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writes:Over the past couple of months I have been out with a guy every week or so - meals, days out. We always have a lot of fun and lots of laughter.About a year before we met, he had come out of a very long relationship. So when we first met we agreed that we would develop a friendship together first, and no romance was talked about at that time. But two months down the line he is becoming flirty and touches me more, and a few days ago he said that he would like to take me out for a candle-lit dinner. At at the moment I am just going with the flow, and following his lead, and enjoying his company, and trying not to expect anything from him. I really like this guy and could easily fall for him, so would dearly love to know whether he thinks that we could have a romantic future together.My question is, how long should I wait before I ask him if he sees any possibility of us having a proper romantic relationship in the future? Two months feels too soon and too pushy, but I am growing fonder and fonder of him and would like to know where I stand.Thank you all so much :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2015): Hello, I am the OP. Thank you both for your responses.
I will wait for the candlelit dinner and see what happens.
And how strange that Janniepeg mentioned the possibility of another woman... I know that he has a female friend who he's known longer than me and who he also sees, but I have no idea how they feel about each other nor how often he sees her. I don't like to ask as I feel that it's way too soon for me to be quizzing him, especially as we started this as "just friends".
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reader, devont +, writes (6 September 2015):
 I would see how the candle lit dinner goes. That sounds like a date to me and should give you a good idea of where he sees your relationship going.
If it's still not clear, you can either just wait it out and see if he talks about dating, or you could start the conversation. I don't think two months is too soon, I think that's the right amount of time to start talking about whether you are friends or a couple or what.
I hope it works out for you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 September 2015):
 You can just ask if you are the only woman he is seeing. There is always a possibility so the answer is yes. A candlelit dinner is a serious thing so I guess that conversation would unfold naturally without you asking. If he doesn't talk about exclusivity or avoids that subject, you could assume that he's just dining you to get into your pants. I don't think two months is too soon and pushy by the way.
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