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writes:My husband loves me alot but there is almost no sex in our marriage we are married for about 2 years now and we have sex only once in 2 or 3 months. I want to know a way how I can reduce my sexual desire/urge/energy, as no sex depresses me. My husband is always tired to have sex, otherwise he loves me alot always hugs and kisses me cant be without touching me. Pls help... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): he is talking bull about the sperm count.
if he is not giving it to you then he is giving it to someone else, long day work or not, he is lying to you. please do not be a fool. your hb is playing around. a man NEEDS AND WANTS SEX, why doesn't he. investigate him fully.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
He works 6 days,, 11 hours a day! This is about tiredness. You've got to try and make more time for each other. And having sex does not reduce the sperm count either, so that's not an excuse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): And ofcourse he tells me not to control myself, and just to be who I am, he loves me that way. He has no health issues too
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): Its Me again...
We have spoken about this and he does agree and is very loving and caring to me.
There are a couple of things:
1. He works 6 days a weeks on an average of 11 hrs a day.
2. Also for some reason he has it in his mind that if we have regular sex it will reduce his sperm count and that would reduce the chances of us having a baby. He says when we plan our baby see the difference.
3. Also we do make out, he always ensures to hug me and kiss me whenever we leave for the day, whenever we meet also whenever he gets a chance he never misses it.
I am so lost :( He does undersand my feelings but it just doesnt seem to happen
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reader, LessonsLearned  +, writes (28 September 2009):
Why is he so tired? Is he having health problems or is he working 12 hours a day in a coal mine because thats the only legitimate excuse for a man his age. If he is overworked he needs to take time off so he can handle his husbandly duties. If its medical you every right to insist you both speak to your doctor about it. He has to take care of you and your needs, so if he needs to take cialis or viagra and make time once a week for sex then so be it. It's not fair to ask you to give up sex. In the meantime, I suggest taking matters into your own hands, literally, find a vibrator or dildo that can help you manage your sexual needs. Then have an honest heart to heart with your husband. And get him to agree to the once a week plan. Marriage is about compromise, let this be one of them.
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