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I got married in Vegas on 7-7-07. I live in central NJ but am well-traveled and have been in many long term relationships. I've studies psychology, philosophy. I had high honors in my science classes. I have a very analytical mind. I can be a little harsh with the truth, but I always just call it as I see it. That you can count on me for. |
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I'm in love with two people...
Q. Help, I think that I'm in love with two people. I'm a 23 year old single mom. I first got involved with this 33 year old who now wants to marry me after a very abusive relationship with my child's father. He has a great job and everything going for ...
A. 2 May 2007: Yeah, as I said you would loose your freedom with him, but after reading this its obvious he wants total control. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with two people...
Q. Help, I think that I'm in love with two people. I'm a 23 year old single mom. I first got involved with this 33 year old who now wants to marry me after a very abusive relationship with my child's father. He has a great job and everything going for ...
A. 2 May 2007: Well it depends on how good the support you have is already. Is your living conditions adequate and so on for you and your child? If its not then its a no brainer to go w. the 33 yr old. However, with being 'taken care of' comes a price. You will ... (read in full...)
Do you think that there is a chance for us still, or that it really is over?
Q. I’m 18, and I understand that I’m young and should not expect to find the one person right now, but I’m still having problems with my recent breakup. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years. We were an annoyingly perfect couple that never ...
A. 2 May 2007: Men have a funny way of justifying the crap they do. They build this whole alter ego and honestly I think whatever has come over him is not good. It will only make him more inclined to not be even remotely respectful or sensitive to you and there ... (read in full...)
He wants to wait 5 years to save for a house but I need security here, and I have 3 kids to think about.
Q. well first off i am in a long distance relationship, we are exactly 257 miles apart..i trust him completely and he trusts me..we are definitely in love..we met online, i drove there to meet him the first time and that was dec 29th..and we spent new ...
A. 2 May 2007: Well I dated someone 90 miles away. I too am a single mother and dated a guy for almost 5 yrs, but very on and off due to the same issue. You are 100% right in the way your thinking. See, I tried to fool myself into thinking I was strong enough to ... (read in full...)
I've been depressed for so long.. How do I get rid of it without going to the doctors!?
Q. What is the best way to get rid of depression? I have had it for years and daren't go to the doctors. i don't want it on my records. What if this comes back to haunt me in the future. But - honestly i just cannot go on. i am so down all the time. I ...
A. 1 May 2007: Ok, so your past menopause, but even a hormonal change like that can bring about depression. Puberty did it for me. I've struggled with depression ever since. Come to find out I have an andrenal dysfunction of sorts. As an adult it manifested into ... (read in full...)
Is the size of my penis okay to satisfy a girl?
Q. my penis size is about 4.5 inches and i masterbate a lot, i'm afraid of sex. Is this size ok to satisfy a girl?...
A. 1 May 2007: Personally, I would rather be with a guy who was maybe a bit more compact but gets so hard he could cut glass lol then someone bigger but flops around. Keep tension on the rod ;-) maybe try a ring or something...... (read in full...)
Any other birth control methods aside from condoms?
Q. I've been seeing my fella for a wee while now and I'm considering different types of birth control to go on. Just now we always use condoms, but he really doesn't like them and I think they do interupt our sex life but alway have to use them as I'm ...
A. 1 May 2007: Ok, well I have been very sensitive to BC pills and can't use them so here is a combo I came up with. I dont use condoms or spermicide until he is close to ejaculating. I make him put on the rain coat before he does. Then I insert contraceptive foam ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else ever had to deal with this kind of marriage?
Q. Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a person with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). I am currently seperated from this man. We have been married 11 years and have 2 children. He always has many projects and never finishes one. ...
A. 1 May 2007: I have ADD myself and cannot tolerate the medications anymore so life has been becoming more like your x husbands again. We didn't ask to be this way. I know its hard to understand that because it seems soo deliberate. On top of that there isn't ... (read in full...)
She's told me she's fallen out of love with me and now I don't know what to do?
Q. I have been dating this girl for 7 months now and things where going great at first. Then we started getting into fights and it seemed my only way of settling it was to break up and I have done it 2 or so more times now. So recently we got into a ...
A. 1 May 2007: If its only been 7 months and the road is this bumpy, try to imagine what it would be like if you both had any real problems. I know its hard to let go but try to focus on how peaceful your life is without her. Nobody to fight with...or are they ... (read in full...)
We plan on living together, soon..so why didn't he tell me he was going to try and get custody of his little girl?? I think I had a right to know about this!
Q. I’m in a state of devastation right now. I’m in a relationship with this great guy for 2 years. I love him very much and he loves me very much. When I thought love can solve all problems in the future, I found out that I have doubts. We are looking ...
A. 30 April 2007: Well, he was a father before he met you and if that is what he feels is best for her, then you have no right to stop him or to feel slighted otherwise. If you can't accept her with open arms, or the decisions he's making regarding her then dating a ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to talk to another man on MySpace? I have no intentions of cheating on my fiancee..
Q. Hi Ok so...let me start at the begining... I've been engaged for 3 years...living with my fiancee. I'm home alot as I'm disabled, and he works crazy hours so we barely see eachother. I recently made a Myspace page in order to talk to my brother, ...
A. 30 April 2007: 3 years is along time to be engaged...although what your doing is wrong, maybe somewhere in the back of your mind you know being engaged for 3 years isn't a great sign either.
If your doing this to fill the void your feeling...then what is your ... (read in full...)
Dated two nice ladies off a dating site. The trouble is that I like both of them and cannot choose between them.
Q. Since my last (traumatic) break-up, where my ex was sleeping with her ex and others behind my back, I began internet dating. I didn't sleep with anyone for the first few months, as I was just enjoying the dating side of it and was enjoying getting ...
A. 30 April 2007: God, its so hard to tell who is and isn't right for you. Sometimes that takes years to figure that out. But because there are emotions and expectations on the line, your forced to make this choice at the express lane check out line at the ... (read in full...)
I can't get him out of my head and he hardly talks to me, except before and after sex! Is he just leading me on?
Q. HELP!!! i really like this guy im living with, and we are in a sexual relationship. over the easter holidays he was texting me all the time and we arranged to do a few things, like watch a film and go for a drink. when we got back to uni, he's been ...
A. 30 April 2007: Instead of head trippin, why don't you take charge and tell him that your unhappy with how your treated? Never be afraid to push that envelope. You'll waste alot less time in the wrong relationships.... (read in full...)
We were only married for 3 months before we broke up...
Q. me and my ex were together on and off for three and a half years, im 26 he is 22, we have a 2 year old son we got married six months ago and three months later we broke up and i moved to another town,it was too hard there so me and my son came back, ...
A. 30 April 2007: Those feelings are very hard to deal with but he is only 22, he's probably not even ready for a family and its just a matter of time before he does the same to this new girl and her poor kid. I wouldn't feel replaced, but I would feel sorry for ... (read in full...)
He is lying about being in contact with his ex gf! What can I do?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me. we have had on going arguments about he and his ex girlfriend calling each other and him hiding it from me. he claims it was not to upset me. last time we broke up over this and made up he promised to tell her to ...
A. 30 April 2007: He is the one with irratic behavior. Trying to turn the tables to put the focus back on you is his way of 'mind screwing' you out of WHY your 'stalking' to begin with. It's called reverse psychology and don't let him trip you with it. If he can't ... (read in full...)
People say when you want to be confident, you should look at what you´re good at. What does that mean?
Q. i´m trying to build up my confidence so that i can do anything i want. I´m already doing that by travelling on my own around europe. There´s just one problem. People say when you want to be confident, you should look at what you´re good at. What ...
A. 28 April 2007: It means doing more of anything you are already good at to build confidence to do other things. That is not such a great answer because that can be too limiting. You really have to push to find your own potential and limits, then try to succeed ... (read in full...)
This long distance relationship didn't work due to costs! But I still feel I was just dumped..can anyone help me with this?
Q. I was with this guy, in a long distance relationship, he said that it wouldn't work i knew it wouldn't. He said that we couldn't afford to see each other, which is true. But it doesn't seem much of a reason. I feel so weird about this i miss him ...
A. 28 April 2007: Last year, I just got out of a 5 year, long distance relationship with someone who was 8 yrs younger then me. Even though our emotional relationship was fulfilling, I can't even being to tell you how devistated my life is financially. It has caused ... (read in full...)
What if I've got it wrong and I really do love him? What will I do then? Can someone help me please?
Q. I am married with 3 children. My husband and i have been together for 10 years. Last year he started a new job which meant he had to spend a lot of time away from home. Meanwhile i was pregnant with our 3rd child, running a business and moving ...
A. 28 April 2007: You know, that is a difficult cross to bear being a mother. ..What burns me up is how men will come and go without even blinking, or for even a thought for his children's well-being. If your not happy you have to speak up! I know the reason people ... (read in full...)
Slept with 6 different men unprotected! Im pregnant, Should I keep the baby ?
Q. Im Pregnant.. For the past 3 months i have been sleeping with several different guys, six.. two of them are teachers in my school.. usually i stay behind to do "coursework" but always turns into something else.. i have recently found out im pre...
A. 27 April 2007: Count about 14 days back from your last menstral period and that is most likely the father. You should definately not keep the baby at all. Someone who behaves this way is not mentally fit to be a parent. You will just pass the behavior problems ... (read in full...)
He's been cold with me ever since we got back together, Does he still love me and I just need to be patient ?
Q. does he love me? ok here goes he say he does but i feel like he dont, we have been thru a hard time in out relationship since hes family doesnt like me and he has been telling them were not together. i love him so and feel as i can say forever but ...
A. 27 April 2007: Yeah, this doesn't sound good. I think he's with someone else on the weekends you don't hear from him.... (read in full...)
Does she like me? Is it later on down the road? I can't tell! Should i press the issue on further? I don't want to be the annoying guy who she is sick of.
Q. I am so confused and dont know what to do! My story is long but if anyone can help i will really appreciate it. it is puzzleing my mind and i really need some unbiased advice, but you must know the story before you can help. but PLEASE, PLEASE read ...
A. 27 April 2007: Haha, well if she is playing a game, she has got you right where she wants you. Is she seeing anyone else? If not and she gets jealous when you do then I would say yeah she definately likes you. The only thing that ever stopped me from picking up ... (read in full...)
I'd just like to know how i can get the truth out of John, I mean if he truly cares about me at all he wouldn't lie right?
Q. Ive known this dude for 9 months now and we are really good friends. He and I met at work and I guess you could say we clicked. We were hanging out every weekend, at work, and I even went on his family vacation w/ him (he invited me). I have very ...
A. 27 April 2007: I think your right on the money about John and Keith. Even if John is bi, he still isnt' persuing you. As for what to do? There isn't much at this point. You could walk away from the entire situation and loose them as friends or accept the situation ... (read in full...)
I'm not getting the kind of love back that I want from him. Am I just settling?
Q. Am I being unfair or am I settling? I really can't decide. I feel that my fiance loves me they way I need to be loved, but not the way I WANT and crave to be loved. I know this has alot to do with the way my younger long-term x had sexualized me, ...
A. 27 April 2007: Capt, you are absolutley right! I needed to make him chase me alot! I had forgotten all about that since I got spoiled by my x always showering me with his affection. So having to alter my behavior now seems like a form of having to work for it and ... (read in full...)
I am jealous and am losing my confidence, all because he looks at other females! Why is this happening to me?
Q. Over the past year, I have beecome more insecure about myself. I was so confident before about myself that nothing bothered me at all, and I was just so happy. Now, I feel the opposite. My bf starts looking at other girls while im with him out in ...
A. 26 April 2007: Ummm, I've been where you are accept it was much much worse. I had long strawberry-blonde hair, blue/green eyes, 36C, 26, 36...5'2. Young, talented, nice car, nice living and I was involved with someone who made me feel like if I wasn't the most ... (read in full...)
No other guys compare to him! How do I get over him?
Q. Its Eating Me Up Inside.. I dont no how to get over this boy who i practically love.. I find it sooo hard.. A little while ago i didnt see him for about 6 weeks because i was grounded.. but then i come out again and i fell for him.. the moment...
A. 26 April 2007: Eyeyeyeyeye! You really have to break him down in your mind and get to the core of what he's really all about.
You have to start making clear decisions for yourself about what is and isn't acceptable in a relationship. So when a guy does 'that thin... (read in full...)
After 27years together, wife says she needs space! Help..what can I do?
Q. after 27years wife said she is not in love anymore needs space help...
A. 26 April 2007: She just needs to find herself again. Even the best live- in relationships can be stiffling to the spirit depending on the person. There's really nothing you can do accept ask her what she wanted from you that she didn't get to cause her to feel ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and pregnant! HELP!
Q. I am only 12 and i am pregnant.Me and my boyfreind wo is 13 nearly 14 used protection but it split.Only me and him no but i need to no what to do.PLEASE HELP!(i have gone a few weeks)...
A. 26 April 2007: Ok, coming from someone who was pregnant at your age, here is what you need to think about. Like it or not, you need to tell your parents. They will have to support you and this baby, not you. There is really no happy ending to this story any way ... (read in full...)
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