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writes:3 years ago I truely fell in love for a senior that was my drill instructor and best friend. He went to boot camp and became a Marine and basically sucludes himself, but this interesting friendly relationship was abusive with his demeaning, hurtful words (never physical). I dated the band drum major, who is my same age, a year ago for 2 months but dumped him because I was tired of him and just didn't feel the same. I have currently been dating a college guy, a year older than me but we are in seperate schools, for 3 months. Everything was fine at first we couldn't get enough of each other, but now I've hit that same point where I am tired of him and don't seem to feel the same. My mom and I seem to be going through some winter depression but I don't know if its me or him anymore. I've felt "tired of him" for a good 3 weeks hoping my depression would go away and I would fall for him. Am I holding on to a hopeless crush? Letting an old love hold me back from letting anymore close? Or is this just depression and it will end soon enough?
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reader, kathy255 +, writes (11 February 2009):
You should probably move on stay alone for awhile find out who you are first. Don't worry about the guy in the marines he will be a different person when he gets out and probably won't be the one you want anymore. If you are truly worried about the depression I would suggest seeking guidance from a psychologist. They can be beneficial I use to be very depressed in the past now I have gotten through it with just a little bit of guidance. you are still very young things will change rapidly for you over the next few years and none of this will matter, even if it feels hopeless it is not.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 You are taking in guys, using them for all they've got, and not sticking it out past the boring stage EVERYONE GOES THROUGH. I'm not saying ur a bad person, its just how u phrased it. I think if you are bored with the relationship the fair and just thing to do for both sides is to fess up and move on. Unfortunately this method results in a lot of broke hearts. You can tell the good ones from the bads ones in the way that the bad ones dont last and the good ones hopefully do.
The thing that makes relationships work after the boring period is it gets boring moreso and u chuck them or it gets more interesting and u fall into a routine with its own ups and downs - that is the functional steady relationship where everyone is happy and u eat meat and potatoes every night. I think u should hold on JUST A BIT LONGER and if u really are so desperately bored of him then move on. No use waisting time on someone that doesn't have your entire heart and soul into it.
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