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writes:Hi everyone. My question is more to satisfy my curiosity than anything. I have been interested in spanking for as long as I can remember and although I'm not open with everyone about it, I have opened up to my last two partners. In a recent conversation with a work friend while on our lunch break, spanking came up and out of embarrassment I pretended not to know anything about it personally and even pretended to think that spanking was BDSM. She was surprised that I'd made that assumption and said that they're not at all the same. It's got me wondering if she might be into spanking. My question is, are there any ways that I can subtly try to get some more clues because I would love to actually know someone in person who is into it? I don't want to be invasive by just asking but I kind of want to know just for my own curiosity. Reply to this Question
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (16 December 2019):
 WiseOwl is oh so right with his advice. You really don't want to be talking about sexual matters at work. There's an expression "The walls have ears". You really have no idea who might overhear your conversation or parts of it and broadcast it all over the place. You could get yourself in trouble or have all kinds of rumors start about you or even have men start hitting on you for all the wrong reasons. Go online to a reputable site and read about it. There's plenty of info out there you just need to invest a little time and effort. Work is for work...don't get yourself into a situation that doesn't need to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2019): Oh no, please use your common-sense! Your job is not the place to bring-up sexual-topics; and if you brought it up with partners, you're speaking to the people in the best position to go there. Chatting this kind of stuff at work can turn on you.
Others catch wind of what they feel to be inappropriate or offensive conversation; and you'll find your bum explaining yourself in Human Resources. Even worse, end-up getting unwanted passes from a detestable creep who will run and tell everybody what he heard you talking about!
Go online and you'll find more than you'll need to know. I don't suggest porn sites; you might get harmful viruses on your device, and a lot more visual information than you need. Bedroom conversation belongs in the bedroom with your sex-partner!
Honeypie's suggestion of an online forum dedicated to the topic is even better. If you do, don't exchange personal-information or pics with online strangers, you'll regret it! It's stupid to do that!
Turn-on your filters at work, always think before you speak, and look for answers about sex-play in the right places.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2019): If you're close enough to have this deeply inappropriate conversation at work, can you not just ask her about it?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 December 2019):
 Honestly?
If think you would probably get more info if you look for an online forum (and I BET you can find a lot of like minded people).
Now if you rather ask this coworker, then JUST tell her, you know you got me curious when you talked about the spanking thing and I have a few questions, IF you are OK with that? Though, DO this when it's just you two alone.
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