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anonymous
writes:One day my boyfriend was looking through/deleting old emails while I was sitting next to him and he opened an email with his facebook password in it. I saw that his password was his first love's name. I asked him about it and he said it was nothing. He said made his facebook profile when he was in love with her and he just never changed it. I asked him if any other passwords were her name and he said yes... He went to high school with this girl and she never cared one bit about him. She even slept with all of his friends and used his love to take advantage of him. He still sees her on a regular basis because they live near each other and their families are friends. He says he isn't in love with her anymore. But I don't get how someone who broke his heart so long ago is still almost all his passwords... We've been together for almost 2 years and he's says I am the love of his life and his dream girl, but I just do not understand why this girl's name is all of his passwords... old AND new.Should I just look at it as he's a man of habit? Or is it more? Should I be worried? Do you think he still loves her?
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reader, curls-n-pearls +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I wouldnt worry, one of my passwords its the date a previous boyfriend and i got together.
I only use it because i havent bothered to change it, and i now remember it having used it for ages.
However i wouldnt mind if my current boyfriend asked me to change it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): Ask him to change them just for your convinience. He will definatelly change it. Don't worry much.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I kept an ex-girlfriend password for a while too, several different ones in fact, because it was what I was used to typing. I didn't even think of the words, just the places the keys were arranged. It took FOREVER to break the habit and I STILL occasionally type in an old pass just out of habit. I don't love the girl anymore, but my fingers want to log in like they used to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): I bet you the passwords are just words to him, he doesn't even think of them as her name. You know what they are he's not hiding them from you. Like you say he's probably just a man of habit.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (24 January 2011):
Don't worry too much about it. I had the same problem with my now fiance. He had some of his passwords as his old crushes' name. But this was a crush from a long time ago (probably 10 years ago). What happened was that when it came time to make a new password, he just kept recycling the few old passwords he had. So her name would come up.
I talked to him about it, about how it bothered me, especially as it was his password for his computer and so I would sometimes use it. So he stopped using it, and changed the old ones. Now it's not a problem at all anymore.
I don't think you need to be worried. And yes, he probably is a man of habit. I use the same passwords over and over again from when I was in high school, and now I'm 24.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): New passwords, I don't understand. Unless the password is strong and he just lacks creativity to make a new one. My password to my email is one that I had from 5 years ago when I was with my first boyfriend. I still haven't changed it, two long-term boyfriends later. It's just a strong password.
However, I do understand your concern seeing as they see each other a lot and he still has her on his mind in some way. Just talk with him about it and see what his reasons are. Good luck.
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