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Advice on MFM threesome... I'm a little nervous.

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Question - (10 November 2007) 9 Answers - (Newest, 5 September 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am about to have my first MMF threesome with my boyfriend and another guy, both straight. I am a little nervous and just wondered can anyone give me some advice? Its all going to be at my pace, I wondered should I have the new guy first, then my guy or should I try and keep both happy. What about oral hygine? Is there a protocol I should follow. As I have instigated the whole thing I want my guy to have a good time too, he is totally up for it. My only fear is the new guy cumes too quickly. all replies apreciated.

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A female reader, susandont United Kingdom +, writes (5 September 2012):

susandont agony auntbefore entering anything make your own ground rules, know your mans inner feelings, talk with your man, find out why he would like you to have a threesome

with me,(my husbands a voyeur) my husband started off by asking how would I like it if he had more hands to caress me with, eventually I said I wanted more hands.

It took us months before we actually had a threesome, it was fun from the start, all the planning, flirting and when it happened it was awesome, Susan

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

So .... how did it go ?

Are you still together ?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008):

I am ninteen, my 1st boyfriend always made me feel comfortable by asking the new guy help him to massage me. they always removed my mini skirt, my bra and my panties together. in a way he was making me ready. he always guided the other guys cock to my mouth 1st by holding the tip in my mouth. then he will open my pussy lips with 3 fingers and then he will guide the other guys 10 inch cock very calmly to my open pussy. he always had the guy to come in my pussy 1st. then i lay on top of my bf and he rubbed all cum by my ass and lubricate me well. he will keep my hole open and the other guy fucked my ass. he said as long as he guides the cock i m his. after the 1st 2 hours he went to sleep next to us but his friends fucked me during 2 weeks on his boat. he told me if his friends dont get me to orgasem i should tell him to cut them off.

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A male reader, hmm... Norway +, writes (15 November 2007):

I agree with Eddie. if your guy is fine with this and you are nervous then think weather his fantasies are more important then you? He is fine sharing you with another guy, is he then the right one? also think more strategically about this. Once something becomes part of our experience we treat it as normal. Would you like this sort of experience to be normal for you and how can that influence your future?

Aske yourself what you really want in life and is this behavior leading you towards it? Simply think in advance

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (11 November 2007):

eddie agony auntThere is no guarantee about any type of hygiene or diseases. This is the risk you take when you enter this type of thing. People who do this are sexually liberal and quite possibly have been risk taker s in the past. Hence, you're in the high risk category for anything. I hope I didn't rain on your parade, it's just true. And, people will lie about anything when sex is involved so if the other guy tells you it's his first time....who really knows?

You are entering dangerous territory. I'd say that no matter what, the most important thing is to make sure your man feels like he is/was number one. Nothing will make him more upset than figuring out you prefer the other guy more than him. He's got this big fantasy in his head, as do you, reality is often different though. What happens the next time you're out with the ladies and you meet another guy you want o have sex with? What happens when your guy gets jealous about other men you just are friendly with. Once you let the genie out of the bottle, he's out. You're guy will have reason to suspect every guy you meet is a potential partner. And, he'll be correct because you've gone down that path. By the way, I'm not judging you either, just saying what is true. It sounds like an interesting fantasy. Is it a good reality though?

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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (11 November 2007):

hi

hope i am not too late but speaking from a guy part it won't make mucd diferance. a friend of mine ask me to have sex with his wife and him. they both undressed me and it just happened. we spent the next 4 hours doing anything that came to mind. let me know how you went. you will love it

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007):

Hi Honey, firstly are you sure this is what you really want to do? If no say no and leave with your dignity in tact. Sex of any sort is a very emotionaly demanding experiance as i am sure you will know by now. Are you ready for this? Have you thought it through properly? Make sure both guys wear a condom through the entire thing. Oral sex can still lead to certain STD's. Be careful! If you decide to go ahead don't worry about who to do first you will get swept away in the whole thing and it should come naturaly. Good Luck and please be careful!!

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A male reader, dipsea United States +, writes (10 November 2007):

Sounds like you have a very secure boyfriend to allow another male into his space. From a male perspective i'm gonna say take your time and make sure that both are appreciated. During the foreplay Don't be afraid to show the "new guy' that you enjoy not only how he feels but also how he looks. It'll be a big turn on to both. Absolutely please your man last. Good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007):

I have done the threesome thing, so I speak from experience. The first time we did it, I did the new guy first and then the old. It was so amazingly exciting everybody came really fast. I started out kissing and touching the new guy and when we both were ready to jump out of our skins from excitement he did me, all with old guy watching. But I will say that the very BEST way to do it is to give one a bj while the other is doing you. Having both at once is absolutely mindblowing. The two positions that I found worked well for this were: guy 1 lies down and you kneel over him while guy 2 does you from behind. Or: you lie on the edge of the bed, legs hanging off, while guy 1 stands on the floor and does you and guy 2 kneels over your face. You are entering dangerous territory here, relationship wise. I hope you two are up to it. If you are, you will have an amazing time.

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