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writes: i am a young girl i am only 16 and going with a 32 year old and dont no what to do its got really seriouse be asked me 2 be his fiancee and i said yes cos wanted to but now i not to sure i only young plus he is wanting to marry me and all that its going really fast.please help!!!!!!!! thank you
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reader, Shannon  +, writes (11 September 2006):
hiya hunni,I was in the same situation once. When i was 14 i got talkin to a guy on msn and we stayed good mates until i was 16, there was nothin sexual or anythin but we would always tell each other that we loved each other. He was 28, but we loved each other loads.When i was 16 we was still loads in love and i was with him til i was 18. we got engaged when i was 16 and he loved me more than anyone ever did. He respected me and done everything for me. We was gonna get married when i was 20, but he was killed in a car crash 3 days after my 18th birthday. i still love him and i always will. I have got another boyfriend now. I am 19, he is 20, but he will never take the place of my ex. i cant even call him my ex, he was and still is the love of my life.if you really do love this man, hang in there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): In the US this man would be arrested. Chances are he is a pediphile. Who in their right mind would date a child of 16yrs old when they are 32 years old. He has lived life and is too mature for you. As soon as you get to the age of maturity he will leave you for another little girl. He is attracted to children which is down right scary. I work in child protective services and in the US we consider children to be under the age of 18yrs old and unable to consent. That's statutory rape. DO your parents know that this man has been approaching you? Enjoy you r life hon don't let this man rape you of your youth. You will grow tired of him once you reach 18 . Please enjoy your youth. Once its gone you can never get it back.
Very Concerned!!!
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reader, camille +, writes (22 August 2006):
 When he was your age, you weren't even born, doesn't that sound bad? Hmmm, I think you should do some living of your own life before handing it over to someone twice your age. You can't help who you fall in love with, but at 16, yes I think it's too young to be thinking about marriage to anyone, especially a so called mature man who if truly loves you would understand that this is bad timing. Wait until you are older and the age gap will close in terms of maturity and life experience. No offence to anyone of any age in this situation, but the majority of 16 year olds THINK they know what's best but at that tender age, they are easily led and the thought of indepence, love and happy ever after is more than appealing. It's rare in reality. The older partners should wise up, grow up and realise that they're being blinded by the situation. Personally I find it very disturbing that adults are keen and happy to get engaged to someone who may still be a child on the inside. What's the rush, they've literally got SO much time! Their minds (let alone their bodies) aren't finished developing and growing.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 Don't get married so young. Marriage is a HUGE decision, and at your age you really don't have enough life experience to make that decision. I don't mean to sound condescending or negative, but at your age you are right in the middle of working out who you are, what you want out of life, and what your needs are.
Most importantly, don't let him pressure you into something you don't want or aren't ready for. Given your huge age difference it is easy for him to make the decisions in your relationship. This is one decision that is YOURS, not his.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (21 August 2006):
 Why dont you trusy him?
I am 29, my fiancee is 16, we got engaged becuase we both felt this was the right step to take.
I have been in loads of relationships with women my own age, yet this is the happiest I have ever been in my life and I love her more than I have ever loved anybody.
I think this guy feels the same way I do, if you explain to him how you feel, I am sure he will understand.
If he does really love you, he would wait forever before asking you to become his fiancee.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): I agree with Baby Girl's advice! You are MUCH too young to be dating a man of 32. He should know better than to ask you to get engaged, LET ALONE be dating you in the first place! He should be interested in women his own age, who are more "equal" to him.
I only mean by that that you have a lot of maturing to do -only natural at 16 - and discovering who you are and what you want from life.
Where are your parents and family in all this? Do they know what's going on? They should be the ones you turn to, because I don't like the sound of this man, and I don't think he's to be trusted, either.
Tell him "NO" and then refuse to see or talk to him again!
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