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writes:My boyfriend has been asking to have been wanting to have a 3some for the last 7 months. One with a girl and one with a boy. He have been talking about this female who would like to. But she was concern if I was sexually attracted to her. So we decided to have this 3some. From just start you could tell something was wrong. We did not have sex. He just had oral with both of us, we both had oral with him. When he ask her to go down on me she got upset and asked if I mind cause she did not want me to mess up the vibe. She went down on me and was upset cause he was rubbing and sucking I'm breast then I gave him oral while she gave me. Then she jump up gave him more oral. Then she jumped up and start to get dress. I talk to him later and he say that he should not ask me to do that when he knew I didt want to, but he wanted it so bad. Is he blaming me for it going bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the jelp everyone. No I diid not know this woman and I do beleieve that she wanted more of a twosome. I also believe that she wanted more and without me.She have called him and said that she feel that she did not get what she wanted out of the 3some. Then one night he gets a private call "Saying I know you're trying to gave sex with my woman". Then maybe a tom of hang ups. When he ask her she said that he went through her phone and found the number. So now she's calling and asking us to forgive her for that mistake. I told him to change his number and if he wants to stay with me he can not talk to her again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): If he is blaming you then he is selfish. It was his own fault for asking his girlfriend to do this for him. it sounds like your relationship already is severly damaged. When you bring a 3rd person into a relationship, it almost never lasts. If this relationship has any hope, I wouldn't do it again. If he wants it so bad that he is willing to kill your relationship for it, then maybe he needs to be single.
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reader, amenthyst3356 +, writes (27 June 2011):
I agree with youwish, I think the other girl was more attracted to your bf and thought this 3some would be more of a twosome with him and her.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (27 June 2011):
 The other girl was not feeling comfortable with the arrangement. She wanted out.
Not you fault. Your bf was pressuring you and her. It is OK to say NO.
He may be blaming you because it is easier than taking responsibility for asking for this threesome and making two other people feel awkward.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 June 2011):
 Sounds like it was the other woman who had the problem and was uncomfortable. He pressured her and she didn't like it. Also, her comment of "didn't want me to mess up the vibe" makes me wonder if she wasn't attracted to your boyfriend and more interested in him, otherwise, why would you mess up the vibe? A threesome has a threesome vibe. She wanted the twosome vibe.
So far, I don't think that he is wanting to be with just her. It's more likely that he was wanting to work out his own fantasy of girl on girl action as well as making sure you got pleasure too.
You'll have to work out the threesome fallout, that is for sure. I'd talk to him about that other girl's feelings for him. My opinion is that threesomes are more trouble than they're worth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): It sounds like he's blaming himself for pushing you to do something neither you, nor the other woman felt comfortable doing.
Hopefully he's learned something from all this.
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