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*ordann
writes:Hey, I dont think there is a clear way for people to have answers for my problems but eh it's worth a shot right?- First off, I'm afraid of getting into a relationship because I feel I wouldnt be as good a boyfriend as the others that are out there. Is this really something to be worried about?- I hate all the guys at school who just try to "get some" from girls, and I try not to be like that, yet all of the girls go for those guys anyways.- I dont really know how to talk to girls because I always get the vibe that I'm wierd. I also dont really know what to talk about. Yes, i am obviously insecure about these types of things. Can anyone help?
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reader, Jordann +, writes (17 May 2011):
Jordann is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you lots! You given me a new perception on what to do (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): I think your problem is that you think love is a lot fairer than it is.
Relationships aren't a privilege that is awarded to people who are good partners. It's a privilege awarded to people who are attractive enough to interest the opposite sex and aggressive enough to demand attention from them.
You may hate the way some guys are jerks and get girls. But GIRLS don't hate those guys. They love them for it. I think you are still falling for the brainwashing that young men receive today about young women. We are raised to believe that girls want to be treated well but just can't find guys nice enough to do it. WRONG. That is a myth perpetuated to blame men for the unhealthiness of most women's attractions.
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reader, Jadedink  +, writes (17 May 2011):
Alright let me put it this way... Being good at beig a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, parent, sibling, doctor, lawyer, whatever all takes practice and has a learning curve. What makes a good boyfriend or girlfriend is how well you listen and communicate with your partner. Trust me, if your not doing something right you'll hear about it if you have good communication and that's how you will learn. All you really need to be a good partner is to genuinely care about the person your with and their happiness. If you show them you care then they will feel it. As for girls only liking the guys who wanna get some, yea girls go for that for two reasons... Either the girl knows and is kinda slurry so she doesn't care, or the guy is good at what he does and is a player... Alot of guys are pros at knowing what each girl needs to get what he wants... They don't straight out say I wanna have sex and chuck you away, no they make girls feel special and wanted and cared for, or thu could be honest and the girl is stupid enough to think that she will be the one to tie him down... Eventually girls learn... But they get a little broken in the process...As for talking to girls, the real girls (not the OMG LikE totally!! Types) are not differed than you... Human beings are human beings. Yes the majority of girls no matter the type don't like belching contests or knowing how long it took you in the bathroom, we are normal and like talking about movies and books and yes video games... The best advice is find a girl who's into similar things cause let's face it, if you go Go for the barbie types your not going to be able to hold a conversation about lipgloss...
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