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Am I addicted to him? If so, what can I do?

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Question - (7 March 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 8 March 2011)
A female Canada age 36-40, *anniepeg writes:

When you read the title you might probably think that I am promiscuous and flirt all the time. No, I am actually in a normal relationship with my boyfriend. I just need help because while the sex is very good, I feel empty the next day. My boyfriend feels content and happy, but I feel I still need more, can't get enough of him.

I think that's because after a man ejaculates, he's drained and he needs to build up his testosterone again while I can go for another round after another round. I am not in love with the idea of love. I believe we care about each other's emotional growth. We don't push each other to do stuff that makes us unpleasant, nor do we demand each other for more time. I do feel clingy and possessive though. I constantly think about him, how to make the relationship better, suspect that he's saying something to hurt me, testing me, pushing my buttons.

All that to make sure I get the next dose of chemical high. Despite that I still try to make room to care about how he feels, what he did during the day, does he need help with anything, etc. I don't know if I should see a counselor for this. If you were a counselor what would you say to me? Every week I go through this and I am hurting.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada + , writes (8 March 2011):

janniepeg is verified as being by the original poster of the question

janniepeg agony auntI am greatly satisfied, that's why I feel empty the next morning because it's like heaven and then all of a sudden, it's nothing. I am happy with the frequency of sex. Just the in between that's painful.

My original question was, "what do you do to make yourself feel better when you are suffering from a love/sex addiction?"

I need the attention, not because I need to feel like no. 1, because I am feeling the pain of withdrawal, when I talk to my boyfriend he blames it on my son because when he's around, I can't be myself, like I can't be sexual or let him grope me.

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