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I've just given birth, how long do we wait to resume having sex?
Q. We've just had our 1st baby.I'd like to resume intercourse and know the advice is "when you feel you're ready".What experience on this have you all had? Did your partner take it easy when thrusting etc? Thanks....
A. 30 March 2008: UGHHH! I just read this last post and it took me back to the delivery room... Sorry, it was a 6 week period as Mandy7 said. I guess it just seemed like three months :-) ... (read in full...)
I've just given birth, how long do we wait to resume having sex?
Q. We've just had our 1st baby.I'd like to resume intercourse and know the advice is "when you feel you're ready".What experience on this have you all had? Did your partner take it easy when thrusting etc? Thanks....
A. 22 March 2008: Congratulations!!!! When I had my daughter 9 years ago, I was told to wait about 3 months, but I know that medical advice changes all the time and we also live in different parts of the world. I guess it would depend on the circumstances of your ... (read in full...)
I've been emotionally cheated on, is it possible to move on?
Q. Anyone out there ever been emotionally cheated on? Is it possible to move on. I work with my husband and the girl and have to see them on a regular basis. I found out he had been secretly flirting with her, and they even had a secret handshake. He ...
A. 22 March 2008: I think it could sounds pretty innocent and it sounds like you two are pretty young. With maturity, he'll realize that by NOT telling you something like that it makes him look more suspicious. And with maturity, you'll gain confidence in your ... (read in full...)
I had fantasies about my wife being slutty with other men, but now we're acting them out I'm not so sure!
Q. well where do i start,im 35 and been married for 16yrs,i have 3 children with my wife,i have worked away from home for the past 14yrs and i am away for long periods at a time,for yrs we have had fantasies about my wife being a slut,as of recently ...
A. 22 March 2008: That's why it's a fantasy, not reality! When people act out fantasies they rarely have the same type of allure as they did in your head. Well, I'd say most of the time. You need to be firm that this is making you uncomfortable, not only that, it's ... (read in full...)
Drunk text the ex, I'm so embarassed!!
Q. I'm so embarassed! I got drunk last night and text the ex. Someone somewhere got their wires crossed, or the ex is just denying it for whatever reason, but I was told that he'd said he still had feelings for me. So with dutch courage from alco...
A. 22 March 2008: As a sober alcoholic, I've got PLENTY of these stories! Just chalk it up to a learning experience, lay off the booze till you're better emotionally and next time you drink- try hiding your cell! Most people get these kinds of calls or texts from ... (read in full...)
He accused me for having had sex with somebody else previously that night, how do I prove him wrong??
Q. My boyfriend and I were having sex the other night and everything was great until we stopped to change positions. At that point, he touched his penis and felt something he described as "white and sticky". I saw what he was talking about and didn't ...
A. 22 March 2008: Uhmmmm, you're right- a woman's discharge can vary from day to day, even hour to hour depending on hormones and no two people are ever the same. Neither is every sexual encounter. Not to be rude, but I'd laugh in his face if a dude said that to me. ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with her if she's done nothing wrong?
Q. Right then... I feel that my girlfriend of 15 months and I don't suit each other any more and should split up. She, as far as I am aware, doesn't believe there's anything wrong and she used to self-harm so I'm worried she'll blame herself. We're a...
A. 22 March 2008: Ahhh, welcome to the wonderful world of relationships. Yes, you'll feel like shit, I think being the dumper rather than the dumpee is worse. It's all part of growing up and becoming a decent human being. You have to do it if you're not happy, ... (read in full...)
Case of the "X"
Q. I have been seeing this guy I work with for about 6 months. I have never been invited over to the new house he stays at but have been to his old spot. He says that I can't come over because we work together and for work purposes, I shouldn't know ...
A. 22 March 2008: Sorry girl, sounds fishy to me. I'm sure his "ex" isn't really his ex. ... (read in full...)
He has genital warts! Should I be suspicious? He said it was from the girl before me....
Q. Hi Im absolutely devasted im 30 years of age and had been your typical "Briget Jones" for three years, then a year and a half ago I met my perfect boyfriend a true gentleman not like the usual bad boys I would date.A very shy gentle man. I really r...
A. 22 March 2008: I think you're being way too hard on him about the warts. Genital warts are a virus, he could have had them for years before you. Shoot, you could've given them to him. Women don't always know that they have them because of our anatomy. It's ... (read in full...)
He keeps going on dating sites, why is does he keep telling lies to me?
Q. i have been involved with a guy for 7 months and we live 2hrs apart.i met him on a dating site,and we agreed to remove ourself from all dating sites.he keeps telling me he isnt on no dating sites nor sex sites but i have been in his email and caught ...
A. 22 March 2008: Grrrr. I hate those sites, they're the devil! I recently found out that my boyfriend who I've been with for over 5 years had an Adult Friend Finder paid account. I've played around on free, innocent dating sites looking for people that I might ... (read in full...)
I've changed my pubic/private area for my husband, what do you think? Advice anyone?
Q. My husband and I have had a lot of trouble with our marriage recently (he had an affair which dear cupid has helped me with and thanks again for that.) It has been hell but I still haven't come to a final decision because it's only 3 and a half ...
A. 22 March 2008: I have to say that your real problems are a little more concerning than reddish pubic hair, percepted perversion and razor stubble. This man is scary, a classic abusive partner. Emotional and mental abuse can do just as much if not more damage to a ... (read in full...)
I found his Nirvana hoodie in my laundry the other day with all these notes I never gave to him...
Q. Well, I have a lot of my exs stuff, but I think he wants me to have it all or just doesn't really care either way. Anyway, I found his Nirvana hoodie in my laundry the other day with all these notes I never gave to him, you see, I used to write ...
A. 22 March 2008: I agree with Danielepew, it wouldn't be "irrational", but what would you be accomplishing by giving them to him? Depending on the circumstances of your breakup, you'd either just be rubbing salt on the wounds or opening up doors that are better left ... (read in full...)
Should I try to make him feel better, or just let it go?
Q. I have this teacher who always seems to put himself down, but i'm not sure if I should try to make him feel better. At the beginning of the school year, my teacher was talking about how he coudldn't wait to get home and see his puppies because ...
A. 22 March 2008: Ooooh, this is territory that you should not be getting into. Yes, it's sad that your teacher may not be doing well, but he should not be discussing or commenting on these things with students. It's inappropriate and unprofessional. I'm sure that ... (read in full...)
I'm being very hormonal right now.
Q. I'm being very hormonal right now. Everything is making me cry. Something made me laugh and because I was laughing, I started to cry. My boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him and I just can't do it and he's sad over something and trying to distr...
A. 22 March 2008: I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I had the same problem, I have always been very sensual and sexually adventurous, but I could never quite get the dirty talk down. I always felt silly when I tried, it makes no sense because I thought ... (read in full...)
I'm not as comfortable with the divorces. I'm working at not being hurt or jealous, but sometimes I can't help it.
Q. I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 42. We've only been dating for a few months, but our relationship is amazing. Both of us are completely out of our elements though. We're both surprised that we've fallen for each other, because we've never been ...
A. 22 March 2008: As a 29 year old divorcee who's dating a much older divorced man, I know that it can be difficult. I have been separated/divorced for almost 8 years now and am completely at terms with the dissolution of my marriage- I rejoiced when it finally ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets messages from sex sites, but denies being a member, says they are random. Is he lying??
Q. My boyfriend gets these instant messages from sex sites, stating "hey I liked your profile, if you want to see my webcam pics you can contact me at...." He says they are just random junk mail that everyone gets. I've got a yahoo account and I ...
A. 22 March 2008: He's probably going to porn sites, but who cares? Is that something that you've both excplicitly stated was off limits? I got to porn sites because I have a sick and twisted voyeur-like curiosity by nature, not because I get off to it or don't ... (read in full...)
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