A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My friend is worried that she is becoming addicted to masturbation/internet porn. She believes in only sleeping with men she loves which has been torturous for her at times since she has a very high sex drive so when there was no man she would masturbate to release the sexual tension. (She has only slept with 2 men in her 31 years with a gap of 10 years between them). The thing is she has spent more of her years self-pleasuring than she has in forming meaningful relationships with men in which to make love. She thinks she started viewing internet porn to make masturbation more interesting. She realised internet porn was beginning to take over her life when 1 day over the last weekend she spent the whole day viewing internet pornography. She would like to still view internet porn, but at an acceptable and much reduced level. She has had an awful time with men and despairs of ever finding a decent man. In fact, she has always found it hard to trust and form relationships with men, particularly after her last experience of being emotionally abused, and yet here she is viewing this stuff. I think she finds her life boring and this adds a bit of fantasy to it. She says she has so many dreams she wants to fulfil but she is becoming sucked into this addiction which is taking up her time and is surely skewing her view of men still further. Apart from counselling, which she is doing, what strategies can she employ to stop herself when she gets the urge to view internet porn?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 She could get rid of her computer, put it in storage somewhere. She could find a new hobby that she is interested in. Just stay busy busy busy. As long as she is getting counseling that is.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (21 May 2007):
 Viewing porn is just the same as smoking or comfort eating or drinking in overcoming. Here is three pieces of advice that we used to give people to stop smoking when I worked in a pharmacy. It might seem irrelevant but I think your friend can probably use a lot of it.
1. Choose a day to quit and stick to it.
2. Work out what times of day you especially feel the urge and find something else to occupy yourself with then.
3. Find something else to do with your hands, like knitting or writing so that they're occupied.
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