would take care of me forever all the time.Yes he treats my son well by suppporting his needs in school.In 3 years being together we don't stroll together as a family, we eat lunch but after eating lunch we part ways and he does his own thing inside the mall and we would just meet back when its time to go home.Not even once we went out of town.Yes he loves being at home but every weekend he just love strolling by himself.We rarely have pictures together.We haven't had sex for 10 months not asking why but he always complained his kidney stones attacks him all the time,not even once I complained about it.He doesn't compliment me in any ways all he said all the time he would take care of me and ask me if I would take care of him when he gets old.He left for USA because his dad passed away and would come back after 2months.He left me 300 dollar for my budget for 1 week.He sent me another 400 dollar for 2 weeks budget seriously what is this?He is a stock trader and he told me he would take care of me and my family.Do I need to worry having 4 dollar in my pocket or shall I just trust him.I lost all my friends because of him.I am not allowed to go anywhere by myself.Before we met he always told me how attracted he was to young thin girls.I am thinking that's the reason why he stroll at the mall by himself to watch young slim girls.He is 42 years old his ex gf before me is 18 and I am 41 yrs old.for 3 years we haven't spoken about getting married in the future he said his been separated but not divorced for 20 years and don't have enough money to file for a divorce.I am confused help me? In my opinion a real family man would secure his family financially or emotionally by telling to her parnter or wife to save money for the future.I don't have savings when we got together for 3 years he doesnt like me having my own savings.What is this guy?Help me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 March 2013):
 sounds like he's a user honey.
I would strongly consider making him leave.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 March 2013):
 You've asked: "Does my boyfriend really love me?".... and then gone in to a submittal about a man who shares the same address as you, and - beyond that - ignores you, and lives his life on his terms.
THAT, dear OP, is NOT love... that's indifference... and indifference (or, ambivalence) is just the OPPOSITE of "love"....
Chalk this up to a bad 4-year experience... and get away from this guy and re-start your (real) life....
Good luck....
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