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writes:I met this guy back in September and hit off pretty good. He helped me get back on my feet, encouraged me to go back to college for better employment. I moved away and ended up living with him to save money on rent n all. back in October, my mom and I were getting pretty sick, I had to get surgery done on my and the doctors were unsure what was going on with my mom. But later found out her left lung collaspe. but was still in so much pain. For many months of seeing doctors and specialist, we finelly heard the news at the beginning of april, my mom had cancer. She passed away a few weeks after. I carried so much anger towards myself and passed it on my relationship. I said some pretty mean stuff to him this past week and left the relationship. I said so much mean things to him at a point in his life were he was being recognized for all the great things he is doing. I shot it down for him.Afterwards I realized what i was doing and realized he was always there from the beginning but was so blind to see it as i carried so much pain from my loss, now i don't want to use my lost for what i have done to him. I just want him back and he can't because what i said hurted him so much. He has taught me to never give up, to keep going when I wanted to quit schooling after my mom passing, if it wasn't for him always pushing me, I wouldn't be where i am (got all my credits) I am beggin How do I get him to trust me again and to take me back.I learned from my mistakes, I really have.... I lost my mom, I can't stand to lose another
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reader, bemused +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Hi hun
It seems from what you say in your post that you are being pretty hard on yourself here. There would none of us, not a one who would be at their best after what you have been through. Perhaps this relationship was what you needed at the time. This guy sounds like a great friend. Emivia makes some good points about just sitting down and talking with him. If his heart is with you, there is good chance he might give the relationship another go. There is always the possibility he will not but you, my dear have been through to much in the past year to beat yourself up over it. You do not need additional stress at this time. I am thinking you are probably pretty vulnerable now and you need time to heal. Treat yourself well and surround yourself with supportive friends and family.
I agree with Emivia...keep us posted hun xxxx0000
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): I'm so sorry for what you have been through and what you are still going through.
You had so much on your plate. Try talkig to him. Tell him that you are truely sorry for what you did and that you were under so much stress that you were not acting by our true nature.
Tell him that you want to regain his trust.
Perhaps you could go to couples councilling, to try and work things out. If the relationship doesn't make it then at least you'll have closure and be able to move on from this extremely painful time in your life.
Keep us posted hunny. I can tell you've been through a hell of a lot.
Emivia. x
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