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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is significantly older than myself. We go to bars together and women significantly older than both of our ages added together usually gravitate to us and begin random conversations. In these conversations, they tend to be overly flirtatious with him, which in no way makes me uncomfortable... until last call, when he suggests that we all should go to the only decent DC strip club, "Camelot". I wasn't really bothered until it happened the second time. We have never been to a strip club together, and he is adamant about us not going by ourselves. I'm not exactly sure what to think, although I do feel offended. Is this appropriate???
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Its appropriate if you say it is.Its not if you say its not. Talk to your boy friend and explain how you feel.Tell him what you are and are not comfortable with.If you have never been and don`t feel comfortable going with these random women tell him so.If you might be up for the idea if it was just you and him tell him that.Forbidding him going all together puts a little to much of a chain on it then I would advise. But not wanting him to go with these women is acceptable. Remember that the boundaries in a relationship are set by those involved.Be open and express yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): I don't see anything wrong with it. If he went on his own you'd be worried about it - or would you?
Reminds me of my ex-mother-in-law. She came over from Santa Monica to visit us in Plymouth in the 1970's and we took her to the Pussycat Club on Union Street. A travelling salesman 'trapped' the m-i-l and took her back to the Holiday Inn where he was staying. Didn't see her for two days. Two whole blissful days! She came back with a smile on her face though, which made a nice change.
Why not go with him just to see what it's all about? You don't have to go a second time if you don't like it.
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