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Does this woman have stalker tendencies?

Q.   I'll get straight to it. I have had the same woman pop up at my apartment because she couldn't reach me via phone, deny me the previously enjoyed privilege of caressing her butt and after months of no communication, send me a birthday text. ...

A.   6 September 2016: Honeypie is right and mg apologies for the idea that I have rights to grab ass. Let me clarify. We met at a party, we both obviously wanted SOMETHING from one another because beside the night of flirting, groping, dancing and an unexpected snows... (read in full...)

How difficult is it supposed to be for a man to orgasm from receiving oral sex?

Q.   Not sure if any of the same people are around or have even read my previous posts, but to update, I've long gotten over my anxiety and have been having a "healthy" sex life. I'd love to ramble about how much better I am at having sex, but let's g...

A.   9 December 2013: Thanks, Cerberus. I personally don't care if I cum from oral or not, but she has set it as a goal. I prefer that we let the ball bounce where it may. If she does it, great. If not, I'm not worried. I'll just assure her of that and hopefull... (read in full...)

Which is more important in a partner: being physically attractive, or being good in bed?

Q.   I have a general question for everyone. Do you prefer a partner who is good looking but boring in bed, or a partner who is average looking but good in bed?...

A.   9 December 2013: Good in bed. My girlfriend isn't "hot", but she is quite cute, and although she has a low sex drive (I outlast her most of the time), she's great in bed (considering her experience) and WILL fight her own sex drive to have more sex. It's th... (read in full...)

My ex dumped me and hasn't been in touch since, but I miss him and want to contact him

Q.   I was with my ex for four years. He dumped me two months ago. I was mad and hated him the first month, but I started missing him like crazy recently. He never contacted me after the break up, never asked what I'm up to or how I am. I don't have the ...

A.   6 July 2013: This is funny, as I struggled with the same issue for a bit. (Person memtioned at the bottom is totally unrelated.) A friend and I took things a bit far, and after a small spat, nothing was the same. I tried my best to restore our friendsh... (read in full...)

First time sex didn't turn out so great!

Q.   So, I had my first intercourse experience. That may be inaccurate though, but I don't know if fingering someone is an "intercourse" experience. I had fingered her silly, she wanted more and asked for two fingers inside. I obliged and things got h...

A.   7 July 2012: @Person12345 I came home from work this morning and she was still here, which I felt was a good sign. She wasn't being insensitive, it turns out. She's quite cool with the situation and we'll be seeing each other again tomorrow. Hopefully I can ... (read in full...)

Does she want my penis or just want a friend for comfort?

Q.   Long time no see. I'll get straight to it. Alright, so last year a friend from my past sprang up and started talking to me again. To clarify, I had spent some time with her boyfriend and she must have been curious or thought I was dead or somethin...

A.   17 March 2012: No revelations in the latest conversation. *sigh*... (read in full...)

Does she want my penis or just want a friend for comfort?

Q.   Long time no see. I'll get straight to it. Alright, so last year a friend from my past sprang up and started talking to me again. To clarify, I had spent some time with her boyfriend and she must have been curious or thought I was dead or somethin...

A.   17 March 2012: Thanks for the thoughts. So we finally hung out today. I walked to her car and we went to a burger joint. She insisted on paying (even though I told her I had my own). We rode back to my house to eat and talk about random stuff. She had lied on ... (read in full...)

She said she used to have a crush on me, so does she still have feelings for me now?

Q.   While passing by my sister mid-conversation, I heard her say that if a girl brings up the fact that she HAD feelings for you (with no disclaimer) it's a fact that she still HAS feelings for you. This brings me to....well me. A friend from year...

A.   26 October 2011: Thanks. I'm convinced that she's just being her and there's no ulterior motive on her part. Hopefully we can continue with this awesome friendship we have. ... (read in full...)

My classmates are sexually active or in relationships. Is there something wrong with me?

Q.   Im 15 and Im in ninth grade. Half of the kids in my grade had already lost their virginity (Im not one of them of course), and 3 of my 5 best friends have a boyfriend. Ive never had a boyfriend in my life, never been kissed etc. Im not a lesbian,or ...

A.   26 October 2011: Really? Society is definitely worse than I thought. Look, I'm 21 and a virgin. I wanted to wait until I was 18 to even consider sex. Not because of my religion (or lack thereof) and not due to pressures from any outside source. Here's what y... (read in full...)

Tatoos and laser removal

Q.   I am 20 years old and have alot of tattoos. Id say around 16. I got alot of them when i was 17/18. I love them but I really want the ones on my arm gone...I havent been succesful in the relationships ive been in, and sometimes I feel like these ...

A.   26 October 2011: I have nothing helpful to say, but I rather like women with tattoos and all the women I know would describe me as a "nice guy". Not a pussy though, just to be clear. All these things we worry about are totally subjective or rather dependen... (read in full...)

I always have to text first

Q.   if he doesn't text me first what does that mean? i always am the one to start the conversation......

A.   26 October 2011: I know I'm not helping anything, but I feel your pain.... (read in full...)

Why do I have feelings for much older men?

Q.   hello i'm 15(almost 16 thank you very much) and partly normal but overall typical well except for the fact of liking men 15 to 20 years older than me. yeah it's great to fantasize about these gorgeous men but i hate thinking of what i can't have. ...

A.   12 July 2011: I have the same problem with older women. As long as you don't LIMIT YOUR OPTIONS to older men, you don't really have a problem. Just wait a couple years before you go hanging with these guys. We don't need people catching cases in the world.... (read in full...)

I'm in love with a much younger woman......

Q.   Let me start by saying that I'm not a native English speaker, so, I'm really sorry if you find some spelling/grammar mistakes. I hope you can at least understand me. I'm 30 and I'm in love with a 19 years old girl. She studies medicine and she is a...

A.   6 June 2011: Your grammar is impeccable. More so than most people I've met born into English speaking America. Students in my school disgusted me with their poor spelling and such. But I digress, this is about the young lady. Age is all but nothing these da... (read in full...)

Boyfriend almost hit me, did I make the wrong choice by forgiving him?

Q.   2 days ago i was at my boyfriends house (we r both 18 and have been together for 2 years) and he was studying for some upcoming test. I was getting bored so I started talking to him asking him questions like "how is the studying going" etc. I"ll ...

A.   6 June 2011: I don't care how much a woman annoys me, the most she'll get is my most demeaning remark. (ensures sulking to give me some peace and I'm usually regretful later) Unless I'm presented with a threat from a woman, violence is off the table. You s... (read in full...)

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