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I wouldn't know how to act around a boyfriend!

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Question - (2 October 2005) 28 Answers - (Newest, 10 February 2010)
A female , anonymous writes:

I'm 15. I really like this boy at school but I don't know whether I should go out with him and I'm nervous because I've never had a boyfriend before. I wouldn't know how to react with although I know I have feelings for him. Please help me!!

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A female reader, xlittlemisstroublex United Kingdom +, writes (10 February 2010):

listen girl i was going thru the same problem and i had my friend ask him for me now where going out and im really happy as for the how to act i dont have a clue myself im still nervous about that but if ya like him ask him out girl!

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A female reader, cutikiss1234 United States +, writes (12 November 2009):

listen girl...... think about how you feel about him. become friends and go from there.i hv a boyfriend. hes extreamly sweet and shy. make shure he is your top pick and tht he is not taken and then its ok to be with him. if you are to scared to ask him out then get a friend to do it for you. if your friend wont then just give him a note or put it in his locker. once you are together be yourself. flirting and being cute and romantic comes naturally. just make shure you dont go to far. or to fast for a high school relationship.

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A female reader, LindseyM United Kingdom +, writes (2 April 2009):

I have also been in this situation. I found the best way to act around a boyfriend is to take a deep breath before speaking to that cute guy, This only takes a few seconds and helps to calm you down so you can act more natural. Continue to do it if you feel yourself starting to freak out.

Offer compliments and ask him questions about himself. Dont be to clingy to the boy though, as this causes the lad to think you are stalking him which isn't a good sign! Lastly remember to be yourself boys don't like girls who are fake just act normal and speak to him as you would to a mate

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008):

well i know how you feel. i have been in you position millions of times!

some advice i'd give you is if this boy that you really have feelings for, does he like you?

if not maybe you should try looking really good to make him look at you like "wow that chick hott!" and maybe try to wink at him while you walk past him.

but just really try to grab his attention.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008):

I act like myself. i'm naturally a but immature and crazy so i act like it! There are also certain times when you need to be less crazy and be serious. its all about balance!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008):

Me i can tell you over 13 boyfriends ive had not including the one i have now just act cute but not like a hoe and just act like yourself if he's really your type he'll like you for who you are and not for someone else that your trying to act like okay.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

hey i think that if you have feelings for him you shoud go for it and hang out with him and you will see that having a boyfriend it's a beatiful experience and you shoud try it and just an advice be yourself

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007):

hey my names beth im 15 and im currently in a quite strong relationship, my advise to you would be, just go for it, there is no real thought that gose into how you act around a bf, it just kind off happends the best way that i could explain how to act would be either just go along with how he acts eg, if he puts his arm around you, you do the sme, hold his hand if yr walking down the street stuff like that, and other than that treat him like a gd friend, i have learnt from watching some of my olde m8s that there is no wright or wrong thing to do, if things arnt qite how u would like them to be, then change them, it will all come naturaly so just go with it

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007):

I just got my first boyfriend. Im 13 and we've only hung out twice so far. Once at Magic Moutain where he asked me out and at school. Its really akward because i dont know what to talk about and im nervous when im around him and i suppose hes the same way. Anyone know what to do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007):

Omg im going through the exact same thing...ecept i just took action and i passed him a note today right before the last bell rang. Then i hurried to the bus. Im still waiting for his reply...if he says yes he 2 will b my 1st boyfriend..and i too no that u dont really no how to act when hes ur first...and when people say just act urself... well i no its a lot harder than that...just slip him a note and if he says yes. Great..if he says no...then theres nothn u really can do. i found ur quetion cause im scared and nervous--if he says yes i wanna no how to act to i was surfin the web..kinda funny i no but im not gonna act all weird and readin these kind of things helps me feel better...i hope this helps at all!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007):

just remember to act yourself. dont be nervous, more than likely he's nervous aswel, jus try forget the nerves and go for it, you only live once.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007):

well just be your self and act normal go for it

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007):

Its like that! it might take time to get comfortable and learn how to act, but just try to relax, thats all anyone can do!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2006):

I think u should go ahead and ask him out.boys are anti social they dont know how to act or feel about a girl.they are more nervouse than u think.just act normal and dont be shy if the boy see's that u r shy hell feel thet you have low self esteem.be outgoing make him laugh be yourself and have fun hell have fun

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006):

Im 13 and my guy friend likes mee he is really nice but imnot sure if i like him and i dontmknow how 2 kiss please help me!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2006):

The best thing is to figure out if he likes you too. If he does and you go out with him, try to act neutral and be calm and I know you've herd this before but, just be yourself. I he dosen't like you, his loss.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2006):

I know how you feel. I've been in this exact situation. But if you really like this boy, you should take a chance. Just act normally around him, but add something (e.g.hold hands) to show he's more then a friend. If he's really worth it, he won't push you into anything else. Just be yourself! I know it sounds too simple but if you really like him, the way you act will come naturally.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006):

well im only 10 but my advise is to be yourself show him that you like him with a present a note or just walk straight up to him.I have a boyfriend and he is to shy to hang around me l really like him but if hes not going to act like himself soon i may brake up with him. So just be yourself.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2006):

well if u know that u really like him then go hard....it all works out in the end....don't worry i worried the same thing as u did before i got my boyfriend but its a great feeling in the end!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2005):

Go for it, it's just like being with a close friend. I'm still with my first boyfriend and it was weird and i'm still confussed but it's fun. It's a friend that you can cuddle with and kiss and tell everything to, it's like the other half of you...it's a great feeling. And once you fall in love it's even better.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005):

if youve never had a boyfriend before your bound to be nervous ! but just chill out be cool and go and talk to him youl know if he likes you and if it goes well dont be afraid to ask him on a date" lifes to short to just watch and weait make things happen

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005):

i have 2 word for you BE YOURSELF and you will have all the luck you need to have your first boyfriend

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A female reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (16 October 2005):

In a relationship, you're suppose to be happy. It doesn't matter how you act around him as long as both of you are happy together. If you still don't know what to do, ask some friends who have had boyfriends. I'm sure they will help!

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A female reader, xixi +, writes (3 October 2005):

Don't worry about how to act, there should be no acting involved when you're dating anyone. Just enjoy his company like when you're hanging out with your friends and it should be fun! Going out to see a movie and have some dinner is always a good start and you can talk about how good (or even how bad!) the movie was and what other movies you like. Good luck on your very first date!

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A female reader, prunella +, writes (3 October 2005):

"I wouldn't know how to act around a boyfriend!"

It is so hard to know what to do and say around the opposite sex. I did not have my first botfriend till I was 16 because I was scared of asking any boy I fancied out. I finally plucked up the courage. I think you should act as yourself around boys, their is not point in putting on an act. If I was you I would get to know the lad as a friend first, you never know in the end he might be asking you out! Good luck

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A female reader, married with 1 +, writes (3 October 2005):

i felt the same when i was your age infact i was 18 when i had my first boyfriend as i was so shy when someone asked me out i said no. it may all be new to you but you need to start somewhere and if you like him go for it. if it gets too much then talk to him tell him you want to take it slow, if he's interested in you he will listen

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A reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (3 October 2005):

Dont think that there is a way to act to have and to keep a boyfriend.

I understand that as its a new area for you, you are going to naturally worry, BUT just be YOURSELF.

Now the only reason why he wouldnt want you is if he finds that you are not a good match for him (dont have much in common etc.) and not because your in-experience. So if it doesnt go well (which i sure it will) dont blame yourself, it just wasnt meant to be!

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A female reader, kelly_ann +, writes (3 October 2005):

Well if you have feeling for him then go 4 it! I mean everyone has to have there first boyfriend just be yourself around, no point in being anything else. At first it can be akward but after the conversations keep coming and then you start to get comftable with each other! good luck

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