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writes:i have been with my fiance' for over two years now and we just found out were having a baby.we have been on and off for uite some time and i think its because i don't want to loose what we had when we actually had it.... everythin that goes wrong is my fault and i don;lt know how to change it... i feel scared to be alone and with the new coming of a baby this just isn;t the time to experiment on relationships... i get so mad at every little thing and i can't seem to stop it.. i take it out on him but i also take it out on my self wayy more. like i walk home 2 miles rather then get a ride from him.... i also feel helpless without him and don;t know if i can make it on my own... i don;t have a job and im 18 and pregant,.. should i stay with him and work things out or shall i say so long to something i feel can never be fixed.....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 If your heart is not in the relationship then there is no point staying together because there is a baby on the way because it will just drive the both of you further apart. You both need to sit down and talk through everything and you need to be completely honest with him and tell him exactly how you feel. The both of you need to be open and honest and try to see if the relationship can be saved. If after you have both worked on it and you feel it is a waste of time. Then you need to end it. I know you are scared but you wont be on your own, just because the both of you arent together doesnt mean he is not the father. He will still have responsibilties when it comes to the baby and he will still need to support his child financially.
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reader, pinkcandy2  +, writes (23 February 2011):
First of all congratualtions on being pregnant! Finding out you are pregnant is always a shock and you will find that you have mixed feelings which chop and change every day!! When you are pregnant your hormones play havoc with your emotions, crying one minute, happy the next, then angry, its all very normal. You say you get mad at little things, i can sympathise with you as i was once like this, and not so long ago. What made me stop is..... thinking is being mad all the time making me happy? is it making things any easier? would it be easier to let the things that usually make you go off the handle just pass you by? It's about learning to control your emotions, this is easier said then done, especially now you are pregnant, and it is a full time job. I don't know if you are into reading, im not, but i borrowed a book off a friend called 'the power' by rhonda byrne. Please read it, even if you only read a few chapters, it really helped me learn to control how i handle my emotions and how i treat the people around me. As for your relationship with your bf, you may find that your relationship becomes happier when you are happier in yourself, if not maybe it is time to go your seperate ways. But don't do that without trying first, you are with this guy for a reason, try to remember what attracted you to him in the first place. You have been blessed with a baby, whether you are a single mum or with your boyfriend your baby needs love. you didn't say is your bf happy about you being pregnant?
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reader, pinkcandy2 +, writes (23 February 2011):
First of all congratualtions on being pregnant! Finding out you are pregnant is always a shock and you will find that you have mixed feelings which chop and change every day!! When you are pregnant your hormones play havoc with your emotions, crying one minute, happy the next, then angry, its all very normal. You say you get mad at little things, i can sympathise with you as i was once like this, and not so long ago. What made me stop is..... thinking is being mad all the time making me happy? is it making things any easier? would it be easier to let the things that usually make you go off the handle just pass you by? It's about learning to control your emotions, this is easier said then done, especially now you are pregnant, and it is a full time job. I don't know if you are into reading, im not, but i borrowed a book off a friend called 'the power' by rhonda byrne. Please read it, even if you only read a few chapters, it really helped me learn to control how i handle my emotions and how i treat the people around me. As for your relationship with your bf, you may find that your relationship becomes happier when you are happier in yourself, if not maybe it is time to go your seperate ways. But don't do that without trying first, you are with this guy for a reason, try to remember what attracted you to him in the first place. You have been blessed with a baby, whether you are a single mum or with your boyfriend your baby needs love. you didn't say is your bf happy about you being pregnant?
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