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writes:I have a question about what i am going through right now. I am about to graduate high school and move to college about an hour and a half away. I am seeing this girl who i dated 3 years then we broke up because of some problems we had but as of a few months ago we started talking again and we are falling for eachother again. The problem is we she is staying here and i really dont know what is going to happen. I know 1 1/2 hours is not very far but i will only be visiting on the weekends and we are currently talking about issues we had when we were together. We feel like we are great together but at the same time we feel some of the problems we experienced in the past are just to big to fix and overcome. We both have a hard time letting go of it because some pretty messed up things happened from both my part and her part. We have been talking about these issues about a month and neither of us is sure of what we should do.I want to know if she sees me as a potential husband or if she just sees me as mr. right now. Ive asked her a few times but she always says she doesnt know what she wants. I dont blame her because im not so sure myself. The thing is, i dont know if i should just go with the flow and mess around with her a bit to see if it works out and if it doesnt and a good girl comes along then ill give it a shot with the new girl or if i should just try to stay away from her and just focus on myself and the last weeks here and start thinking about my college life.When i say mess around i dont necessarely mean just mess around, i mean like work on the relationship and have fun at the same time. Am i wrong for thinking maybe we could just have some fun until i leave and see how long we can stay together after i am gone? I feel deep down we are probably not going to make it but i could be wrong? What if we could make it but i throw it away by staying away from her and doing my own thing? What would you guys do? Stay together and have fun and see if it works out or end it now and just focus on my school and job till i leave?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I agree I think the best thing for you to do is just go along with it for now and see how it develops. Work on it and see if you both can over come your issues. But you are going of to college and its a whole new life out there one that will have many new experiences, so my guess is that you will probably end up breaking it of with your girlfriend. But as long as you are both honest with each other thats the main thing. Tell her how you feel and just see how it goes.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I don't think there is anything wrong with your line of thinking of "mess around, have some fun and see where it goes". I know it's tough to understand now, but i think it's actually pretty rare for a high school sweet heart to wind up being 'the one' for you.
College is a time of experimentation and experience. Get out there, find out who you are as a person and what you're looking for in other people.
You may find that it IS this girl... You may also find that it isn't.
Your young, and you have almost your entire life ahead of you!
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