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writes:I started seeing a guy since Halloween. It's been three weeks and three dates. By the third date, I'm not feeling it, and he has a picture of us saved on his cell phone screen saver... I'm 22 turning 23 and have never dated before. Am I over reacting because I feel like running for the hills? Reply to this Question
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reader, mod_gurl +, writes (15 November 2010):
mod_gurl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's mainly his lack of confidence. He over uses self-deprecating humor, and on our dates, he rarely asks anything about me. He just talks about himself. The thing is I know he's intelligent and has goals, but he keeps putting himself in a negative light. It's a major turn off, and our area of interests don't coincide.
The reason why I'm so edgy about this is he's an old friend of several of my friends. I'm probably going to see him around at other social events. I want to break it off right so it doesn't put us and my friends in an awkward position.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Probably you are simply not that much into this particular guy.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 If you are not really interested in this guy anymore then the kindest thing you can do is break it off with him. He obviously likes you, but if you dont feel the same then the right thing to do is to end it before he falls for you even more.
Generally after 3 dates you should know if you like him enough to continue dating him, or if you are just not feeling it. It is perfectly normal to go on a few dates and then realise you are not that interested - but what you need to do is make sure you end it as soon as you can to prevent the other person getting hurt. There is no point in leading him on, letting him think you like him when actually you simply just cannot see yourself having a relationship with him.
So be kind to him and break it off as soon as you can!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Love-Wisely +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Guys have a tendency to get attached - almost instantly. I think if you have cold feet about dating him already, chances are, that feeling will get stronger later.
Have said that, is there any reasons (besides the cell phone screen saver) making you want to head for the hills?
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