My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.
Q. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash ...
A. 9 October 2009: You need to understand some things. One, although talking to counselor seems like it makes things worse, its only keeping the shit stirred up so it doesn't settle in your brain and make you sick forever. You can't repress or minimize the pain and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.
Q. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash ...
A. 9 October 2009: You need to understand some things. One, although talking to counselor seems like it makes things worse, its only keeping the shit stirred up so it doesn't settle in your brain and make you sick forever. You can't repress or minimize the pain and ... (read in full...)
Is a live webcam session something I should reasonably be upset about?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14. I am 20 now. We have a 3 year old son and have been living together for 4 years now. The other day he accidently left his computer signed onto a porn site. I do not have a problem with him looking at porn, ...
A. 9 October 2009: You married a young man. There are faults built in to every man his age. The fact he was strong enough to own up to what he did and apologize speaks to his character. He was not given to you perfect. You will make him better by sticking to what you ... (read in full...)
Should I take the internship or move in with my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We've been apart now for 8 months, and I will see him first in 3 more months. We both want to be closer to each other, and I would love to move in with him after New Years. However, I am a ...
A. 4 October 2009: He's basically told you if you take the internship it will be the end of the relationship. He is forcing you to chose. That is just not fair. It's his prerogative to do so, but it's a lousy thing to do to you. If he truly loves you, he will wait six ... (read in full...)
I'm getting bored with my LDR just talking to him on Skype
Q. hey guyyss..i really need ur help ok so im 16, and im dating a guy (also 16).. we have been doing this LDR for 1 or 2 years now. *he lives in the usa and i live in another country...* but we saw each other of course (the summer one year ago,...
A. 4 October 2009: I'm half inclined to lie to you and tell you this relationship is a good idea to keep you pure a few more years.
But the truth is, relationships are meant to be with real people to develop our abilities to be physically as well mentally intimate... (read in full...)
Is a live webcam session something I should reasonably be upset about?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14. I am 20 now. We have a 3 year old son and have been living together for 4 years now. The other day he accidently left his computer signed onto a porn site. I do not have a problem with him looking at porn, ...
A. 4 October 2009: Hell yes! You've got a kid! That's money that should be going to the baby. This is why kids should not make their first relationships turn into marriages. Men his age can hardly be trusted to care for a fern let alone a wife and kid. Yes, it's a ... (read in full...)
I don't understand how people have sex
Q. This is kind of a strange question, but i don't really get how people have sex. Like, I understand the penis going into the vagina, and there are different positions, but then how can you tell if some one is good if that's all there is? also, i h...
A. 4 October 2009: Moves are what you use to get in the game. Right now, you have no game because you have no moves. Vicious circle, that. You need to learn how to interact with other people your age and sex and then you can mingle among the opposite sex. Find a group ... (read in full...)
Called me "darling"..is he interested?
Q. If a guy gives you a hug, calls you darling, says " i'll not be two seconds " when he walks away from you, comes back to speak to you again, and then asks what you are doing later on and gives you his mobile number, is he attracted to you or could ...
A. 4 October 2009: Ditto, Rhythmandblues. ... (read in full...)
How can I be "touchy" with my girlfriend?
Q. Ok, I am in need of some advice. SO the thing is that I', a little shy doing some things with my girlfriend. We've been going out for almost 10 months now and havent really done anything sexual...I know, might be a shocker to alot of you out there ...
A. 4 October 2009: Just take it easy. This is a sign that your not ready for sex just yet. Which is good cause your too young anyway. When the time is right you'll know. Just be sure there is some kind of contraception like condoms or get her on the pill first.
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Is a blow job actually sex?
Q. im 13 and me and bf dont have sex but he fingers me and i gave him a blow job....is a blow job actually sex or do you have to put the penis in the vagina??? plz answer me soon!!!...
A. 4 October 2009: Yes it's sex, but since there's no vaginal penetration with the penis your technically a virgin.
Sweetheart, you are too young to be doing this stuff. You'll understand what I mean in 3 years and you look back at 13 year olds. Give yourself... (read in full...)
He made a move on a girl right in front of me
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for about 2 months now...well let me refraise that we are friends with benefits sota speak...i no not the best relationship, but we keep eachother company. Anyways my question to you is....Not more than a day after he left ...
A. 4 October 2009: It's not disrespectful. There is no relationship, you don't have any right to assume he won't seek other woman. That's the point of friends with benefits relationships. You have to both want to sleep with other people more than you want to be ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.
Q. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash ...
A. 1 October 2009: Don't go do something stupid to "recover your manhood". Christ, thats dumb advice. You'll end up getting caught and going to jail and throwing your life down the drain. For some reason the justice system targets vigilantes worse than they target ... (read in full...)
Bleeding after anal sex
Q. My husband and I have been experimenting with anal sex for the last year after wards there might be a spot of blood or two but this last time there has been more..now two days and there is still a little mainly with a bowel movement is this okay? I ...
A. 1 October 2009: If you start experiencing bleeding and pain lets call it a failed experiment. You shouldn't be experiencing an ongoing bleed, you may only be seeing it when you pass stool, but it may be an ongoing thing. Do you have dark or black stools, thats ... (read in full...)
How can I make him go WOW!
Q. Hey I would like to know how I can make my bf feel satisfied when we are having sex....how do I know if I'm good or not...what do men love in bed??I want him to say "wow you are good"....but how?? What would he enjoy best?? Guys any answers??girls ...
A. 1 October 2009: Guys love it when a woman lets us know what were doing makes them feel amazing. Just reacting like your really into it and engaged and turned on is usually enough for any guy. Don't get caught up in technique, stroke our ego as much as well, the ... (read in full...)
Should I try and initiate sex?
Q. Hi, So I have to admit, I'm 23 and when it comes to dating, sex, relationships and love I'm a complete and utter rookie/noob. SO here's my question. I'm dating a fantastic girl and she says in one conversation "Its desperate times" (in refere...
A. 1 October 2009: When a girl says she's "desperate". It means she's willing to temporarily lower her standards because she's lonely and needs a self esteem boost. Lucky you! It means you can get some. Because of your inexperience you don't know how to close the... (read in full...)
He's head over heels in love with me and I don't feel that anymore
Q. And it has caused me to withdraw emotionally from the relationship. I do loving things for him and behave in loving ways, but the feeling isn't there anymore and that makes me sad. I don't want us to split up, but I'm stuck. I don't enjoy sex w/ ...
A. 1 October 2009: How's your self esteem? Do you have a history of pushing people away when they try to get too close to you? You're no spring chicken anymore, do you find it hard to love someone that loves you back? You need to be sure your not pushing him away ... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or a pedophile?
Q. He is always talking to me at least more than 20 comments a day. He's a couple years older than me though. I know this isn't safe, but I met him online. Well anyways, each time we have a conversation, he'll be talking about how he wants to see me in ...
A. 1 October 2009: I know your flattered that he's making such a fuss, but this has all the signs of obsession versus real affection. If your really 18 or so it's up to you to make your own decisions, if your actually younger, you have to be very careful as this man ... (read in full...)
How can I be better with my tongue action?
Q. so i have a ? for all of the ladies. i have been told that im ok with my tounge if you konw what i mean. i dont want to be just ok. can you give me some pointers and tips and tricks to be great or better. this is kinda a self esteem thing. i pride ...
A. 28 September 2009: I'm a guy but this works for me. Remember the clitoris is very sensitive. So light touches at first, until you gauge how much she can handle. Then just flick and push back and forth, lightly. Increase in intensity as she can handle it. Drawing the ... (read in full...)
I want to reduce my sexual desire!
Q. My husband loves me alot but there is almost no sex in our marriage we are married for about 2 years now and we have sex only once in 2 or 3 months. I want to know a way how I can reduce my sexual desire/urge/energy, as no sex depresses me. My ...
A. 28 September 2009: Why is he so tired? Is he having health problems or is he working 12 hours a day in a coal mine because thats the only legitimate excuse for a man his age. If he is overworked he needs to take time off so he can handle his husbandly duties. If its ... (read in full...)
Do you get pregnant from a blowjob?
Q. okay, i'm not really going to do this, but can a blowjob get you prgnant? in other words, if you swallow the sperm, is it possible?...
A. 28 September 2009: No honey, you can't. But you can get pregnant from any kind of vaginal sex, even if he says he'll pull out before he has an orgasm. You cant get pregnant unless the white stuff "semen" gets into your vagina.
You can get diseases from oral sex... (read in full...)
Sometimes I think I'm gay, other times I don't?
Q. ok i have a problem at times i think im gay and then i don't, when i look at gay porn i believe im gay but after i masterbat to it, it makes a left and i feel stupid for doing it like what is wrong with me, and then there are girls i like and would ...
A. 28 September 2009: Straight men, generally, are repulsed by the sight of gay porn. The fact that it turns you on to the point of orgasm is a good indication your homosexual or at least bisexual. The only exception would be if your addiction to Internet porn progressed ... (read in full...)
Why was she mean and now she's friendly?
Q. Theres this blond girl in my language arts class who is thin and reallly short(but not one of those dwarf people, just really short)like 4 ft, and shes pretty cute, at the time i didnt know a whole lot of people yet and so when class got out as we ...
A. 28 September 2009: She probably reacted badly because she's tired of being asked or made fun of and didn't know if that's what you were going to do. It's called self protection. Once she found out you weren't trying to make fun of her she probably let herself relax. ... (read in full...)
Am I just confused about my sexuality?
Q. I have had a crush on a girl for a year and a half and when i think about her i get really turned on. I get turned on by othere girls too though. I have always been interested in the female body more than the males since primary school. I remember ...
A. 28 September 2009: Your still young yet, you don't have to declare a major. females are generally more bisexual by nature so your feelings may be normal. You could just as well find later you have affection for woman but appreciate the male-female dynamic in a ... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that I'd be an awesome girlfriend?
Q. This guy and I used to date a while ago but we were never official. He was my first and basically, I wanted a commited relationship and he wanted to be free and party. But when he blew me off for a party one time, I finally had enough and stopped ...
A. 28 September 2009: You are strong and I commend you for it. You need to be real clear with him. Tell him your like him "that way" and if he does then you would like to be with him. But if he doesn't then it would be best to stay apart because it wouldn't really be a ... (read in full...)
I want to change my lifestyle and have friends but I'm not sure how to do it!
Q. I've just started my last year before university. I'm pretty much a loner. I don't have friends and aside from school I'm always on the computer playing poker on facebook or watching sitcoms on t.v. I know it's not good to do this and I want to ...
A. 28 September 2009: Don't worry. When you go to college your life will change. There will be plenty of opportunities to meet new people and experience new things. Just don't say no, have the courage to say yes when people ask you to go out and do things. First thing is ... (read in full...)
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