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writes:I've become interested - romantically - in a girl I know is asexual.For a few days it was brilliant, but now I'm starting to feel that I don't understand relationships beyond it being a close trusting friendship with sex.Any advice?I do see real potential for something to develop with her, even if it takes time.Part of me thinks it's crazy, but I'm generally a self-doubter. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe're trying to work things out now.
I am giving her space to see how she feels about romance, as I seem to be the first person she's ever thought she might have romantic feelings for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): To me, a relationship involves both emotional and physical closeness. Both people love each other, and when one of you needs support the other gives it in a way that meets the needs of the one being supported.As for the physical side of the relationship, take the time to think about what it is that you really want from her. Then talk to her about what she's willing to do for you. Asexual people can run the gamut from not wanting to be touched at all, to not being interested in sex but agreeing to participate for their partner's sake.Relationships between asexual people and non-asexual people can work, but both partners' needs have to be met.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know she's asexual because she told me.
No - I can do without sex.
But what I'm questioning is how I define a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): If you're really sure about this girl, but still worried about sex, it's your call. Many asexuals still sleep with their partners-- however, it's entirely for the other's benefit and probably not something that happens often.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 November 2012):
 YOU know she's asexual how?
and ya know being truly asexual is very rare... what makes you say this about her?
if she is truly asexual all the time in the world will not change that... it's how she is.
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