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writes:So I have been married almost 2 years. Second marriage. My first marriage I was with the man for 11 years and married 8. The sex was less than great. In the end we went almost a year without having sex. I hated having to beg for it and it was like that all the time. I love having sex. If it were up to me I would have sex everyday twice a day. My current husband loves sex just as I do but recently has not wanted to have it as much lately. Am I being unfair or selfish by feeling like my needs and wants are being brushed off? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Have you talked to him about what you're feeling? This is important and the first step toward compromise like aunt honesty said. Is he still satisfying you regularly? Why are you feeling like your needs are being brushed off?
For those of us with a high sex drive, it can really suck when a partner doesn't quite have the same desires. Sometimes the thing that's missing is that spark that ignited the passion to begin with. Is there anything you used to do that you haven't been lately? Is there any way you could help rekindle the passion?
Often a decrease in sex drive is due to other factors. Sometimes stress. Sometimes it's because the person feels like that's all they are good for in their partners eyes. They'll question if their relationship is just about sex. Reassure him it is about more.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Ok maybe meet down the middle somewere with your husband and compromise as everyday can get very tiring for some people.
Maybe invest in a vibrator for yourself and maybe suggest every second day to your husband
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