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*oungLuv23
writes:I am back again. several years later. David (26) and I (24) are living together. We are not married. For the simple reason..we feel that there is no extra money for a ceremony. That is not what i'm concerned about. My brother just passed away in February and I am grieving. Meanwhile, I am feeling like the person who is suppose to be here for me is in his own world. We argue all of the time. I feel like I am always showing love and affection and he makes slim to no efforts. He loves me. This I know. But I want small gestures or passion in his eyes. I would even be happy if he actually stopped to recognize me in the room sometimes. He works two jobs...so I understand when he is tired. But I feel like I am giving giving giving. I am always doing what is expected of me..but get nothing in return. I often feel invisible. Is there such thing as being too comfortable? He says I want a fairy tale..and maybe it's true. Is a girl wrong for wanting to be someone's everything? I can't live like this...just being the person on the other side of the couch. he says I am miserable. Because often I am quiet and stare out of the car window..wondering if I'm even loved any more. I need more. Am I being selfish or expecting too much after 9 years in this relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): I think you should rethink your relationship, you won't be 24 forever. It this someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with? Not even noticing you in the room? I know you are grieving for your brother now, but maybe he will always have 2 jobs and you will always be left wanting for more from this. Hope I helped a little.
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