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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I really love when my boyfriend fingers me, and performs oral sex on me. For some reason, I have never orgasmed before. Is there something wrong with me? How do I achieve orgasm?
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reader, Dr. Mark  +, writes (2 May 2007):
I don't know if you are the same person who asked this question at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-never-orgasmed-while-being-fingered-or.html.
If you want to orgasm, the best thing for you to do is masturbate. You may not achieve it right away, but masturbation is key to learning your body and what feels good. You don't have the anxiety that can come with being with another... wondering what they are thinking, etc. Just take the time for yourself, and masturbate often.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): you are normal, i'm 22 and i've been having sex with my boy friend for 2years but i never reach orgasim, so i think its normal theres no need to sweat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): Well, you are too young to be sexually active, and you may be uncomfortable with the relationship and the new found intimacy that you are not emotionaly ready for. Orgasms are created from your mind and your emotional connection and maturity in your relationship. I seriously doubt that your boyfriend is taking care of your emotional needs. Boys of that age are only interested in having sex with their girl friends, girls on the other hand need emotionsl nourishment in order to feel safe enough to let go.
By the way, I hope you have visited an ob gyn doctor to discuss birth control, how to protect yourself from stds and cervical cancer, which you are at a greater risk of contracting due to having sex at a very young age.
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reader, peaches4ever31 +, writes (2 May 2007):
no there is nothing wrong with you. every person achieves an orgasm but it comes at different stages in a persons life. some times to learn what an orgasm is, you need to experiment on yourself see what way you like to b fingered, an try using a dildo, sometimes that helps
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reader, maryann61181 +, writes (2 May 2007):
 You don't know your body well enough. Before anyone else is intimate with you, you need to understand your own self. To be blunt - masterbate. This is the only way you will be able to know how to orgasm. Once you understand this, then you show the person who you are intimate with how to do it. They are not going to know unless you tell them. Everyone's body is different. You should ask your doctor if you are still unable to achieve this. This doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you, but it also may be a good idea to ask your doctor these questions and to let them know that you are or are planning on becoming sexually active.
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