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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi Everyone,I am looking for advice for women with high sex drive. I have had a high libido since I was about 18 (although I didn't have sex until I was 21, and I have only had sex with one person, my ex-boyfriend). One of the reasons I left him was because I always felt rejected when he turned me down for sex. In my next relationship, I would love to have sex everyday, but my ex only wanted it once a week. I would be willing to compromise (i.e., every other day), but my self-esteem went way down after being turned down almost 90% of the time!Have other people on here (guys or girls) had this problem? How do you deal with it/compromise? Or is the trick to find someone with an equally high libido?Thanks!Ps. I know sex isn't everything! And that there are a lot of other important aspects to a good relationship. But I also think some compromise is important, when ever a couple disagrees about something, including sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2013): At your age and considering your history I wouldn't say you have a high libido. You probably just like sex but if it consumed you, drove you, wouldn't you have done it earlier, with more people?A difference between sexual desires is a classic, it is 90% of the jokes in "Married with children" and while the old line was that of the man wanting it and the woman having a headache reality is that lots of women find themselves wanting it more then their partner is willing/capable of supplying.Finding someone with who you can have the right amount of sex/intimacy (not all sex has to be the same) is probably one of the hardest things in a relationship.But it shouldn't be a compromise, both people should want it rather then the idea of one or either giving into other demands. A compromise follows out of a struggle, a debate. And that is a lousy starting point.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 July 2013):
I think there are two solutions to your problem. Find someone who is as horny as you are (once a day is totally normal), or learn to satisfy yourself in between sex.
Note that being rejected sucks for everyone. It has nothing to do with your desirability, it's just a difference in libido.
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