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writes:Im 16(virgen) my boyfriend his 20(not a virgin), we have dun about evrything,but im to scared to have sex with him. His also scared he dosent wanna get into trouble, and his scared to get me pregnat. I dont know what to do, what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, YESENiiA16 +, writes (21 January 2009):
YESENiiA16 is verified as being by the original poster of the question We r thinkn of the consequens... N if we do have sex we know how 2 protect r selfs... yeah he wants 2 wait until am 18 so dat we can do wt we want... i know he can get in trouble, he has my parents permision 2 b wit me i know dat dnt matter 2 the law bt 2 me it do...
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reader, YESENiiA16 +, writes (21 January 2009):
YESENiiA16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni love him dats y im wit him evn if his 2 old. idk y bt it scares dat his ganna go in me. i know he wnt well i think he wnt bt the reason im scared is wt if he leavs me after i give it up 2 him?
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reader, Chata +, writes (21 January 2009):
 If you're scared to do it, you're probably not ready.
Wait until you're comfortable with doing it. As for the pregnancy thing, if he is experienced, he should very well know that protection is necessary and a lot of the time, effective. There are many different forms of protection, so when you're ready to go down that road, explore your options.
But if you're really that scared, don't.
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (21 January 2009):
 he's not too old for you, and it's good that he's anxious about getting you prggers, etc. so i'm guessing he respects you. talk to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Easy, just wait 'til you're both comfortable doing it, there's nothing that says you have to have sex, keep doing the other stuff and find new ways of doing them. When you are both ready, do two things: research the legal age of consent for your state and secondly research contraception. Simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): First of all, let me say; use protection. If you are scared about getting pregnant that is the logical way to approach sex. There is an age difference between you two, so you need to take that into account. Think about it; if you want to have sex, have sex. Make sure you're ready, though. There is nothing forcing you to have sex. If you're satisfied with the relationship you already have, stay where you're comfortable. But if you really want to have sex, and you think you're ready, let him know that you are. Then both of you will feel safer. The main thing is to communicate; talk about it. If he knows that you're ready, he won't be as nervous about getting in trouble. When you feel comfortable with taking the next step, do it. Let him know. Don't just dive into something you don't want to do.
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reader, jimmym +, writes (21 January 2009):
First of all, why are you with a 20 year old? He's too old for you, your only 16. 4 years isn't that much, but when your that young, its a lot.. Why would he be afraid of getting you pregnant? If you were to go ahead with it, wouldn't you be safe? If he is planning on not being safe, that means he isn't respecting you, not only that he is too old for you...
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