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writes:Was very much in love with my high school sweetheart, we broke up after being together 3 1/2 years. We both went on with our lives and got married. I am recently divorced after 22 years of a unhealthy marriage. Never forgot my highschool sweetheart and always dreamed of him when I was married. Found my highschool sweetheart on facebook and just began talking general conversation of what we both were doing with our lives now days and that lead to talking everyday and he told me that he never stopped loving me and I told him the same which was very true and from the heart, however I never knew he still loved me....he was the one who broke off the relationship. Now this is 26 years later that we are talking and have found each other and he is still married. We have been talking for almost 3 mos now.....he doesn't hate his wife but he is not in love with her, they have no common interest and do nothing together.....he has kissed another woman once since they have been married and now has been with me. He is unhappy but doesn't want to hurt her or make his boys resent him, boys are 16 and 20. Is it wrong to want to be with the person I have loved all of my life and he stills loves me? Is it crazy to wait to see what happens with his marriage?
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (3 July 2010):
I think we all gave you good advise! now it's up to you to make the right decision! but do it for you and the rest will follow make your life good and good choices and you will see in time you will once again be happy find a single man or heck he will find you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): If he's a good person he wouldn't be kissing other women while married or telling an ex-gf that he loves her while married. If he was a "good man" he'd try to work it out with his wife and be there for HER or get a divorce so she can find someone who actually gives a damn about her.
It's been 26 years. He'-s not the BOY you remember from Highschool he's the Cheating MAN now.
Stop pining over him. If you were pining over this Ex that could have been a reason your marriage ended aside from whatever other issues you faced. You need to move on.
Here's the thing. Even if he says he's afraid of hurting his wife and family If he was really over his wife and really loved you, as he claims, he wouldn't be hurting You, would he? But he is by being with his wife. I think you really need to move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWEll Just came out of a ugly marriage myself and to talk to him was wonderful and something I had waited for....for 26 years, was great just to know he even still cared......but I am just enjoying talking to him for now trying to not fall too hard.....If anyone out there has ever been separated from a true love they could relate if not it is really hard to understand.....He is a good person and does not want to wreck his family and loves his boys and does not want them to hate him......I guess time will be the only thing that will tell in this situation.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Seriously thats always the excuse "I'm Going to leave my wife" we both know its not true dont lead yourself into another heartbreak!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Hi - Do not do it - please. STOP - been there - done that - mistake. Think of his wife - she is most likely in the dark. He is just taking advantage of the moment and you being willing. HE IS MARRIED -- tell him to end his marriage and call you when he has divoce papers.
You desrve better and so does his wife.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (30 June 2010):
Well i myself do not believe in coming in between a marriage until it is over. just put the shoe on the other foot and she was doing it to you? you will get caught up in a web of diaster, and it will be harder for you to break it off if he never leaves his wife and 99% percent don't they just want something different? and to me that is not a man i would want in my life! if he can hurt her just think how he can hurt you? why don't you just leave it alone and tell him if and when you get a divorce look me up if im still available! he has no respect for you himself or his wife to be doing any us this it's wrong.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 June 2010):
You need to back away from this guy and let him make his own decision. Married men can be brilliant at lying and telling unsuspecting women what they want to head before using them. He is a married man, he has kids and a wife. No matter how much he says he doesn't love his wife, he is still with her and hasn't left. He'll say that's for the sake of his boys, but that's an excuse. He could have left. Unless he leaves, trying to move forward with him in your life will be a waste of time. You'll just end up hurt.
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