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Am I deluding myself or could this just be a phase?

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Question - (11 February 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 11 February 2013)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I watch shemale porn and I have to say that I do enjoy it. I first found out that I liked it when I first discovered it in comics when I was a teen. At first, I found it wierd and beyond the norm'. But over time I found that it was something that I grew fascinated by. I also find myself pleasuring myself while watching a shemale do it herself as well.

At first I was afraid that this change in me signified that I was becoming gay or bi-sexual. I was afraid that I was morphing into something that I didn't want. But after a few years of this habit, I realized that I still feel the same about women. I still find them sexually arousing and I still have no trouble making love to them.

I have a girlfriend and we don't have any issues with getting me hard. When I see her, I can barely keep my hands off of her. She doesn't know about this secret of mines though. I fear she won't understand and that she'll be too quick to judge.

I've also had many guy friends and NONE of them have ever made me feel like there was a line I was willing to cross. I've even purposely thought of myself with a man and the mere image disgusts me. To even show myself more proof that I knew my sexual preference, while making love to my girlfriend, I closed my eyes and imagined she was a man. I instantly lost my arousal. I KNOW I'M NOT GAY. I KNOW I'M NOT BI. I still find women sexually attractive.

I just don't understand why I can find shemale porn sexually arousing and still get off to it. Am I deluding myself or can this just be a phase of harmless curiousity?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2013):

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Truelondoner- Thank you for your advise. I have tried tried gay porn before, even if by accident. I found that it was very hard to watch. For one, I don't like performing anal on my girlfriend or even entertain the thought of it being done on me. I do not find myself getting aroused by seeing two men together. Infact, when watching shemales go at it, I find myself stopping the video before they go beyond fondling or blow jobs. I think watching the actual sex act with two male organs so close to eachother is more than I'm willing to explore.

So Very Confused- Thank you. I have heard that there are more straight men watching shemale porn than they are willing to admit. I just never met any of them. I mean, if my friend were to randomly ask me if I watched it, I would probably deny it. It's just something that I'm not willing to bring to the light of day yet. I feel if it isn't damaging my relationship with my gf then it doesn't have to be anyone else's bussiness. I think I'm aroused by it simply because it's not normal. Infact, there was a time I was even fascinated by a video of a woman and a horse. It triggered some kind of primal lust in me that I never understood. That was when I was 15. I am 21 now and I never dreamed of having sex with an animal, or even putting my gf into that situation as well. I think it's more of a fantasy thing where it's more enjoyable than being a reality.

I'm sure this shemale thing that I have is nothing more than me expressing my abnormal pleasures in a safe and discreet way. I'm pretty confident if there was an actual shemale in front of me, I would be rational and realize that it's not what I prefer in a relationship/sex.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (11 February 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntYou find it arousing because you do.... it does not make you gay or bi...

my husband is all guy.. and he watches it... I've seen it and I can see why it could be arousing for anyone...

lots of heterosexual folks watch gay porn and it does not make them gay or bi or lying to themselves.

just because your orientation is one way does not mean that seeing something outside of your desires is abnormal or you are going to do that....

I love watching mountain climbing but I'm never going to do it.... does not mean I don't like to watch it....

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A female reader, truelondoner United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2013):

truelondoner agony auntDont worry you are not deluded. Everybody is different and Porn is there for a reason. You maybe bi-sexual, OR you may just like watching a female recieve the pleasure that the male gets. Sometimes you can get sexually aroused by the thought of the oppersite sex getting aroused, this is because you can imagine you are that person and the arousing is happening to you, it is all trick of the mind. If you do want to find out if you have a sexal attraction to the same sex why dont you try watching gay porn and see if it turns you on. You can only try, and dont be ashamed of who you are. (They make those catogories on porn for a reason to be watched).

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