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writes:Hi,Im 16 and i recently experienced my first sexual intercorse. I found it to be really uncomfortable and i didnt enjoy it. I never experienced an orgasm and neither did my partner, is this normal ?I experienced a lot of pain after it also, like when walking. I have also been to my local clinic to be check out for STD ot STI's because i believe i had some of the symptons, they came back negitive. I'v not did it since then, im scared to, to be honest. Is this normal ?Please help me out.Thank you x
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reader, Me and Jaysea  +, writes (30 May 2009):
i was 14 when i lost my virginity, i didn't like it much because it hurt and yes it hurt to walk for a few days after, no i didn't orgasm and neither did he, he seemed to enjoy it but cause he wanted it again the next time i saw him, i was so scared cause i thought it was gonna hurt again!so i didn't want to do it with him and he got annoyed at me, but once we talked about it he realized that i was just scared so he did everything to make me feel more comfortable. in the end i did feel more relaxed which meant it didn't hurt but i found for the first couple of times of having sex that it did hurt me, all you need to do is relax and take your time, if you don't feel right doing it then obviously it isn't the right time in your life to be having sex or you are not with the right person,if you think you are with the right person take things slow and yes as the person below me said massage and/or lube it up a bit, after i got over the first few times (and when i say few i mean two or three)you will enjoy it i know i did, roles were switched and it was me who was wanting more sex!!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (29 May 2009):
 Its normal to feel pain after intercourse for the first time. Don't be worried! And as for orgasms! Well, not many women orgasm through sex alone, it can be achieved but its rare, try clitoral stimulation. Masturbate and you'll soon find how to make yourself orgasm and then teach your partner! Its going to take a while but you'll get there. It may have also felt uncomfortable as it was first time nerves, if you're nervous your vagina will tighten slightly, this may have caused the pain. Don't be afraid, keep trying! The worst is over with. Just be comfortable with your partner, maybe get him to massage you before foreplay? And maybe use additional lube? X
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