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I'm in love with a girl who is in a relationship now. Should I tell her?

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Question - (10 November 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 12 November 2007)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im 16 and only had 1 gf in my life. im one of those "wait for the right person that i can spend the rest om my life with" type of person. it kinda sucks because if i go out with someone and they dump me(for being too nice?!), it's a long time before finding another girl i like, but thats just the way i am. well anyway, she is 15, and we r very close to one another. problem is she is in a relationship. i love her so much but dont want to mess up her present relationship. she is always telling me about him, and i just take it, even though it hurts me. but it's when i see them kissing that i really feel like i'm going to snap. i can't stop thinking about her and wish i could say something. can anyone help?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007):

Hey man, I know the feeling and it sucks. I have been in love with this girl for a while now and she has been seeing someone else for a couple years now. I wish I could just erase her from my mind because I do know several other girl that I have dated in the past... nothing wrong with them, they just aren't her.

Anyways, if I could have done this whole this over again here is what I would have done:

Tell her how you feel, be honest and direct, but not crazy about it. If she responds well, great. If not, don't bring it up again, but just be as close a friend as you can be to her. Dont try to break up her relationship with this other guy, dont talk bad about him, dont constantly tell her how you feel. Just be friend to her and if there is ever an opportunity because things dont work out with the other guy, you will be in good shape.

This is all assuming you really love this girl and cant imagine yourself with anyone else. If you can, just date other people and try to forget about her... but thats your call to make.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007):

If you like her then tell her girls like it when your honest with them! It may not work out right now because she is in a relationship but things change. If she can only see you as a friend(its hard i know from expierence) then be her best friend. Let her know even though you too want toataly different things you still want to be friends, and who knows maybe in a few years she'll see what a great guy you are, let her grow up a bit 15 is still really young. Always know there was someone made just for you!!!

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A male reader, just a guy United Kingdom +, writes (10 November 2007):

just a guy agony auntyehh i no how u feel wa u do is av u got msn u dont need it but just say that u like a girl dont her just say that you wont 2 go out wiv her. play with her a bit and then then say that u will say yes or no say a bit more about the girlever now and agen then just say that it is u and say that u cant help it and that be funny and all tell her she g8t and that she just the best flurt with her then ask if she think that u ever b 2 gether if she says no then just say o well cant help wthe way i feel dont tell any

trust me m8t that the best way just u didebt ask her out soo she dident say no she no u like her and 1 day she will be uoset u will be there and ushe wi;; fall in love with u or she mit saay she lyk u and u get with her =]

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