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writes:Again i made the same mistake by sleeping with a sex worker....and again i didnt enjoy it and felt sad and upset.... I t really gets me down.. however this time was different .... I again didnt enjoy it but this time she asked me ..... " You seem distracted dont you enjoy it?" I was honest and replied no and went on to say all the times that ive done something like this i hate myself afterwards and feel upset. She then said she hates sex too ( i was shocked). She then went on to say shes more cuddle person... So i was like i think i am too and she agreed.We then stopped and sat and talked.. she mentioned she wanted to meet a man who would support her and then wrnt on saying sex isnt everything and not great its just thee which i also agreed on... Again she also said I shouldnt do stuff like this as its not good for me as i dont enjoy it and that you should try to find a normal girl who u cant keep your hands off (or something along those lines) ..I know this experience and time in my life is bad... and i reckon i do all this coz im lonely ( no friends never had a gf not enjoying university) but like this experience ( the talking part) made me realise what kind of person i am and i was thankful for it .... I just want some insight from this expereience and what all of you think about it... ??
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (8 November 2009):
 You are going to these places because your trying to escape from your everyday life which seems to be very unhappy and empty.
Please stop going to these places, prostitutes will encourage you to come back, they will be overly nice to you because they want your money.
Your at university there should be no need to visit such places, you must have unions and clubs etc: going on there join them take part in groups that meet up to organise the social nights, they are always looking for people to help them out, that way you will meet people that are like minded like you.
Eventually you will meet a nice girl at uni, i know you liked this other girl, but think here she is a prostitute! she entertains men for money and do you really want to set up a relationship with someone that may not be able to give up this kind of work for you? Can you imagine the endless problems here?
They can be addicted to the sex same way the John's can, and trust me i have spoken to loads of prostitutes, some love their job, but the majority i have spoken to hate what they do for a living, but have become addicted to doing it they know nothing else, and for them to go into normal relationships after doing this for years with hundreds of men it does cause problems.
I would try and keep away from these places and if your a student you cant afford to be paying for sex neither! use your money for other things that will enhance your life, you have already said your not getting much out of this so why waste your money, apart from that your risking health issues too.
I think it is a slippery slope to a terrible addiction that could get out of hand if you let it, and trust me you do not want to get addicted to this, you are a young man at uni and once you get your degree , that will open many doors for you, you need to believe that and start to enjoy being at uni, don't throw your life away before it is even begun, you take care.
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reader, nobody101  +, writes (6 November 2009):
i think you should go back to that girl. you both like the same things. and i think your meant for eachother. why dont you ask her out on a date. :) then go from there. dont have sex until your ready and want it. just have a good time. YOUR IN COLLAGE MAN!!!
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reader, thenotsogreat  + ♥, writes (6 November 2009):
 About 10yrs ago I started a cooking class. On the first day I walked to the first class and was excited about all the new people I would meet. I was bout 24-25. All teenagers and 40+'s. My shoulders dropped. No one my age and thus no one to talk to.Then I had the best idea Ive ever had. I decided to make friends or atleast get to know everyone in the class regardless of age. Some of them were really friendly and some took alittle while to warm up. But it worked!!!Soon I was going to new parties and having a great time with new friends and even a few new girls. All because i didnt stay on the sidelines and watch others having fun.Thats what you are doing. Its time to stop, go to a mirror and practice smiling and go and try to talk to everyone in one of your classes tomorrow. Be friendly not needy and just get to know some people. If you give everyone a chance you will be surprised how many good friendships you can have.Have fun and please... no more brothels
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Like everyone told you on your previous posts, stop visiting sex workers. They're prostitutes, they're paid to screw, nothing great about them. It's a job, to them, you're just a john.This chick basically told you the samething everyone else has...you need to connect with someone on an emotional level, you need someone to talk to, I don't know if it's your confidence or appearence, or what's holding you back...But chicks ain't going to come up to you, you have to make the effort to pursue what you want. Make a deal with yourself, you're going to try to ask out atleast 1-2 chicks a day. You don't need lines, jokes, JUST BE GENUINE.
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reader, Brunette26 +, writes (6 November 2009):
Hey.okay ,first of all I don't think you should be sleeping around with just anybody.you're in college, make friends go to parties and enjoy yourself maybe you'll find that nice girl you're looking for.the friends you make in college go with you your whole life.but for right now.focus on your self, don't go looking for love,it will come to you.just breathe and enjoy life ,you seem like a nice guy I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for eventually. sorry if I haven't been such a help but I think what you're going through is tottaly normal.just enjoy the ride.
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