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writes:For most of the childhood and as an adult, i have been craving for affection from women, as i did not get it from my emotionally closed mother. As a result, i have groomed my personality to be one that is attractive to women. In the process, i get subjected to intense social pressure to sleep with women, and this is not intended or invited from my side. All i am looking for is some decent love, affection and nurture. How do i get the message across clear? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (2 May 2007):
 In what ways have you groomed your personality? Do you mean that you are telling women what they WANT to hear? You are in your 30's now so you should be confident enough to be able to say no to any pressure put upon you to sleep with a woman. YOU have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore YOU control your feelings so YOU are in charge of your mind, no one else!
You say "this is not invited from my side" but you also just said that you have groomed your personality. Could it be that you are sending out the wrong messages to these women? You need to start grooming your mind in a different way. Next time you are in conversation with a woman, TELL HER that you have a lot of respect for and admire a woman who has good morals and doesn't want to just jump into bed at the first instant. Let them know that is a total turn off to you. Maybe then you'll be able to see the women who are worth knowing and want the kind of relationship you seek compared to the women who just want to have sex or a one night stand with you.
They are out there, you just have to sift through them but be choosy and don't give in to your emotions and sexual urges to quickly next time.
Eve
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (2 May 2007):
I think you need to say to anyone who preassures you, that you have had enough of sleeping with woman you dont know. Woman will like that you want a proper relationship. The best way to get the message across, is to say the message outright to people. Just tell them, firmly, and dont give in to any pressure. If you want to talk more about this you can always message me. x
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