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writes:Okay so curiosity killed the cat... I'm really worried of what the outcome of this will be. So please any advice on how to handle this would help.Boyfriend of 2 years and me broke up. We have been seeing each other and things have been up and down...but we are still very much in love. Trust has been an issue for a while just because he has always been very sneaky. Well...we are still not together officially but ARE exclusive. too get to the point..I was suspicious and figured out how to get into his email address...the problem is...I had to change his password to get into it. I knew his security questions..I thought I changed it to something it would be but I dont think I did...I know he is going to check his email and since this is not the first time I have hacked into his personal stuff I know he will know it was me. I just dont want to make things worse and push him away.So should I fess up before he finds out? How do I go about doing it...or should I deny everything and act like I dont have a clue why he cannot log in? HELP!!!!!
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reader, sammy3  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 just tell him you wrote an email to your best friend and sent it to him by accident and didnt want him to read it so u hacked into his mail just to delete that email and your sorry u did it but it had to be done, just say there was privit girl stuff in it and also his name turned up and didnt want him to read it.
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reader, quiet-echo + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 First I'll address the 'sneaky' issue. You haven't provided us with any more information except to say that he is sneaky. So if he has not cheated or danced the line I'm going to say this 'sneakiness' may simply be a stronger need for personal space and privacy than you have.
There are a great many of us out there who have this same need and have never cheated on anyone. Some of us just aren't open books. It's not our style and we don't like someone using 'honesty' as a means of trying to control us or make us into something we're not.
Having said that, I suspect your boyfriend is going to be furious when he discovers you've hacked his account. Whether you admit to it or not, he's going to suspect you since you've done it before. Since discovery is inevitable I suggest you take the bull by the horns and tell him what you've done. If you want him to accept your apology don't dilute it with justifications. You snooped, you were wrong to do so, you're sorry. Period.
We spend so much time talking about love in relationships, but not enough recognizing courtesy and respect. Those ingredients are no less important.
Best of luck to you.
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