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*iger7478
writes:My husband and I have been together for 7 years, 4 of which we have been married. When we first got together we did not want children. He already has a 17 year old son, and had a bad experience when his son was born. Over the last three years I have changed my mind. I guess it is the maternal clock ticking. I really want children now, and he still doesn't. He has told me that he would try, just to make me happy until the end of the year. I have been having problems with fertility issues. Now I am ovulating and can not get him interested in having sex with me now. Should I just drop the baby making issue's and go back to the way things were before I wanted a baby?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Good luck hunni :)
Hope things work out!
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reader, tiger7478 +, writes (13 August 2007):
tiger7478 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate your advice. My husband and I have very lengthy conversations on this issue. We have a very good relationship and I am not willing to change things until he is 100 percent comfortable. It is not worth risking our relationship. I am hoping that I can reassure him on this issue. I remember when we first got together he said that he would never get married. And here we are, 4 years married and he says it is the best thing he has ever done. Well one can hope. I'm just not getting any younger.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (12 August 2007):
I wouldn't just drop the issue hun. I would sit down and have a very serious heart-to-heart with your husband. Find out what his fears are about having more kids. Whatever happened the first time round may not happen again.
It's not fair for you to give up something you want because he now isn't interested. It may be he's scared and needs some reassurance or something. A compromise will have to be made, or a decision on if he is determined not to have more kids and you really want them could you leave him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): No, don't settle for someone who is going to take away your right as a woman to have children. That is what us women were put here on the planet to do. You have maternal instincts, and there is no way you can deny those. You hubby is being a jerk, he already has a kid and men don't generally care as much as women do about having kids. Imagine when you're older, you'll never have your kids, and you'll never be a grandma. That is really sad. Who will you have?? Don't settle for this, if it's what you want maybe you should leave & find a man your own age who wants the same thing as you. I just had a baby 4 mo. ago & it is the best experience I have ever had. Yes it gets hard at times but I am very glad that I have my baby girl to smile at me every day.
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