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If he went soft when we were having sex, does it mean he wasn't enjoying it?

Q.   If 2 people are having sex and enjoying it, what does it mean if the guy goes soft half way through?? Does it mean he didnt like me? or wasnt enjoying himself? I'm filling my head with lots of rubbish and just need someone to tell me what it ...

A.   16 July 2005: No, it's nothing like that at all. It's normal for the penis to go soft. Just take the time to give it some extra attention and you'll be up and ready to go again in no time. But you might also want to make sure he's relaxed. Sometime... (read in full...)

Nine months apart and it's like we can't remember how to have good sex together!

Q.   My hubby and I have been married for only three weeks. We lived together before we were married and had amazing sex all the time. Then, we were away from each other for 9 months. Since we've been reunited and married, the sex has been terribl...

A.   23 June 2005: Try taking control. Get on top or something. Show him EXACTLY how you like it. Obviously its not working with him in control. I should be telling you that you should take turns, but it seems that he knows what he wants..haha...so take the time ... (read in full...)

I feel guilty now for little things I did early in the relationship...

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have being going out for 8 months. I'm head over heels in love with her and she has just went away to Greece and for some reason I keep thinking of things that happened early in the realtionship and feeling guilty. E.g. t...

A.   23 June 2005: I think the flashing thing is forgivable enough. It was stupid, nothing happens, and its okay to have fun. No one was hurt. Even though you still feel guilty about the whole 'how she looks thing', you already said it doesn't bother you anymore. ... (read in full...)

I just want my girlfriend to admit that the porn on the laptop is hers, but she won't...

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year now. We've had our ups and downs just like anyone else, but recently we've been arguing often. Recently, I accessed her laptop and found cookies with evidence of porn and videos. I decided ...

A.   22 June 2005: I agree with everything Bev said. Its not a deal. If she looks at porn, get over it. Its her business. My exboyfriend use to bother me about it all the time and all it did was piss me off. That sort of thing is meant to be a PERSONAL thing. ... (read in full...)

Her online chat log suggests that more was going on than she admits... What do I believe?

Q.   Is her story a lie? Hello, i need some advice about my relationship. I have been seeing a girl for four years now and we are serious. For the last two years we have been in a long distance relationship and we are hoping that in the next 6-9 months ...

A.   19 June 2005: If you really love her you should give her a second chance. Keep an eye on her, though. Not like a hawk, but just enough to feel secure. You have the right to be questionable right now. But I think, from the way it sounds, that its worth giving ... (read in full...)

Sex is fantastic with my mate's mum. But what if my mate finds out about us?

Q.   I am faced with a real problem. I am a 18 year old who is seeing a 47 year old woman. The problem is she has a son who is one of my best friends. She used to be married to a very successful businessman but they got divorced five years ago. She has ...

A.   19 June 2005: You need to ask yourself this question: What's more important? My friend or sex with his mom? I make it a point to never go after my friend's family members. Its a strange situation and not the most welcomed in my opinion. You should sit down ... (read in full...)

My girl's dad found out some of my history as a stupid kid, and now he won't let me see his daughter!

Q.   Guys or Girls, I really need your help on this one because my life depends on it. You may ask well how can a problem with your girlfriend effect your life? Well it's because my girlfriend is my life ya see. Before her I was a lonely "boy". I didn't...

A.   18 June 2005: All that can really be done is to have your girlfriend talk to her dad. Maybe you should try having her convince her dad to invite you over for dinner. Tell her that she needs to tell him to give you a chance because you deserve it. Also, how... (read in full...)

He and I just click together and we love to cuddle up... but I feel like such a pervert.

Q.   Im 32 years old, been married, but now divorced. I go clubbing every weekend, I live for the moment, and enjoy life to the full. I met last year, through another friend, this lad. we got on realy well, had the same thoughts on life, he loved mu...

A.   18 June 2005: From what it seems to be..he likes you. He's just a little unsure of it all right now. He's still seeing girls and just from that I can tell he's confused about his sexual orientation. Just move slowly but don't give up if you're really serious ... (read in full...)

After she told me that we have sex "wrong", I was at a total loss...

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. Recently though, she has told me that I have sex wrong. Maybe not "wrong" but that it's just sex to me. I love the girl to death. To be honest, I feel I love her more than she me, but this is ...

A.   18 June 2005: How often do you two practice foreplay? For a girl, foreplay is everything. Sure a girl moans loud during the actual sex part...yadda yadda yadda...but if the foreplay sucks....the whole thing does. Try getting her into the bedroom by using many ... (read in full...)

My man is obsessive and possessive and he wants me - literally! - by his side...

Q.   I was going to abort his baby, I miscarried before the actual abortion. Now my boyfriend won't let me treat my children from a previous marriage in any special ways because I was going to kill his child. This is difficult and painful for me to do. ...

A.   17 June 2005: Don't try to play his game. Its not a game that anyone ever wins and would just complicate things more. I feel for you. I really do. This is a toughie but I know you'll be just fine. You seem to have confidence in your intelligence and I'm ... (read in full...)

I thought he was trying to take advantage when I was drunk, but now I worry that I've turned him off permanently!

Q.   I have a friend who I imagined likes me. Two weeks ago I went out with my friends, including him and I got drunk. He took me home that night and while he was driving me home he confessed he likes me. Later on, we starting talking about a sensitiv...

A.   17 June 2005: You should tell him exactly how you felt. Once he knows this and knows that you have no hard feelings towards him, he SHOULD be fine. I'm sure he'll be able to understand that. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be taken advantage of. A ... (read in full...)

My g/f knew for 4 years that I can't have kids, but we broke up over it just 2 weeks ago.

Q.   I have been in a relationship for 4 years. We have had our ups and downs. Two weeks ago she told me she still loved me but not the same way and wanted just friendship. I can't have kids as I've had the snip, but she is desperate for a child. ...

A.   10 June 2005: Maybe you should try talking to her about taking a trip to the sperm bank? I'm not quite sure how the uncle dying has anything to do with it, though.... (read in full...)

She doesn't want a relationship, but there are lots of other things that she wants!

Q.   dear sir/madam How can I help my best friend who loves a girl deeply, but this girl does not want a relationship, but wants my best friend to pay her college fees and apartment for her, as well? And he agrees to help, but she doesnt want him to l...

A.   10 June 2005: Personally, I think there's something wrong with that. You might sit down with your friend and remind him that he can't let people walk all over him. Even if she did decide she wanted to be with him, it shouldn't be for a price. Let him know that ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend never wants to be with anyone else, but can I be happy if I've never even kissed another guy?

Q.   We have been together for two and a half years. He is my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend. We go to different colleges two and a half hours away and it has been very hard lately. We have no other experience in dating, other than our own ...

A.   9 June 2005: I was in the exact same situation not too long ago and its HARD. I was dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, too...but instead of being in two different colleges..we were in two different cities..then states because I moved. It isn't ... (read in full...)

First he said he wanted to sleep with me... now, he's dropped completely out of contact!

Q.   I've been in love with my best friend's brother for three years. Recently he's told me he wants to sleep with me. I went round and spent the night, we didn't get all the way but very nearly. Now he hasn't spoken to me in a month, not on the phon...

A.   8 June 2005: He is your brother's best friend and that is hardly ever a 'good' situation. He probably feels torn between you two and realizes how awkward it would be. Did your brother ever know about it? Did he accept it for what it was? You have to remember ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend allows his female friend to give him bad advice, then critcises me for pointing it out!

Q.   My boyfriend has this older women/friend in his life who behind his back is trying to sabotage our relationship. She is very subtle and sly, she insults, guilt trips me and badmouths me to others, manipulate & gives him obvious bad relationship ...

A.   8 June 2005: Well, you could always be sneaky and voice record him saying these things. haha...that's what I would honestly do. But in all seriousness, you need to sit down with him and talk about it. This woman is not only hurting your relationship but... (read in full...)

He seems to think of me all the time, so why has he got a new girlfriend?

Q.   I've been in love with the same man for 7 years. We've been on and off. He has a girlfriend now but he still have feelings for me, and he's very honest about what he feels. To me he seems confused. I love him and I want to be with him but I don't ...

A.   8 June 2005: It's very possible that he may just be trying to distract himself from thinking of you. He may also be afraid of commitment. Try talking to him about it. Ask him if he's ever wanted to get into a serious relationship with you. If he says yes or ... (read in full...)

Orgasm is so easy when I masturbate... why can't I do it when I have sex?

Q.   Since the first time I had sex, I have trouble reaching orgasm. I can do it when I masturbate, but it is a lot harder to due during sex. What's wrong with me, why is it so hard to cum during copulation?...

A.   8 June 2005: I have the same problem. I'm not sure what the problem is exactly and all I can do for now is pretend. If you get a good reply for this question, I hope you'll share it with me.... (read in full...)

What can I do to prove to my parents that I'm ready to have a boyfriend?

Q.   So I'm going to be 14 (going into high school) in a couple of days and I'm still not allowed to have a boyfriend. How do I convince my mom I'm ready to have one?...

A.   8 June 2005: Boyfriends are nice. Especially in highschool. But you must prove to your parents that you are completely responsible. If you can keep up your grades and make good choices, they should have no reason to doubt your decsions when choosing ... (read in full...)

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