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Am I being rejected because I didn't hook up with the guy?

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Question - (22 January 2015) 11 Answers - (Newest, 25 January 2015)
A female Singapore age 30-35, *oss04 writes:

Do you think they wanted me to go away? Did the boy who I was talking to show signs of disinterest or his friends just didnot like me?

i was talking to a boy and letting him know how much i like his friend who wanted to hookup with me but i rejected him. So i was talking to him about it.

later other male friends joined along. but it seems they didnot like me for previously i had rejected their friend whom i like for not hooking up with him.

later he goes out to the other male friends i tells them something in the ear. one of the male friends tells me you're smelly.

but i remember when i was talking to the boy, he had a girl with him. yet he was talking to me and he bit my neck twice. And he said that you're interested in my friends but not me.

later he said i need to be with this girl. just wait for me at the bar. this time another male friend confronts me and says you should not talk to the boy , he has no interest in you. just go away. why dont you get it.

i wonder why would he not want me to be around him. and are all of them rejecting me because i didnot hook up with the guy i like ie. their friend.

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A female reader, Ross04 Singapore +, writes (25 January 2015):

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Ross04 agony auntwell i donot think they believe me that i like their friend. BEcause when this other guy texted him. He began saying I hope you remember me. ( which i feel he thinks I donot remember him after all we met and spoke when drunk).

I agree with you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2015):

You don't tell a guy's friend you rejected him. If all this was during drunkenness, it's why it doesn't make any sense.

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A female reader, Ross04 Singapore +, writes (24 January 2015):

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Ross04 agony auntBtw when he was flirting and biting me we both were drunk. I doubt he would do it sober.

And before that when i was telling him the reason why i rejected his friend. He was smiling, kissed my forehead and said youre a smart girl.

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A female reader, Ross04 Singapore +, writes (24 January 2015):

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Ross04 agony auntNo you misunderstood. The guy flirting,bit me, whats app me isnt the guy whom i rejected. Its one of his friends. Its actually the guy whom i told the reason why i rejected the one night stand invitation of his friemd and i wanted him to tell his friend about it ( the one night stand guy wasnt present) he called him in front of me telling me to let the guy know himself . But it was too late. He didnot pick up the phone. He took my number and toldme to message him. But i didnot. Ofcourse i was shocked he messaged me.

And the very same day other two guys treated me badily one sayinh youre smelly . So the guy flirting with me . Told me they are drunk so dont mind. But he also said dont stand near me. Just go near the bar i will.catch you later. Thats because he had come along with another girl. So when i didnot agree to go into the club. The girl pulled him and took him in.

Amyways. Thats when another second guy tells me just go away cant you get the message. He has no interest in you. I didnt reply him

Cause i didnot want to make a scene.

Ofcourse i am horrified. Just bevause i rejected their friend rather best mate. The two guys are acting weird. But i wonder why the third is being so sweet ?

They are a group of friends.

Why i still messaged backed him on whatsapp. Because he didnot treat me nadily. Compared to other guys.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2015):

Do you really want to deal with their behavior, or his?

If you can't figure out what he's up to, that's a RED-FLAG!!! He's totally disrespectful! You're mature enough to know these things!

A guy should be straight-forward and clear about his intentions. You have a right to refuse him sex. He should respect your wishes.

Think about it. You haven't done anything to his friends. He's talking behind your back, and using intimidation.

Do you allow guys to invade your space and just touch you whenever they please? If you let him "bite your neck," you're actually leading him on. What he's doing is kind of creepy. He's letting you know, he'll get you sooner or later. That's not a good sign at all!

I think you might need to set some boundaries about that "biting." Don't let these guys play games with you.

None of this sounds right. He's "indirectly" getting back at you for rejecting him.

I think he's playing on your feelings in a somewhat spiteful way. He's forcing himself on you with the biting.

Taking what he wants by force before you can stop him.

Stay far away from guys who play mind-games. They're usually pretty vicious. Do you see a pattern? He's forward and aggressive; while his friends are nasty to you? He comes on heavy. If he doesn't like how you react to it, they are mean to you. Now do you see the correlation?

Get as far away from them as you can. Something's up!

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A female reader, Ross04 Singapore +, writes (23 January 2015):

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Ross04 agony auntToday the guy who bit my neck and flirted with him started chatting with me on whatsapp. I was Shocked.

I donot know what is he upto

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A female reader, Ross04 Singapore +, writes (23 January 2015):

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Ross04 agony auntwhats the reason for them to dislike me ?

is it because i rejected to have sex with one of their friends.

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is it something else ?

i thought they would respect me for not having had one night stand with the friend.

And the other guy who bit my neck. i know he was looking for more. but why did his friends push me away from him. OR is it he told them to tell me to go away.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 January 2015):

Honeypie agony auntMy guess? for not putting out. IF you "allow" him to bite you neck he most likely felt "entitled" to more.

Are you oblivious to how people should treat you?

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A female reader, Ross04 Singapore +, writes (23 January 2015):

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Ross04 agony auntWhats the reason for disliking me ? And was the guy who bit my neck flirtinh with me. If he too dislikes me.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 January 2015):

Honeypie agony auntWhy are you hanging out with that ass-clown? They are rude and nasty.

I agree FIND better friends. Actually, find some REAL friends.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2015):

They all now dislike you. Find new friends.

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