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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Can I ask a question? I am at college and really enjoying it, however there is a girl in my class who is being bullied, she isn't very bright but is stunningly beautiful, and the other girls in the class talk behind her back saying stuff like, "ugly slut, fat b*tch" ect. Even though she's not fat! Not aware if she hears that though, but whenever she input s in class they all roll their eyes, or scoff, but we are at the same level there to learn. I'm sure she came back from lunch and was crying today, should I try to help her? Befriend her or even speak to the lecturer about what I have observed, it is just the girls who do this in the class and all I can think of it is because she's pretty, why treat someone like that for nothing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2014): Befriend her, and take it from there. I think it's really lovely that you care for her and try to help her, but just befriend her and treat her equally, don't make her feel like a victim and get to know any background story, if there is one.
I really wish there were more people like you in this world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2014): Clearly they are insecure with this pretty girl based on your observation.There are really some people who are born to become a villain. Its possibly they wish they are as pretty as this girl you mention.Or so many other qualities she has that they wish they have. When i was in grade school i happen to have a celebrity school mate. She was very pretty, always on tv commercial for milk or any kids product you could probably tell. But not everyone are happy about it.Especially the popular feeling mean n beautiful girls. So they bullied her. Teased her, even sung lice, lice so many lice. She happen to have a shampoo commercial about lice. The poor little girl just cried n cried.Then her mom heard about it. She spoke to the principal and still nothing happen.But the good news is all of those things are from the past. Now that girl they bullied is one of the highest paid actress and currently earning millions in a year.The girls who bullied her? I saw one of them by accident at a mall and she looks old and ugly. I didnt even recognized if she didnt call me. She said i still look almost the same.Talking about karma has its own way to pay back for what you did bad against other people. So dont worry about your friend, i bet shes also smart. Pretty n smart will take her somewhere a far better place...One day.... For Sure.Your a very good kind hearted person btw. For that im sure u get a reward from God. As for the insecure people from school, they will also pay the price. For sure.
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reader, ShakeWutUrMamaGaveYou +, writes (6 September 2014):
Hi Y/n,
These girls are just bullying her because they're jealous and they're trying to make themselves feel better. So be her friend, and ask her if she wants to tell.
Good luck!
xxx!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2014): Write an anonymous email or letter to the authorities to keep an eye out for the behaviour of those girls to her.
Or you can tell them directly to shut their faces and have some respect.
It all depends on how far you want to go.
You see bullies are exceptionally good at turning things around on people who challenge them.
If they know you're doing something about this they'll claim you're victimising them and if they outnumber you their sob stories will be the ones the authorities will go with.
An anonymous letter or report that allows lecturers etc. to keep an eye out and see to it for themselves would be irrefutable. The only problem is it could make more trouble for this girl as they may think she set them up and as you well know they'll easily be able to target her online outside of the confines of college.
So you kind of need her consent.
Problem is, OP she may not actually be bullied. There's always a dumbass or annoying person in college that answers every question but gets it wrong, or the mature student who questions everything from a strange irrelevant viewpoint. They may be very careful not to directly victimise her. Talking behind someone's back is not bullying and scoffing at someone or rolling your eyes when they can't see isn't either.
If you're worried about her befriend her, become an ally and find out, without telling her what they say about her, if she feels victimised.
OP you're a woman, you know as well as anyone women in groups are cliquey bitches. Obviously not all women are, but there's always a catty group of snobs.
Get to know the girl before you make any assumptions about her experiences in college. Who knows she may have shagged all their boyfriends one night or something, you just don't know people's histories.
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