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writes:hi, im a 14, and my boyfriends 18. i know alot of people think its weird, sick, wrong, etc. but i really like him, and we were friends for months before he asked me out. the thing is, one of my friends told me that hes lik a pedo.. i dont thiink its true. just for dating me, does tht make him a pedo? is what we're doing wrong? i'd just rly appriciate some advice on wat to do in tthis situation. kay thanks(: Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): heya in 14 too and lie this 18 year old guy , but dont think he likes me back, in a way i know its wrong and and not rite, but i dont think u can help hu u fall for, but some 18 yr olds onli go for 14 yr old gurls , coz the 18 yr olds think we are easy and we will do wot ever they want us to, i think its is classed as pedophillia if u have sexual contact with the fella in tht case he can b taken to court, :( ssorry im kinda split :S, if i was 18 i wudnt c a 14 yr old, but yet i expect an 18 yr old to c me its all very confusing .. good luck chick x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Holly just wait, you will change so much in four years. Do you really think 18 year olds are on the same level as 14 year olds? that's insulting! When you're 18, you will look at school kids and wonder why anyone your age want a relationship with them.
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reader, nickie123 +, writes (15 April 2009):
 no don't believe that your friend is just jealousy of you well honey guys like you for a reason probably;y your cute and maybe you seem mature for your age iv been through the same exact thing but in the other way it could be dangerous for you dating a 18 year can HE WAIT 4 MORE YEARS THAT WHAT Think true love is sacrificing and taken time cause next think you know e will want to take it to the next level i am not saying you guys cant be together just talk to him and remind him that your a kid okay hoped i helped :)
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reader, NightLad  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Hi there,No, pedophiles are attracted to pre-pubescent children. As a 14 year old, you don’t qualify. ;) That said, an ephebophile is somebody who is attracted in mid-to-late (pubescent) adolescents. However, I don’t think it’s fair to label him just yet! If he were just interested in you as part of an unhealthy fetish or sexual kink, than I doubt he’d have spent months as a platonic friend before asking you out.As your friend demonstrated, the difference in age will be hard for some people to overcome. During childhood and teenage years a single year in age difference can mean a lot, although generally speaking it greatly depends on the people in the relationship. The differences in your ages may not make the relationship dynamic ‘common’, but it is certainly not unheard of.The most important thing is for you to realize that there -is- an age difference, and with that, perhaps a level of expectation on his part that may differ from your ability or willingness to match in a relationship.What I’m saying is that you must both honestly talk to one another about the type of romantic relationship you realistically foresee. Also consider that he is at an age when his life is about to shoot forward in any number of directions, and may take him far away. Just keep mindful of the facts. If you both happen to be on the same page in what you foresee in a relationship together, than more power to you.As for any legalities of your relationship, I advise you to research the laws of your State. You can find a list of them here:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_AmericaI hope this helps.PS: Just so I know you have the information; http://sexualityandu.ca/
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Dating a man of 18 when you are a child of 14 is not wrong in some ways but you have to remember that there are laws. If you are just dating this man, you are doing nothing wrong in the eys of the law. However, if you sleep with this man, you are breaking the law in most countries and he would be the one to get in trouble and go to jail as he would be trialed as an adult and all the responsibility would be placed on his shoulders.Please tread carefully with this man, date him by all means but don't get physical with him. If its meant to be, it will be worth waiting a couple of years for intimacy and you will both be less likely to get into any trouble.I was 15 dating an 18 year old once, we were together for almost 4 years, so hang in there, but be careful.xxx
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