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im almost seventeen on the 16th june, &ihave brown hair&blue eyes:)
ive been through alot for someone my age, but its made me more mature'
i live in england, and if it wasnt for my wonderful mates and the family ive got and the boyfriend i seriously would not be the person i am today,
i have always been good at giving people advice, they come to me alot, my only downfall is ic can never take any advice for myself/:
i am in a relationship and have been for six months now, and should hopefully be getting engaged soon, he is joining the army and i am going to college to do dance, which i have always loved doing from the moment i was born;)
what makes me tick? my no good mother.
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Stuck in the past; need help to move forward
Q. Its been a few months since I ended a relationship because my gf was cheating emotionally. Before this relationship that just ended I had a relationship with a woman named Katherine that lasted five years. Even when I was with my last girlfrie...
A. 30 May 2011: keeping yourself busy hadnt worked so in all honesty hun the only thing i can suggest is dating to see if someone sweeps you of your feet;)
for some people making friends helps a bit because then you know their still in your life and it hurts a litt... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a girl to bleed even at the third time of sex?
Q. so about half month ago I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time and i sort of bled a lot that we had to stop. I had some spotting for the following few days, which seemed to be normal according to what others say online. Then 4 days later ...
A. 29 May 2011: hello hun, Bleeding during or after sex is not considered normal and therefore should be evaluated at all times. The only time bleeding during or after sex is considered normal in some cases is if you are having sexual intercourse for the first ti... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to start a new relationship?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend of 18 months about 3 weeks ago, and last week I met someone I really really like. People say you should wait a while to try and get over your ex but I feel like I am done with her - I dont think about her(excluding ...
A. 29 May 2011: i think that if your over your ex then 3weeks is respectable, but get to know this girl for a couple of weeks before you get into a relationship, that way you will know more about eachother and wont be rushing anything :)... (read in full...)
He's kept me as a secret lover for 3 years, and recently revieled he's got an 18 month old daughter! Now he ignores me!
Q. I come to this point that I’m, looking for others people opinion. Here is my story. I met this guy at work about 3 years ago we start sleeping together, there is a difference in years between us (he is 30 I’m 41); he said that’s not a problem ...
A. 29 May 2011: hun dont take this horribly but im think you are oblivious and i feel sorry for you' two of my family members have had relationships with married men, one of them knew about it the other was oblivious and would not come to terms with the fact the... (read in full...)
Staying true to myself doesn't make me cool, and if you're not cool do you stand a chance with women?
Q. I have been trying to change who I am for the past two years, and it has not worked. If I'm honest, I've never been "cool", I've always been slightly kooky and individual. That all changed when I got jealous of my peers in relationships an...
A. 29 May 2011: nonononono i do not like this one bit:( you sound like my old self, i got annoyed and jealous by the amount of popular 'cool' people that i was hanging around with , you get caught out eventually and you get fed up with being what everyone else wa... (read in full...)
I'm an awkward duck, and not comfortable with myself. Therefore, love isn't in the cards for me. Right??
Q. The only time when I feel comfortable and I can truly be myself (whoever that is) is when I am with my family or 2 of my friends whom I have known for years. Other than that, I find it so hard to interact with people. I always get the impression ...
A. 29 May 2011: heyy, this must be hard,i sort of understand how you feel, i went through a bad patch where i lost all my friends except for two and being quite closed in and didnt do nothing, i then found it hard to make friends with anyone else because i had be... (read in full...)
He patronizes me, and doesn't take it seriously when I try to talk to him about it! Is the respect gone?
Q. So I'll give you the background, I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half and for the most part everything has been great, it's been since we've started our GCSE's that problems have been arising, mostly because of my absolute ...
A. 29 May 2011: people your age tend to like the attention its natural he needs to accept that, and im sure he has done his fair share too that he wont admit, tell him that this is dragging you down, say to him that you understand that you do like the occassional ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is losing interest
Q. Hey guys, quick question. Lately I've feel that my bf has been growing distant and he tells me that when I am away he's indifferent to the relationship but when I am with him he loves me. well lately he's been (I feel) not treating me with respect ...
A. 29 May 2011: aaw hun i feel so sorry for you, this must be really hard! talk to him and tell hi exactly how you feel about the way he has been acting towards you, make it clear to him that he is going to loose you if he carries on this way and if he loves yo... (read in full...)
Husband jumping to conclusions.
Q. I really need you help here.....please be patient with me as this is very confusing to explain.. here a bit of background.. my husband of 7 years constantly brings up my past, he doesn t believe what I have told him is the truth and thinks I have w...
A. 29 May 2011: tell him exactly what you have just told us, or get someone proffesional in, explain to him that this is dragging you down xx... (read in full...)
I tortured him because he loved me. I'm a idiot.
Q. There was this guy that love me so much that it made me kinda hate him so used to do a lot of hateful things to him so he would suffer because I knew he would keep coming back for more no matter what. He finally left me and I can't forgive myself ...
A. 29 May 2011: you need to tell him just how sorry you are, you dont know what you've got till you lose it, even though you weren't together this still counts, he loves you right? so in the end he respected your wishes and has left you alone like you wanted for ... (read in full...)
Why does he say those things to me when he's with her?
Q. Okay, how long is this box? I have a lot to say. But how to word it. I'll start from the begging and I will try and keep it brief. I was thirteen when I met him, yes him, you know the one. He's the one that makes your heart skip a beat, the one ...
A. 29 May 2011: ^Bee!
you left a million and one things out!
no offence to cindy cares your answer was pretty amazing, but bee maybe you need to explan it in full depth for people to understand, because me of all people knows this is one of the most trickies... (read in full...)
Is it time I stopped this? I am still trying to get over my ex. Is it time I moved on?
Q. My ex and i are trying to get to know each other again, to see if we can get into a relationship again. some history we dated for month and a half before we became official and in a relationship for 6 months, we both think we should have got to know ...
A. 29 May 2011: s you still like him and seeing as he said 'you never know we may get back together in 2 months' then it seems he also likes you still too, trust is the main part in a relationship and it needs resolving, you need to have a chat with him face to ... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to do? Trust my ex or this creepy guy friend of hers?
Q. Everyone has heard the phrase love is not enough. Me personally I find it hard to believe that if someone says they love you and continue to do what they want that is not love. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. Maybe I was a little over zea...
A. 29 May 2011: if you two have gotten closer, then you will be able to have a good heart to heart with her, ask her if she wants to be single because you need to hear it from her,ask her why she did it and if she says that she wants a relationship then you need to ... (read in full...)
Should I continue our 'thing'?
Q. Well, hello... Okay, there's this guy and we've dated, but broke up after a month. We continued to talk and we became a 'thing', we act like we're dating, but we're not. We've been a 'thing' for over a year. ...but he's going to college soon, le...
A. 29 May 2011: talk to him hun, tell him how you feel, you never know he may be feeling the same, has he had girlfriends or has it just be yours and his thing because if its just been you then the best bets are he really does like you, just doesnt know how to say ... (read in full...)
Husband jumping to conclusions.
Q. I really need you help here.....please be patient with me as this is very confusing to explain.. here a bit of background.. my husband of 7 years constantly brings up my past, he doesn t believe what I have told him is the truth and thinks I have w...
A. 29 May 2011: hun, i feel so sorry for you, if you dont mine me saying, but your husband needs to get his head out from up his ass, this isnt fair on you! its a natural reaction to say what you did with the 'or' added in, what did he expect? for you to stand th... (read in full...)
How can I get him to notice me without creeping him out or being to pushy?
Q. Okay... So there is this guy i like... Im a freshmen and hes a sophomore and i like him a lot. A ton of my friends are cool with him but he doesnt even know i exist. He doesnt even look at me. So my question is: how do i get him to notice me with ...
A. 27 May 2011: you cant really stop blushing, but wear blusher so it doesnt show? the only thing ican suggest:)... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me feel less cynical about love?
Q. Can anyone help me feel less cynical about love? With all the celebrities in the news who have cheated on their wives, and my own experience of being cheated on by an ex-bf after we'd been together 8 years, I'm wondering if anyone has a relationship ...
A. 27 May 2011: noone would stick around for seven months, if they didnt like you, ill tell you my story but put it in sort form;) me and my boyfrend have been togeher nearly six months, he used to be the person always getting arrested and was smoking weed, ha... (read in full...)
Do you think he is using me?
Q. Hi I'm a 23 yr old woman iv been with my boyfriend for almost 3months he never calls me unless I ring him,he hardly texts too. Three weeks ago I tried ringin him contiously as he did not pick up my calls and rhe next mornin he dumped me. When I m...
A. 27 May 2011: staaaay awaaaay!
^^ my only advice, it seems that yes he is using you, he cheated on you twice, he has sex with someone, your never gonna be able to trust him again, and as for telling you to have an abortion then yes he is using you, if he reall... (read in full...)
His grandmother has just died. He's sad. Is it too soon to ask my ex to go hang out with me again?
Q. what can I do.?.. well my ex boyfriend and I were trying to fix everything out. However, when he talked to my parents everything changed, because he understood that my parents didn't want me near him, so we stopped hanging out(but they don't care i...
A. 27 May 2011: basically you need to be their as his mate before you try and be anything else, do you know where he lives? if he does then go to his house and ask to speak to him, give him a hug and tell him if he needs to talk to you then your always gonna be ... (read in full...)
Help me please my husband! I need sex tips and ideas for his homecoming too.
Q. well my husband left for 3 weeks to help with some volunteer red cross work in japan. hes coming home in about week and id like to surprise him by doing something sexy and fun. i also wanna try and use this night as a way to tell him im ready for ...
A. 27 May 2011: your husband will appreciate anything you do for him:)
my fiance is going into the army and weve allready planned this out,:')
as for an outfit, his favourite colour is green right? so get a green corset or a silk green dressing gown, someth... (read in full...)
His wife found out about our texting and he's broken it off with me. I'm gutted and don't know what to do.
Q. am gutted ....im married,my husband is violent and moody but we have a 5 year old boy which is the main reason i am here,plus i have no where to go ,last october i started talking on facebook to a married man who i added thru a mutual girlfriend ,we ...
A. 27 May 2011: im sorry but you shouldnt of gone with a married man, wether you liked him or not, does he have a family? has his wife got any problems? he could of lied about anything, you never know, there is a lot to think about and the people you are both ... (read in full...)
I'm not asking you to choose for me between these girls, I just would like to know what I should be asking or thinking about!
Q. okay so I really like these two girls both have great personalities and both seem to like me so here is a little info about them. girl 1: we've know each other for 2-3 years. i asked her out when we first met and she said she wasent intereste...
A. 27 May 2011: and no offence, but do not ever date two people at once, you will then be consider as a cheater or a user to people and noone will ever be interested, :), plus if you like them both then you dont wanna hurt or upset them by playing with their ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend angry with the way I broke up with my ex?
Q. I became friends with this really nice funny guy and we walk home every day with two other people, a boy and a girl. So basically I was going out with his friends but I started to have feelings for the guy and we were always flirting and things ...
A. 26 May 2011: your at a young age so tbh it wont really matter in relationship wise, but breaking up with someone over text isnt a decent thing to do, which is why he is probably angry, you should of told him face to face and the reason why your ex didnt speak to ... (read in full...)
The whole relationship has been me worring that she'll cheat
Q. okay so there is this type of club thing that me and my girlfriend are going to this friday (tomorrow) and last time she went on her own (when we were both single) she made out with this random guy. i think that when we go this time she may do ...
A. 26 May 2011: right no offence but you obviously do not trust your girlfriend, and you need trust in a relationship! as you clearly stated she got of with someone when your were both single,! she was able to being single there was nothing stopping her, sh... (read in full...)
So why haven't I met someone who seems like a good match?
Q. So I'm 27, almost 28, and I've never had a real serious relationship. It frightens me, because I feel like there's something wrong with me! I date guys, but they never seem to stick around long (I'm not clingy, I'm actually pretty cool and funn...
A. 26 May 2011: ihavent been in the same situation as you, but ido see what your saying...
there isnt anything wrong with you hun, not everyone falls in love straight away sometimes in may take many years to find the match for you, but my tips to you are, even if t... (read in full...)
I'm not asking you to choose for me between these girls, I just would like to know what I should be asking or thinking about!
Q. okay so I really like these two girls both have great personalities and both seem to like me so here is a little info about them. girl 1: we've know each other for 2-3 years. i asked her out when we first met and she said she wasent intereste...
A. 26 May 2011: right, so girl one, you have known for 2-3 years right? so you may want to think about your friendship? you have known eachother quite long to gather a strong friendship so maybe the friendship has gotten so strong that your now in the 'friend zone... (read in full...)
How can I get him to notice me without creeping him out or being to pushy?
Q. Okay... So there is this guy i like... Im a freshmen and hes a sophomore and i like him a lot. A ton of my friends are cool with him but he doesnt even know i exist. He doesnt even look at me. So my question is: how do i get him to notice me with ...
A. 26 May 2011: know im not sure what sophomore,&freshman difference as im in england-northampton, we dont call it that, but ican try to help, basically you dont wanna just start talking to him because he may find thata bit full on, so start smiling at him and try ... (read in full...)
When should I kiss my g/f?
Q. please help i have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 months, we live quite far away from eachother and i dont get to see her often, the first time i was with her i was too shy to kiss her, she then said "i got a hug today but not a kiss", so i ...
A. 7 April 2011: if she is wanting a kiss from you, then when you meet her give her a hug and say hello and whilst you hug look her in the eyes and go in for a kiss, she is wanting and expecting one so she wont mind at all, if you go to kiss her when you say goodbye ... (read in full...)
He is not the same since he started drinking. What should I do?
Q. He use to be so nice and sweet but he has been drinking and now i don't know who he is. He has just changed and its scaring me. What should i do? I think i might love him but i don't know him anymore.:( Please help me!!...
A. 7 April 2011: oh my god im 16 and ive had this problem ive been in a relationship for 4months friday and for the first few weeks it was all sweet as you said, but then came new years and his drinking got out of control, it was the first time id seen him drink, i ... (read in full...)
My BF's political views are self destructive. I will be leaving and I am worried about what he will do when I'm gone.
Q. I think my boyfriend is delusional and lost. We're both 16 and he's confusing me so much. We come from different backgrounds. I live a comfortable middle class suburban life and go to private school. He goes to a rough school (People have been ...
A. 7 April 2011: ididnt even need to read he whole of this before ihad one thing to say.. you obviously come from a very good upbringing, find someone nice+who doesnt carry all these problems! your too young to deal with them, it will bring you down! if it... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from humping with underware on?
Q. can you get pregnant by humping with only the females underwear on? no sex, just that. he didnt cum right on me or anything but he did have a little "pre" cum. idk what thats actually called. ...
A. 7 April 2011: i see your quite young, as the other comment was wrote very correct, sperm cant travel through your clothing, unless it actually goes inside you then no your not pregnant, just be careful, and use protection!... (read in full...)
I'm ready but do I want to lose it just yet?
Q. Ok ill try and keep this short. Im a Male of 16 years of age and still in secondary school. In year 7 - 8 I went out with a girl who i really like and to be honest i havent liked anyone as much as i have liked her. I recently found out that she ...
A. 7 April 2011: i like how you think that you should be nice to a girl, im almost 17 so ishould understand where your coming from, i lost my virginity 3 months ago, and ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months this friday, ithought exactly the same way as you did ... (read in full...)
Paranoid and scared about boyfriend cheating
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been exclusive for a short while. Three months. I am 17 and he is 20. I can't help but feel insecure about the relationship lately. I do love him dearly and he tells me he loves me. I do believe him. I can't stop t...
A. 7 April 2011: theres two answers to this really... and im only 17 so its up to you to take the advice, but ive had this problem before. in my case i liked the boy so much that iwas just overly worried that i was going to loose him so therefore i became overly pa... (read in full...)
Do I break up with ogling boyfriend?
Q. I wrote a while ago regarding my boy friend ogling other women. I did not see him for 10 days, I asked him for a short break. We do not live together. I have told him many times that his ogling other women is upsetting me and he has to eith...
A. 7 April 2011: this is obviously bringing you down an awful lot, so tell him +make sure he knows that you mean it, tell him exactly how you feel about this situation but also add in how much he means to you and explain why its hurting you so much, but the massiv ... (read in full...)
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