My emotions consume me
Q. I'm so volatile in this relationship. I worry about where we are and where we're going and fearing an end that may not even come. I cry all the time both when I'm upset or misunderstood something and when I'm full of joy at the thought of ...
A. 2 November 2011: bardia: I understand what you are saying. I have been on and off anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications myself, and often wonder "why me?" Why do I need to do all this when other people just feel "normal" without so much effort? In the ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: If you think you are going to be in a relationship with the new girl, then no, you shouldn't do this. It will be seen as cheating. You think it is cheating too or you wouldn't be trying to justify to yourself. It seems pretty clear that you ... (read in full...)
My emotions consume me
Q. I'm so volatile in this relationship. I worry about where we are and where we're going and fearing an end that may not even come. I cry all the time both when I'm upset or misunderstood something and when I'm full of joy at the thought of ...
A. 1 November 2011: Instead of taking antidepressants, have you tried talk therapy? Or getting some books on anxiety or depression and working on some of the techniques yourself? There are lots of resources out there that you might try. Also, not all antidepressants ... (read in full...)
She's my first everything, I'm her seconds....
Q. I'm 26 and had never dated or anything up until a year and a half ago (not a lot of confidence in that department). I've been with the same girl now for that time frame. She's amazing. She told me early on she wasn't a virgin (I am). She has only ...
A. 31 October 2011: I am in a similar situation to you, in some ways. I lost my virginity to my current girlfriend, who has had multiple partners. I don't know how many and I hope I never know, because I'm afraid I would have the same irrational feelings you are ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be that wet?
Q. when l have sex l become so wet n its so irritating coz den disgusting sounds are heard, this turns me off but he says its a turn on, im just 24 bt feel too loose when im wet and for me to feel him l hv to realy open up... is it me or it happens...
A. 27 October 2011: You really don't need to worry about this. Discovering that a woman is wet is a turn on. It's sexy. It makes the guy feel like you really want him. I don't think it's something you should worry about at all - I think your BF is telling the truth ... (read in full...)
I'm so ashamed and afraid that I have an STD!
Q. this summer i made a huge mistake. i hooked up with a guy and we both performed oral on each other. he didnt cum though. he had had a few oral sexual partners before, and had said he never showed any symptoms for stds. i have shown none as well but ...
A. 27 October 2011: It is possible you have an STD from this encounter, but it is unlikely. You say that neither of you show any symptoms, which is a good start, and that you didn't have any genital-genital contact. Many STDs are transmissible without any outward ... (read in full...)
Problems with premature ejaculation!
Q. Hi, I have a sex problem. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now. He has always had a bit of a problem with premature ejaculation, not coming ridiculously quickly but the sex only ever really lasts ten minutes or something. Anyway, ...
A. 27 October 2011: Does your BF know that you aren't satisfied? You said you haven't talked about it with him, so maybe he thinks everything is fine. Can you work with him so that he can be sure to satisfy you even if he's already ejaculated? Or by making sure you ... (read in full...)
What to do when she is the more experienced one?
Q. So there's this dude, we'll call him, simply, Dude who likes this girl, we'll call this girl Lady Friend. Now, Dude has never gone 'all the way' whereas Lady Friend is more experienced than Dude. Lady Friend and Dude have been friends for a wh...
A. 19 October 2011: I was in your situation, and I told my gf fairly early, in a situation where we were making out but sex was not in our plans yet. She reacted really positively, although she did say she felt a little concerned that she wouldn't be "good enough" for ... (read in full...)
Problem in the bedroom
Q. How can I help my boyfriend with erection issues? What can be done? My boyfriend is 26 and we've been dating a couple months. Our sex life has been far from sucessful. I had barely any sexual experience and he hadn't had sex for years. We spend ...
A. 19 October 2011: This is a common problem! The interruption in the flow while putting on the condom can often be a problem, as it distracts him from you and lets any doubts about performance surface. ESPECIALLY if he's lost his erection while putting on a condom ... (read in full...)
Honest opinions: Are all boys like this over oral sex or is he out of order?
Q. hi, have been with my bf for 5 years. we are both 26. we keep on having the same arguement ALL the time its regarding oral sex and we he nearly finished our relationship over it a couple of weeks ago. bjs are really important to him but i re...
A. 18 October 2011: He's totally out of line. He has no right to talk to you that way *period*, let alone over something like this. He's been with you five years - but it doesn't sound like he appreciates you enough.
He wants you to do something intimate that you... (read in full...)
Is it a stigma to be a 31 year old Male Virgin? And is my drastic solution the best one, in the circumstances?
Q. I don't know how to put this as a question: I just want to know if I'm not alone in the way that I feel? My story: I'm a 31-year-old guy and still a virgin. I am deeply pained - being a virgin at 31 feels like a stigma and to a large extent i...
A. 14 October 2011: So, just so you know I know what you are feeling: I lost my virginity at 37. I think the decision to lose your virginity to a prostitute is not a sound one. It seems like you are doing it just to get it over with, in the (mistaken) belie... (read in full...)
Will a man notice my lack of experience?
Q. I am 27 and I only had sex several times with one man 5 years ago. And he wasnt able to provide any orgasm despite his supposedly vast experience with women at the age of 45. Will it feel weird the first time i have sex with a man again? (i have not ...
A. 14 October 2011: The man might be able to tell, or not. I think everyone gets a nervous again with someone new, so he could just attribute it to that. But, I would suggest that you tell him. Nearly every guy will find your relative lack of experience as de... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to cook for me but he's a terrible cook!
Q. So this is kind of a silly question but I do need some logical advice on this. My boyfriend is a great guy(the majority of the time). He isn't a cheater, liar, or woman beater so...he's definitely a keeper lol. The problem is...He's a terrib...
A. 14 October 2011: Full credit for him for trying. Do you think the problem is what he's cooking, or how he cooks it?
If it's the recipes, maybe you can plan the meals together? Or share cooking: one person makes the main dish, the other makes the sides, o... (read in full...)
Couldn't get it up.....
Q. So there's this guy i've been hanging out with at uni. We're both 18, and he seems like a genuine lovely guy. Anyway the other night we were both out at a party with separate groups, but ended up hanging together, kissing etc. I should point out we ...
A. 14 October 2011: From a male perspective, I can definitely sympathize. Even if it's not a big deal for the woman, it's always a big deal for the guy. We feel like we spend 99% of our lives ready for sex at the drop of a hat (or your pants), and then when the ... (read in full...)
I've decided to swallow my boyfriend's semen, but I'm still scared.
Q. i've decided to swallow my bfs semen and i'm still nervous about it. i'm afraid i'll gag from the taste. people said it's better to let it shoot down your throat but i'm horrible at deep throating. i was wondering, does the semen shoot out fast into ...
A. 14 October 2011: Maybe you should let him ejaculate first on the abdomen. From your question about how fast it comes out, I get the feeling you might not have actually seen a man ejaculate before. You can perform oral sex but finish him with your hand - it'll ... (read in full...)
Could this just be lack of experience on his part?
Q. I have a question about men and sex. Recently I started seeing a new man, he is in his late 20's and not very experienced. He told me he didn't really enjoy penetration and could take it or leave it. When he does have sex he tends to favour girl o...
A. 7 October 2011: Speaking as an inexperienced man myself, yes - it could be lack of experience, or lack of confidence. I know that I felt more comfortable with my gf on top. But when she explained how exciting it was for her for me to take more control sometime, ... (read in full...)
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