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writes:This is kind of a strange question, but i don't really get how people have sex.Like, I understand the penis going into the vagina, and there are different positions, but then how can you tell if some one is good if that's all there is?also, i hear on telly people saying they have 'moves', what are 'moves'?obviously from what i've just asked, i'm still a virgin. would really apriciate an answer.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Ok. I like to imagine sex as a dance. There are several styles, several steps and with more practice you get better at it.
However, just like with dancing, some people are better than others and it can take a while before you find a partner who matches your style, has stamina and has "rythme." In this case rythme is my analogy for "moves." We have seen people on the dance floor who do and don't know how to move their bodies when they are dancing. Even though sex is a little more natural, there is a reason its called the horizontal limbo. It can involve confidence, flexibility and as usual very good hip movements. Sex also has its own rythme and for both men and women to climax their bodies need to be stimulated at the right speed. I dont know if you masterbate, but if you do, you know what speed you need for you to cum.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Your question is very elemental. Heterosexual activity is intended and necessary for promulgation of the human species. It is typically fun and feels good, even when pregnancy of the female is not the goal. To attempt a simple and clear answer to your question, people have sex in numerous ways, each as they are inclined.
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reader, LessonsLearned +, writes (4 October 2009):
Moves are what you use to get in the game. Right now, you have no game because you have no moves. Vicious circle, that. You need to learn how to interact with other people your age and sex and then you can mingle among the opposite sex. Find a group of friends that get laid. Then dress, talk, act like they do. This is called socialization. Observe how they talk to girls and mimick them. It's the best way to get social moves. Sexual moves are things you learn as you have sex. Like where the clitoris is, how to stimulate it, and so on. Heres a free move: While having sex, if you sense monotony setting in, slow down and swirl your penis in the vagina as if your mixing it up. Gently rub her clit with your finger, Then take long deep strokes a few times and work back into a rhythm. 2nd move: A lot of woman have a spot that gets them off. I've found it's about 4 inches in on the inner wall facing her belly, try to angle your pelvis to hit it, if she starts reacting like shes going to have an orgasm, put your hand on her belly and apply pressure. This sometimes puts em over the top. Those work for me, try em out. Oh Rae, men like woman who are engaged and into us. If a girl is really into having sex with us thats usually good enough to make you good in bed. It helps if you don't just lay there too.
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reader, Rae1031 +, writes (4 October 2009):
"Moves" are basically the things people do while they are trying to work their way up to sex. Flirting, touching, kissing ect. Just pushing it as far as you can to determine the other person's interest level / attraction and how far you can get with them sexually. As far as the other part of you question goes, I am not a vergin and I still can not answer you. I have experienced both good and bad sex with the same man. The sex itself had not changed and my physical attraction to him did not change, but my feelings for him changed and I am sure this is what made what was once good sex bad for me. I had every reason to believe he was cheating on me, but I was trying to act like everything was "normal" until I knew for sure. I found this to be much easier said then done. He was cheating and we split up. But my point is that sex is usually good or bad for most women based on the status of the emotional connection. I did say most women, not all women. As far as men go, I have no clue what makes sex good or bad for them, but I would love to know.
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