It can't ever work out, but I'm in love with a married, older woman...
Q. I'm 17 and I have fallen in love with a 22 year old married woman with a 2 year old kid I used to work with. She has also fallen in love with me. We have seen each other quite a lot since I left my previous job. My heart constantly aches and so ...
A. 18 October 2005: She can't love you that much if she has a child! Let her go and find someone else to fall in love with.... (read in full...)
He lies to me and I feel like crying when we're together. I just want to break up with him!
Q. Hey everyone, OK so I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months and he's lied to me a lot, although the other day he crossed the line. I'd found out he'd been sending pictures of his genitals to other people via texts. When I asked him about it...
A. 18 October 2005: Break up with him and let him commit suicide then! I bet you he wont do it. He's controling you which is not a good thing. You obviously don't like him anymore and it sounds like he's not at all bothered with you so just dump him. If he kills ... (read in full...)
Why can't my folks just accept that I love another man?
Q. I'm in a relationship with a man with whom i want to spend the rest of my life with , and he feels the exact same way. If society didn't have such a negative view of homosexuality i would walk down the street holding his hand and declairing my love ...
A. 17 October 2005: I'm afraid no matter what you choose to do, someone will always see you as 'different'. Homophobia is very common but you'll just have to accept it. When I came out to my family about being bisexual I told my mother first. She told me that as long ... (read in full...)
Everyone at uni assumes that there's something going on between my tutor and me...
Q. Hi everyone, I'm having problems with one of my teachers. I am at university and have one tutor in particular who takes me for most of my classes. She has been very helpful to me this year, doing things like taking me home when i'm unwell and taki...
A. 17 October 2005: I think that pops was being a little too harsh to you there but, at the same time, made a very good point. There isn't much you can do I'm afraid. Try and reason with your collegues. Tell them that there isn't anything going on between you two and ... (read in full...)
I'm not supposed to have a boyfriend, so I have one behind my dad's back...
Q. Well see my problem is complicated. I have this ex-boyfriend that i was seeing for about 2 months before he left for Louisiana, and me and him only saw each other 2 times before he left. Well me and him were on the phone and emailing each other. One ...
A. 17 October 2005: Your dad must really love you. He really doesn't mean to make your lovelife horrible, he's just protecting his little girl. But he can't tell you who you can and cannot date. Talk to your mother about your dad. Maybe she can sort something out with ... (read in full...)
When I know I have to move on, I start avoiding my intimate relationships. Why?
Q. Why do I keep doing this? Whenever I am with someone for a long time, I develop a deep relationship with them but whenever time comes to move on due to my career demands or something else I tend to forget my relationship and start avoiding the ...
A. 17 October 2005: Like Irish said. You're thinking more about your career which shows you want to have a good life. Who ever said that you have to have a relationship to be happy in life? And I'm pretty positive that you'll find someone right for you when you are ... (read in full...)
I have a girl who wants to settle down with me, but part of me just isn't ready to!
Q. I have been with my Czech girlfriend for almost a year, and I do love her and care about her a lot. The problem is, the "fizz" has gone out of our relationship over the past couple of months. She's just as keen on me as ever... perhaps too keen – ...
A. 17 October 2005: She does sound like a great woman but if you don't feel attracted to her anymore, then you might as well tell her now because the longer you wait, the harder it will be to leave her. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
He freaked when I wanted to have a chat about what was up with our relationship...
Q. I met this great guy about 2 months ago and we starting seeing each other. It was going extremely well, he kept saying he liked me a lot and we got on famously, but then he was a bit distant as well sometimes. Because of the mixed signals, I decide...
A. 17 October 2005: I think pops took the words right out of my mouth. He obviously doesn't want to be with you.... (read in full...)
We never have time to talk or see each other any more. Is it time to move on?
Q. Hey there, me and my gf have been going out for about 2 years now, after we left school she has gone to 6th form and we never have time for each other and it's making me depressed. I really really miss her and she misses me but i dont know if i can ...
A. 17 October 2005: I think that time has come for you to find someone else. If you are both very distant from each other then find someone that will always be 'reachable'. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
No more joking and fun, my boyfriend's gone all obsessive about me...
Q. Help me. I have been with my bf for 1 month now and I feel like he is suffocating me. Everything was going really well until last weekend. He said he loved me. Ahhhh... I feel he has changed and he is no longer jokey with me and he is all ...
A. 17 October 2005: Dump him. He's being 'touchy and feely' as you put it. You better dump him before he does something that could change you and his life.... (read in full...)
How do I prove to my boyfriend that I'm innocent?
Q. I need help and advice. Me (16) and my boyfriend (16) dated for about eight months. Everything was going great. But he called me one day and said that one of his friends told him I cheated on him when I didn't. We broke up and now he wants me to ...
A. 17 October 2005: If he trusts his friend more than you then he definatly isn't worth it. Tell him that if he really loved you then he would believe you. You don't have to prove anything. If you know you didn't do it, then there we are. Find someone who really cares ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and he's 19. We've been texting, but I want to move on to more!
Q. I met this boy who I really like at a fair that always comes to town. We each got other people to swap numbers. Anyway we have been texting for about a year now and both said we like each other, but we have been with other people. I see him every da...
A. 17 October 2005: Have you looked at the situation properly? You are 13 and he's 19. What would happen if you tow did date each other and then he wanted to have sex? Find someone your own age to date.... (read in full...)
I wouldn't know how to act around a boyfriend!
Q. I'm 15. I really like this boy at school but I don't know whether I should go out with him and I'm nervous because I've never had a boyfriend before. I wouldn't know how to react with although I know I have feelings for him. Please help me!!...
A. 16 October 2005: In a relationship, you're suppose to be happy. It doesn't matter how you act around him as long as both of you are happy together. If you still don't know what to do, ask some friends who have had boyfriends. I'm sure they will help!... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my future husband will be turned off by my scar and stretch marks...
Q. I'm 16 years old and I am still a virgin. Well see, this is how it is, I'm saving myself till marriage. The thing is though, when I do get married I don't want my husband to see my body because I think my body is ugly. I have stretch marks on my ...
A. 16 October 2005: It's what's on the inside that counts, not the outside. If the guy you love only loves you for your looks then don't bother with him. Many people have had worse then falling on glass, some people have had their faces permantly burnt, and still have ... (read in full...)
Will any boy ever wait for me to be ready for a sexual relationship?
Q. Hi I am 15. I don't really want sex or anything like that, and I am scared of the next step in a relationship which goes beyond just kissing. I am scared that I will never be able to get into a serious relationship because of this! Everyone says tha...
A. 16 October 2005: No, there is nothing wrong with you. It's a very wise thing not to be fooling around at that age. When you go out with a guy, tell him how you feel about the whole sex thing. Maybe you will find someone who is just like you. Be proud to feel that ... (read in full...)
At 17, I think I've outgrown my boyfriend...
Q. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years. I love him very much and would do almost anything for him. Lately we have been fighting a lot about the littlest things. The problem is I am 17 and he is 18 and compared to me he is really immature. I now feel...
A. 16 October 2005: We girls will always be more mature than men. If he doesn't change his ways and you are really fed up then the best thing for you to do is to move on. ... (read in full...)
Am I too young?
Q. Do you think 13 is too young to have a boyfriend? ...
A. 16 October 2005: In a way, 13 is a bit too young, but when we turn into teens, our whole body changes, therefore we experiment with different things. It's best to have boys for friends than boyfriends, and to be a bit older when having a proper relationship with a ... (read in full...)
Neither my boyfriend nor I can keep from kissing other people!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 10 months and I feel games are being played. I kissed a couple of guys frequently and he kissed this one girl he dumped me for frequently. I got back with him. But he kissed her again after we ...
A. 16 October 2005: End your relationship, if you can't stay loyal to each other then you better stop seeing him. If you can't stop cheating on each other then it means that you're not happy with him, and he's not happy being with you. Face the facts, the relationship ... (read in full...)
It's not just an infatuation. So what are my chances with the instructor?
Q. Hey I am a 17 year old girl, and I have been in love with an english teacher at my school for the past 2 years( He is in his early thirties). I want him so much, I know I do, it is not just infatuation. However, I don't want his career to be...
A. 16 October 2005: Well, you have to think about him first of all. What would everyone else think for a teacher in his 30s to be going out with a 17 year old? And you have to think about whether he likes you in the same way. What if he's married? And has kids? I know ... (read in full...)
My online girl and I fell for each other, but then her mum found out...
Q. I met a girl online and we hit it off from the start. We would talk like every day for hours on end. I really fell for her (we never met) but the thing is, she is only 14 and I'm 19. The age doesn't bother me. We agreed on waiting till she was older ...
A. 16 October 2005: What is the point in internet relationships? There are probably plenty of good looking girls at your age around you. You can't exactly blame her mother being worried. Just move on, find someone your own age other wise you could be getting yourself ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over my cheating husband?
Q. My spouse and I have been together since we were kids. I had just found out that he's been having an affair and he left me for her. I feel like I can't get over him. Why? What's wrong with me?...
A. 15 October 2005: There is nothing wrong with you at all. You can't get over him because you have been together since you were kids. I feel very sorry for you, it's him with the problem not you. I'm sure you're a wonderful person, don't blame yourself for something ... (read in full...)
I discovered my brother in my crop top and skirt!
Q. I am 19 and my brother is 16. I came home from work just now to find him wearing my crop top and denim skirt. What do I do about it?? Claire xxx...
A. 15 October 2005: Well, I have to say, I bet you didn't see that one coming. He was probably doing it for a laugh. Tell him that if he wanted to have a top and skirt then he should of asked you first.... (read in full...)
We've broken up four times, but my ex still acts like a stalker!
Q. Me and my boyfriend has been dating for 3 months and we have broken up about 4 times. I dont really want to be with him, and every time I break up with him he like stalks me and will not leave me alone. I have tried dating other guys, but he scare...
A. 15 October 2005: Oh my god! What's the matter with him? You should go to the police as soon as you can. You can't have this guy following you for the rest of your life. Who knows what he might do next? This is really serious, tell the police that he's been stalking ... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about going public with my attraction to my best friend...
Q. I have been best mates with my friend for about 4 years now. I am 19 years old and she is 17. We kissed not long ago and have a lot of horny fun together. I don't think I'm gay - maybe bisexual - but I'm so scared of going public with her. I'm...
A. 15 October 2005: People will always have a problem with others who are different than them, especially homosexuals, but it's not your fault that you feel like that. If they have a problem with you then they will have to change and accept it because it's what makes ... (read in full...)
Not attracted to men, I can't really see myself as a lesbian either...
Q. I didn’t know where to turn but here I found a website where I can voice my confusion. It is difficult to say, but my problem is beginning a relationship. I have been confused about my sexual orientation for a long time now, about six years. T...
A. 15 October 2005: I felt like that at one time. I was really afraid of guys, because of what they did and pressured me to do. I really liked girls and dated them quite alot, but my family were very shocked and suprised at my sexuality. I can remember every word that ... (read in full...)
Does the girl in math class like me?
Q. Im 12 years old and in 7th grade. I like this pretty girl in my school. She sometimes wanna be my partner in math class, and she talks to me a lot. But I don't know if she really likes me...
A. 15 October 2005: She might like you or she is probably just being nice to you. But at 12 years old, most teen girls like to change their mind, so don't get your hopes up.... (read in full...)
I cheated, and my boyfriend can't handle it. What do I do?
Q. I'm 17 years old and have been with my boyfriend for One year and three months about six months into the relationship I cheated on him with a male friend of mine. About a month later I told him and he still hasn't got over it and is becoming more ...
A. 15 October 2005: If you cheated on him, then why didn't you just break the relationship up and be with that other guy? You partner must really like you for not breaking up with you before. If he can't handle it, then move on. He can't control you and you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
Is my online guy just teasing, or does he really mean he loves me?
Q. I'm 13... I have been chatting to this guy I really like. My friends think that he is completely wrong for me and has no feelings for me. But whenever we chat, we always say things lik "I luv u!" and "Hi hun" and when we chat on MSN we always s...
A. 15 October 2005: My friend had that problem. One day she said that she had this boyfriend but she never told anyone how she met him. I was really curious to met this new boyfriend of hers. But she said that he was away and she could only talk to him through MSN, ... (read in full...)
I think I fancy the teacher. What's worse is she's female, like me!
Q. I'm only 13 and I feel really bad because I seem to fancy my teacher and she is a woman. I go to a girls' school and rumours fly fast so I don't dare say anything to my friends because I would feel extremely embarassed and I could be overheard. W...
A. 15 October 2005: Don't worry, it's probably just one of those things. I felt like that too with most of my female teachers. You don't have to tell any one that you feel like that, it's your feelings, you don't have to tell anyone.... (read in full...)
Should I confess to Mum that I met this guy online?
Q. I met my boyfriend online and we conversed on the internet for about 1 and a half before I gave him my cell phone number. Then after about 2 months we decided to take the relationship to the next level. Doing the smart thing when I went to meet him...
A. 13 October 2005: It's not really wrong to get boyfriends online, but you must be careful of meeting up with them. My friend who was 13 at the time, had met this boy on a chat room and she saved all of their conversations together, he said that he was 13, slim, good ... (read in full...)
I explained how I feel about his looking at porn, but he still insists he enjoys it.
Q. I am middle aged woman dating a seven year older man for almost 2 years. I recently saw him looking at pornography on the internet when I walked into the room. I was shocked and I tried to explain to him that I felt when you are in a loving, ...
A. 13 October 2005: No, it's not wrong to feel bad. It is a very disrespectful thing to do. You need to tell him that he's hurting you inside, and tell him not to do it again! But if you do see him doing it again, then I suggest you break up with him.... (read in full...)
Is it time to dump my boyfriend?
Q. I cant deal with my boyfriend anymore. He always thinks I'm doing something wrong and picks out things wrong with me and won't let me have male friends, which isnt fair. Do you think I should get rid of him? ...
A. 11 October 2005: Yes yes and yes! If he's treating you like that and not letting you have friends then YES! Get rid of him before he does worse!... (read in full...)
My heart and mind conflict about whether to break up...
Q. If your mind tells you that you want to break up but your heart tells you that you love them...which do you choose?...
A. 11 October 2005: Think about what bad things and good things could come out of it? You would find some one else and hope for the best, and the longer you stay with this person the harder it will be to break up with them. Ask them how they feel, and is it worth ... (read in full...)
My ex says he wants to come back, but his actions suggest something else...
Q. Me and my X have 2 children together. When my second child was 6 months we split up. We had an arguement and he said he was out of here so I locked the door behind him and now he's living with someone else. He says that if I had allowed him back...
A. 11 October 2005: These are his own kids! ... (read in full...)
Tell my friend I like him, or not?
Q. Hi, I'm a girl and I have a friend that's a guy. I have known him for about 4 years. We are friends. My problem is that Ilike him as more than a friend, but I don't know if he feels the same. Do you think I should tell him how I feel or just kee...
A. 11 October 2005: I was in a situation like that before. I told him how I felt and he told me how he felt about me, he liked me as well and we started dating then. And there was one times when I told a guy I liked him he said he no feelings for me. It was really hard ... (read in full...)
Will our 10-year age gap be a problem?
Q. He is 28 and I am 18 and he has a 8 year old daughter. However our age difference has become a problem for both sides of the story. We are afraid that our families won't accept the relationship. I have tried to mention the situation to my mother. ...
A. 11 October 2005: Don't worry about it. My friend's parents have a 20 year age gap. She always said that as long as you love them, no matter what colour, race, sexuallity and age they are, as long as they will treat you with respect and be forever loyal to you, it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend makes me feel guilty for leaving to visit family!
Q. Dear Cupid, My girlfriend and I have been having issues for a while now. We have been dating for nearly 2.5 years. Recently, I visited my family across the coutry and was away for a few weeks. I spoke to her every day during the trip to say hi a...
A. 11 October 2005: No offence but if my partner was like that then I'd slap them across the face. I think she's really ungratefull for treating you like that. Tell her "I love you and you love me but I don't control you like this so you shouldn't control me" she's the ... (read in full...)
Engaged to my partner, but I can't stop thinking of another guy...
Q. I've been with my partner for 18months and we are due to marry next year. I love him loads and want to be with him, but I have recently bumped into an old friend who told me that he'd always had feelings for me. Now I can't stop thinking about him ...
A. 11 October 2005: If you love your boyfriend and you're going to marry him then this other guy can't be as special as that. Just tell your self that he is the only one you truly love. There's always going to be times where we think that there's always someone better ... (read in full...)
Our families would be against our marrying, but I still want us to be together...
Q. I was dating my ex boyfriend for almost 4 years, we broke up because we realised we couldn't get married due to the fact that we are of different religions and our families wouldn't be supporting. However, I want to get back with him even if it m...
A. 11 October 2005: What do you think you should do? Just because you and him are different religions doesn't mean you can't marry. Surely you have friends? They can support you. You can marry who ever you like, no matter about any thing else, it's about what you want. ... (read in full...)
Bob's the sort of man I want to marry... just not right now.
Q. I’m 18 years old and trying to figure out the relationships in my life. For instance "Bob". He’s 19 years old and graduated a year before me. I’ve known him for 2 years and have dated him on and off. we've been really good friends forever. We still ...
A. 10 October 2005: Do you think you can find better? This "Bob" sounds quite charming. But you have to think about these things, will he always treat you right, through the good times and the bad? Do you swear to be loyal? At the end of the day, if you know you can't ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to understand that I only want her?
Q. I've been with my current girlfriend for the last 5 and a half years. Throughout these last few years she has been very jealous of my female friends. Over the years she must of accused me of having affairs or being attracted to almost all of them. ...
A. 10 October 2005: Well, she must really like you if she's so worried about you like that. Tell her that you love her and only her. Maybe if you tell your other female friends that your partner thinks your cheating then maybe they can talk to her about it and they can ... (read in full...)
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