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What is the 'norm' for hair down below?

Q.   I don't suppose this is relationship per se but it's just something I've been pondering and can't answer it myself! Well I have been seeing this guy for a while now and we've been making out and stuff but things are starting to get a bit more h...

A.   5 January 2011: Don't shave it, it's awful. Trimming is a nice compromise between bushy and shaven I think... (read in full...)

1st period and I need some advice

Q.   I just got my period for the first time and I am a little nervous about whats going on in my body. Can anyone help, girls only please....

A.   31 December 2010: Periods are a natural process of the body expelling on an underfertlised egg from your body. It's a completely natural process, don't worry all girls get them! Be sure to keep some pads/ tampons with you when you go out and change them regularly ... (read in full...)

What does love feel like to you? How do you know when you are in love? Is love at first sight possible?

Q.   What does love feel like to you? How do you know when you are in love? Is love at first sight possible? I'm not talkin about lust, but seeing someone and conversing with them, and just knowing they are someone special....

A.   31 December 2010: You just know. You love everything about them, you want to be with them every second of the day, when you are having a bad day they make it a good one again. It makes you happy just to be in the same room as them because to you, no one lights it up ... (read in full...)

I'm gay but desperately need to be straight

Q.   I need some advice about my sexuality. I'm an 18 year old girl and I'm gay, but I desperately try to be straight. I don't have a problem with gay people and I'm not homophobic, but I was always raised to believe that men end up with women and ...

A.   22 December 2010: You can't hide from your sexuality. You will always be attracted to women no matter how much you try to be with men. You will make yourself severely unhappy if you do not embrace your love for women. Please accept who you are Going out with a man ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is asking for too much.....

Q.   Hey guys and gals i have a problem... a major one... my girlfriend wants to have sex with me! First of all why now? im fourteen for goodness sake and second of all i don't really love my girlfriend anymore i was going to break up with her t...

A.   21 December 2010: Hey there! I think you need to tell her she's going way too fast, you're still so young! I can't believe she would be talking about anal sex at such a young age, I didn't know what that was till I was about 15! She might just be saying All th... (read in full...)

Why am I obsessed with a woman I don't want?

Q.   Why am I insanely obsessed 24-7 with a woman I don't want?...

A.   21 December 2010: Because you do want her.... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonably insecure about the size of my thing?

Q.   Mm, I'll just start by saying that my penis is only 4 inches long (length) and 4 inches around (girth) at the hardest point of my erections. So yes, my penis is well under the 6 inch average length and I don't know what's the average girth but I can ...

A.   21 December 2010: It's not the size, its what you can do with what you've got ... (read in full...)

Why does he cheat, there's nothing binding him to me?

Q.   I have been in a relationship with this guy for almost 4 yrs. I have caught him cheating on me a couple of times. But he insist that he want me and dont want to loose me. So why would a man cheat on you if he is really in love with you and dont want ...

A.   12 December 2010: He cheats because he knows he can get away with it over and over again. Don't let him sweet talk you back. Get out there and find a loving man who respects you x... (read in full...)

I never get hit on!

Q.   I am a 19 year old woman. I'm five foot four 115 pounds in very good shape. Have green eyes long blonde hair and I'm a model and a nurse. I'm friendly and I smile but men still NEVER approach me. I don't feel like I'm unattractive and I make eye ...

A.   12 December 2010: Some guys are scared to approach really attractive women cos they're afraid she's way out of their league. Go up to a guy you like and start talking, make some jokes etc so then he knows it's alright to talk to you. Walk tall and be confident ... (read in full...)

I just feel so directionless!

Q.   Recently, well its been a feeling for some time but more prominent at the moment, I just feel so directionless! My life isn't going anywhere. I'm 21, never had a girlfriend, sex, never even had a proper kiss, no female friend. I'm quite shy ...

A.   7 December 2010: You remind me of my best friend! He's overweight, nerdy and never has a girlfriend but recently he's been really confident and the girls love him! It doesn't matter what you look like, girls lobe someone who is omf... (read in full...)

Texting her ex...Damn technology

Q.   So My question is pretty simple; so me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 months. We both just got out of longer term relationships of 3 years and we are very happy in the relationship we have now. The problem is she always is texting ...

A.   7 December 2010: Hey, I think alot of people experience this problem nowadays , including me with my ex. He was always texting his ex and loads of other girls all the time even when I was with him! you need to give her an ultamatum either she stops texting him ... (read in full...)

Is pubic hair on a guy more acceptable than on a girl?

Q.   Well, I have been very close to my boyfriend and we talked about sexual things. Not sex though. We talked about fingering and hand jobs and I gave him a hand job. He hasnt fingered me though. Not to share this to the world but he has pubic hair and ...

A.   3 December 2010: My boyfriend has pubic hair. I don't expect him to shave and he doesn't expect me to either. I do trim tho, it's doesn't itch like shaving does x... (read in full...)

He tells me he loves me but tells others that he stays with my out of pity

Q.   ok , here it is i've been with my bf for like 11 month now , but last week he left me his laptop since we had a project to finish together he was so dumb to leave his laptop while he knows whats on it, so out of curiosity i checked his chat logs to ...

A.   3 December 2010: Dump him, please. My ex was constantly chatting to other girls on the Internet and bad mouthing me and it did my head in. He's not sorry for what he did, by leaving his laptop on he probably wanted you to see it and didn't have the balls to end it ... (read in full...)

How do I find out what my sexual preferences are? Shouldn't I just know?

Q.   I have a very loving boyfriend of 2 years, and we are very happy together. But I can't help but think that I could be a lesbian. I've been very masculine all my life, and I've always found women so beautiful. I mean, I am an artist, so I find a lot ...

A.   3 December 2010: Hey, at one point I felt like this too, I found myself looking at other women and thinking how gorgeous their bodies are etc. But I loved having sex with my boyfriend. you aren't a lesbian. It's natural for women to appreciate the beauty of ot... (read in full...)

Do men mind pubic hair?

Q.   Hi, I'm so embarrassed I don't know what to say but i have to ask I haven't had sex before and I was wondering about pubic hair do I have to remove it or its okay to leave it there? do men mind? I know its painful and I don't know what to do plz h...

A.   2 December 2010: Shaving my pubes was the worst thing I ever did. So itchy! My boyfriend tol me to grow it back because of the stubble!... (read in full...)

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