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My best friend is having my boyfriend’s baby and I can’t deal with it!

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Question - (26 September 2019) 18 Answers - (Newest, 30 September 2019)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My best friend is having my boyfriend’s baby and I can’t deal with it.

7 months ago they slept together behind my back. He ended up making her pregnant as well. I’ve forgiven them both and am trying to move on and rebuild relationships with them but it’s proving a lot harder than I thought. Every time I see her and the baby bump it makes me feel sick inside and I want to just break down in tears. I don’t know how I’m going to cope when she gives birth.

The whole sorry mess started back in February. One day me, my boyfriend and my best friend had all planned to go out on a shopping trip together but I had a Dentist appointment first thing. I'm not gonna lie, I'm scared stiff of the dentist to the point where I start to have panic attacks. My boyfriend offered to come in with me but I didn't want him to see me get into such a state, not even in the waiting room, so I encouraged him to go to my best friend's house and wait for me there as she only lived a couple of streets away. Little did I know what a huge mistake that would prove to be. Whilst he was there they had sex. It seemed so improbable given there was only 40 minutes between him waving me off at the dentist and me arriving at the house to meet them both.

We all went out shopping together and I didn't have the slightest inkling that something had gone on between them. It was only a few weeks later when everything came out. My best friend had been avoiding me like the plague and I genuinely thought she had fallen out with me for some reason. Usually we chatted every day on Whats App but I hadn't heard a single thing from her in ages and she was completely ignoring all my messages so I rang and asked her outright if I'd done something to upset her. She said no but I could tell something wasn't right. She ended up bursting into tears over the phone before saying she had to tell me something, but wanted to do it face-to-face.

So I invited her round and she told me she was pregnant. I was shocked but confused as to why she was being so off with me about it, which is when she confessed that my boyfriend was the father. I was devastated. I literally couldn't believe it. I immediately rang my boyfriend screaming down the phone at him and he didn't deny it, and also said he knew about the pregnancy as well as she had told him a few days prior. It all started to make sense as I'd noticed he'd been very distant with me as well since it happened. He came straight over and the two of them explained themselves.

They said it was a complete one-off and a spur of the moment mistake. When he got to her house on that fateful morning they acted completely normally with each other but it all stemmed from her burning her finger on a hot stove as she was making her breakfast. My boyfriend then helped her treat it by running it under a cold tap and as he finished dabbing it with kitchen towel for her he kissed it for some reason. Next thing they were kissing and going upstairs to do it in her bed. They said the whole thing lasted barely 5 minutes and that they both bitterly regretted it afterwards. They stupidly did it unprotected as well and my friend got the morning-after-pill to try and bail herself out, but obviously it didn't work. She said she was 100% certain my boyfriend is the father as he was the only person she'd slept with in months.

I didn't notice at the time but they hardly said two words to each other whilst we were all out shopping that day and the more I thought about, the more I realized there was an atmosphere between them. But I guess hindsight is a wonderful thing. Unsurprisingly I hit the roof with both of them. I dumped my boyfriend and told my friend I never wanted to speak to her again. I was absolutely heartbroken and couldn't believe the two people I trusted the most would betray me like that. Over the next few weeks they both tried to contact me repeatedly and I ignored them. However I relented with my boyfriend after about a month and we started talking again.

He was so apologetic and told me over and over again how much he regretted it and I believed him. We didn't get back together there and then but my anger towards him had simmered so I was open to building bridges with him. I also got back in touch with my friend and we started talking again as well. Of course I couldn't ignore the obvious elephant in the room which was the baby. My friend said she was going to have it no matter what and my boyfriend said he was going to be there as a Dad. It was really hard to take but at the same time I agreed that it was the right thing to do. I don't believe in abortion and know what it's like to not have a Dad around and the baby doesn't deserve either, even though it's all a hideously complicated mess.

A few months went by and I decided to give things another go with my boyfriend. My other friends and family all thought I was mad but he has been really good and has done everything he can to try and make things right. Things are OK with my friend as well, although I don't think we can ever be as close as we were before. But I've told her I'm happy to be civil with her for all our sakes. I do 100% trust them both as well. Even though all I've heard off my sister is that the baby will probably bring them closer together and they'll end up doing it to me again but honestly, they've both been wracked with so much guilt over it I think it's scarred them both. My friend in particular still won't stop beating herself up over it, even though I've moved on from their mistake. I highly doubt either of them would even contemplate falling into bed again.

Even though I'm over the fact that they slept together, as I said before it's the baby. Some days I'm OK with it but other days I have full on anxiety attacks about how it's ever going to work, how often he's going to see it, what role I'll play in it's life. Part of me wonders whether I'm just fooling myself and deep down I should know it'll all end in tears.

What do you all think?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2019):

Sorry about this but I don’t even believe your so called friend even took the morning after pill.

Maybe she wanted to get pregnant, and it’s funny how she told your boyfriend a few days before she told you about the pregnancy, she was probably finding out his what his reaction was.

When he gave her the go ahead then she told you, and he probably told her to tell you.

Maybe she has always been secretly jealous of you.

I’ve had something similar like this happen to me but the girl wasn’t my friend and she slept with my ex and then made up she was pregnant after a one night stand, my ex didn’t want her though and I got rid of my ex and we had been together about 7 years as I couldn’t get it out of my head what he had done.

My advice to you is just get rid of them both. You cannot trust them 100%, please don’t think you can, you are in denial.

You think you will be able to trust them when they are both alone with the baby?

Don’t do this to yourself, please just get rid of them both. You will always feel tormented if you don’t. You will feel like your having your face rubbed in it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2019):

You need some tough love right now to do what is best, so I will be frank. Apparently you have been hit over the head with the obvious but the measage still doesn't get through.

Grow the heck up! You "100% trust" them! Are you KIDDING me?! It is like you WANT to be blind to the blatently obvious fact that these are NOT good people...they lied and screwed each other without protection...how much risk they put you under emotionally and physically. But you are all rainbows and butterflies and poor them, it was a mistake. My donkey's arse it was. They made a CHOICE. You should be out of their lives. YOU should have some self respect. You right now are on a road to becoming the kind of woman people walk all over and use like a piece of trash because you don't stand up for yourself or your values. This man has shown you he is trash. Be happy his true colours have come out and get out now!

Be happy YOU dont have kids with him! It is not too late to leave and find a man who would NEVER treat you this way.

On second thought, you dont want to? Fine. Stay. You DESERVE all the lies and cheating that will follow. You deserve believing every lie-and lets be honest, there is never just 1 lie. Lets be honest this was VERY unlikely just one time. YOU make choixes in life too. Now you are CHOOSING to become the gullible, ridiculous victim who doesnt have 2 wits to rub together about people's intentions.

But we know you are better than that. Dont lower yourself to this.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (28 September 2019):

N91 agony auntWhy are you even still in the middle of this mess? 2 people you trusted fucked you over, why give them a second chance? Move on with your life with NEITHER of them in it, it will be much easier.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (27 September 2019):

Honeypie agony auntOP, you are only 18-21.

You shouldn't HAVE to deal with this kind of drama in your life. However, it happened and you handled it well by forgiving them. FOR your sake, not theirs.

Forgetting it, you won't. Ever.

I seriously doubt that there was nothing going on between them it just sounds so off that he stopped by and in the span of 40 minutes he just HAPPENED to have sex with her. I mean if that IS the truth, then you have a guy who can't keep it in his pants, and who possibly will do this again. (maybe he will be smarter and use a condom next time but him being totally faithful from now on, is a little unlikely.) He might LEARN from this, he might not. HE too (I presume) is also very young.

There will SOON be a kid in the mix. A kid that HE owes to be a dad to. And what does that mean for YOUR relationship? Well, it will cause strain. Because HIM seeing his kid (as he should!) will mean HIM spending time with or around her.

They both betrayed your trust. BOTH. Not her more than him or vice verse, BOTH.

REGARDLESS of the "moment of passion" excuse.

You can't TRUST either of them. You might think you can trust them 100% but you really can't. And there is a pregnancy to prove that. Let's say the morning after pill had worked... DO you think EITHER of them would have told you ANYTHING? My guess is no.

Anyways, I think YOU need to focus on getting your anxiety under control and become a healthy person in all aspects, especially your mental health. IT is important. As someone who has dealt with OCD (I still do) I can tell you that getting help was the BEST thing I ever did for my mental health. There were things (rituals) I did because I HAD to that I now have under control, it no longer controls ME. I am in control (mostly) of it. That goes for anxiety too.

HE and HIS actions are NOT helping your mental state.

I really think that perhaps it is better to wish him well and end it so you CAN focus on you and YOUR future.

Like Ivyblue said, it's time to be KIND to you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

It's very generous of you to forgive, but you must do what is good for you. Cut the drama and for the time being distance yourself. When and IF you feel like contacting them again, do so, but now, everything is still too raw.

I have never been in a situation like yours, however I know what it is like to be uncomfortable because your sister is flirting with your husband, who did nothing to provoke or encourage it. And it is as awful as it sounds. No matter how much you try to justify - she's been single all of her life, she's lost her compass, she's drunk too much... - it just doesn't work. My husband felt awful and angry.

So, I decided that for a while we will not see her. Honestly, I have no wish too.

My point is, when somebody hurts you, you must do what is best for you. You don't have to hate them, but you don't have to let them be a part of your life.

Your family and friends are right. The guy had no scruples. He not only cheated on you he did so:

- with your best friend

- without condom

I mean, he endangered your health, among other things!

If did all of this, what makes you think that he won't cheat again?

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (27 September 2019):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntI'm so sorry. What most or all of us will say is not what you want to hear, but: DUMP HIM AND HER. She is not a friend and he is not a trustworthy boyfriend.

If he is remotely a decent person, he will be spending a lot of time working to support the baby and visiting the baby. If you stay with him, that will emotionally "kill" you. If he doesn't do that, he isn't worth staying with anyway.

You are young, have a lot of life to live, a lot of things to achieve, people to meet, things to do - don't commit yourself to people who betray you so blatantly. Staying in contact with either of them will do you a lot of damage emotionally and it really isn't worth it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

You forgave them....good....now dump them.They both have shown you who they really are.Do not be a fool.They never had or ever will have your best interests at heart.Get some help because you have very low self esteem.They both do not deserve your trust.You can do much better at friends and boyfriends.Do not keep the friend or boyfriend.They have shown you who they really are...to the point of having a baby.....how much more proof do you need? Dump them and stop being a fool.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

You write about it very maturely but you are too young for this situation.

The baby isn't it.

The baby is he or she.

But the baby isn't the problem.

You are the problem, not because you are a bad person or because you're frightened of the dentist nor because you have panic attacks!

The only reason you are feeling so bad is because you are there, fairly and squarely between a girl who says she's keeping the baby after a 40 minute shag with your then boyfriend.

This is not normal!

But you sound normal!

Far too normal to allow this to carry on anymore.

Even if his dxxx was made of gold it's time to wriggle out of this.

Yes, you will like the baby.

I'm guessing the baby will be a boy and will look cute with beautiful innocent eyes and a sweet little rosebud mouth.

But I'm guessing.

I don't know.

You will feel for that little bundle of joy but most likely you will feel a little sorry for the innocent childhood brought into a world of turmoil.

But you must not allow yourself to get attached to the baby because, sweetheart you are gullible.

It's not a fault.

It just means you are open to being exploited.

As these two have so admirably proved.

There's a strong chance they will make baby number two and proove you to be redundant.

Plus they want your baby sitting expertise and your ability to go the shops for 40 mins to buy something urgent.

They are using you.

You don't build bridges with people like that.

You move on.

You sack the boyfriend and you sack the friend.

You hold onto your independence by getting out of this web as kindly as possible.

You can excel at kind excuses such as 'You have so much to do for the baby now that I need to move on.'

Anything!

Tell him he's not the only dxxx to get someone pregnant as a result of a shag, tell him you're not bothered, tell him youve got a new man (he will arrive in your life when you free yourself of these two).

Tell him or her 'whatever' but shut their hold on you down now.

Plan next year's holiday, talk to mum, whatever, but these two must be banished from you before you get roped in any further.

You don't build bridges at your age with people like that.

You will find you have an army of supporters once you get free.

And tell your friend she needs her mum not you.

No wonder you have panic attacks.

Everything is telling you that your life is going horribly wrong with them around.

Tell them you want them to step up to the parenting but now you are going to be busy and back out of any further contact.

You are entitled to live your own life and things will get bettered you when you drop these jokers off!

You will make new friends, meet a much better boyfriend and finally enjoy life again.

Just shrug and say 'it's not my problem!' if anyone asks you why you finally dropped them.

But you might find so many people want to know the real you that you can stop acting as if you are a character in a cheap soap opera.

You most probably will feel incredibly relieved to send that text :Wishing you both the best of luck...I' m moving on!'

Or just be to busy to talk, connect etc.

Still, it's up to you.

You can always be the other character who is caught in their crises but with any luck they will have the decency to come clean and let you make new friends outside of their reasonably changing circle.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (27 September 2019):

chigirl agony auntFor the record, your best friend is no longer a friend. Friends dont do what she did to each other. She might be a fun person to hang out with, but when she had sex with your boyfriend she threw the friendship out the window. 5 minute sex with him was worth more to her than your friendship. So no, this is no longer a friendship. Just thought you should be reminded of that. Please set a higher standard for yourself, both when it comes to friends and boyfriends. Its like they say, with friends like that, who needs enemies..?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

To be honest, I can't see this ever working in a million years. Despite the fact that they both completely regret what they did and are 'wracked with guilt' your sister is absolutely right when she says the baby will bring them closer together. I can speak from experience.

I fell pregnant with my first child after a drunken one night stand. The man I slept with I had absolutely no feelings for whatsoever. In fact I felt embarrassed for weeks afterwards that I had sex with him. However he did the right thing and was there for our daughter. We co-parented at first but over time I began to develop proper feelings for him to the point where I fell in love. The man is now my husband and we have been married for 13 years. Now I couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else, something I never thought I'd ever say on the morning I woke up with him snoring away in in my bed after our drunken night together.

When they bond with the baby, they will bond with each other at the same time, there's no doubt about it. Then you'd have to cope with the worry that they'll be at it with each other behind your back again.

Don't deny how you feel. I know you say you love your boyfriend and have forgiven him but it's not worth all the stress, all the anxiety and all the upset. It is only going to get worse. So why put yourself through it? You are still incredibly young and have so many opportunities ahead of you. Do you really want to waste your youth playing the reluctant step-mum just to cling onto a boyfriend who completely betrayed you?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

I'm so sorry. you must have gone through absolute hell when you found out what they had done. I do have to say though I really admire you for being so forgiving and trying to build bridges with them both again. Life is too short to hold grudges and from what you've written it does sound like they both genuinely regret it.

However I'm afraid I can't see it getting any easier once the baby is born. If he steps up and is there for his child like he says he will then it is going to be his number one priority for many years. Raising a child is hard work and requires so much dedication. Whilst he is doing the right thing and stepping up to his responsibilities, a lot of the time you are going to find yourself pushed to one side.

Personally I think it's going to be incredibly hard for you to accept the situation when the baby is born, given how much stress and anxiety you are already going through. However, if your feelings for your boyfriend are as strong as you believe they are, and they must have been for you to forgive such a shocking betrayal, then you may find the strength to make it work.

My advice would be to take things one day at a time. There may be days where you see them playing happy families or you're in a situation where you're left holding the baby and want to just burst into tears, but as the saying goes: 'Time is a healer'. It may get to a point where you don't even think about it and it just becomes routine, in which case you will have found the mental strength to accept it and maybe even feel like you've made it work.

I bet when you found out what they had done you never could've imagined you'd be able to move on, yet it's 7 months later and you've said you are over the fact that they slept together. Try and take some encouragement from that.

Good Luck and I hope whatever decision you make ultimately is a happy one for you.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (27 September 2019):

chigirl agony auntJust because you forgave them (big hearted of you), does not mean you have to approve of this. You arent fine with this, at all. You are tormented by it, every time you see your best friend now. And once the baby comes, the two of them will be linked together much more than now. He will likely see her more than you. It will be very hard for you.

I think you deserve to be happy in a relationship, and this relationship does not, and will not in the future, make you happy. It will tear you down.

You tried to make it work despite the cheating. It didnt work. Now its time to let this man go. Tell him: Thank you for our time together, but I have realized that your cheating and having a baby is causing me more grief than I at first thought it would. So it is best that we end this relationship. I wish you all the best.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (27 September 2019):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntI have a question of my own: why, at your young age, would you stick with someone who has already cheated on you, especially given that you are going to be reminded of his infidelity every day when the baby arrives? Your lives are going to change for ever once the baby is actually born. Are you ready for that? Is that what you want for yourself?

He only owned up to what he had done when he couldn't avoid it any longer. He MAY be sorry - but is he sorry because he hurt you or because he got caught out? His mistake is going to cost him BIG over the years - not only financially (he will have a responsibility to help support his child) but also emotionally. His first priority will (should) always be his child.

If you two stay together and have children, remember YOUR first child will not be HIS first child. I mention this because this is what really hurt a friend of mine. It's strange what little things actually matter.

Seriously, in your shoes I would walk away from your boyfriend, simply because you are young enough to make a life for yourself without this complication and without this pain. Sadly I suspect you won't do that, so we will probably be hearing from you again. You sound like a very strong person but you need to love YOURSELF a bit more and realize you are worth better.

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (27 September 2019):

Ivyblue agony auntHoly shit, I feel for you girl. From what you post I think you severely under estimate just how strong of a person you are given you have made a choice to have them again be part of your life after such an emotional kick to the gut. You can try try try but I have no faith this will get any easier for you. Given he is ,and should, take on his part as a responsible parent I feel as though you will be a third wheel which will only turn messy. His need to play that role will be a constant ripping of that wound right open. Why stay when you don't have too? If you choose to its just a punishment you bring upon yourself for doing nothing in the first place. Time to be kind to yourself and walk away for good. Invest the time in yourself to try process all that you have had to endure and find ways to heal and move forward. Cut all contact with them both. who the hell could blame you? Wishing you happiness xx

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (27 September 2019):

mystiquek agony auntIts really a crying shame when you can't 2 of the people in the world that you should be able to trust! I had almost the exact thing happen to me when I was 19. My best friend, my boyfriend and I were like the 3 Musketeers. We did everything together. One day my boyfriend and I had a fight and he would up with my friend, and they got together. The only difference was that my friend didn't get pregnant. I know the hurt, the shock and disbelief that you went through. I cared so deeply about both of them and I just couldn't believe they could betray me but they did. The best friend? She admitted it to me before my boyfriend did. I retaliated by calling up her soon to be husband and told him the whole story. I was furious with her. Her fiance married her anyways (they got divorced about a year later).

As for the boyfriend, like an idiot I forgave him. I am not sure why we ladies are usually so much easier on the man? He cheated on me again 3 months later (we a different girl) and we ended things for good.

No one can tell you what you should do sweetie, you just have to follow your heart but I can tell that you dating your boyfriend will make you play the scenario over and over again...and its always going to hurt. Lets be honest...the trust is gone..its unlikely you'll ever get it back.

Do you really want to be reminded of what the two of them did? The baby is innocent but it will always hurt to see it. I'd strongly advice you to cut the tie and move on. There are too many men out there that WON'T cheat.

Hugs to you

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

The good thing is that you forgave them both. It's not really healthy for you to force yourself to maintain contact with them on such a regular basis. You have anxiety-attacks, and being triggered too often is dangerous. Hopefully, you're in therapy; and on prescribed-medication when needed.

You need to distance yourself from this drama for awhile, my dear. Pursue other romantic-prospects. You've forgiven them on a conscious-level; but forgiving on a subconscious-level will take quite some time. Meanwhile, the inner-turmoil is eating you up!

The baby will be too much of a reminder. Infants have to be close to their mothers; and he'll want to bond with the baby, if he plans to be a good father. That won't really go well with you. It will be slow-torture always sharing and sacrificing your time together, for him to be with the child. Which means she'll be present. Do you really think you'll enjoy tagging-along will him to spend time with "their" baby? That long emotionally-charged narrative you wrote about it says you won't!

It would be awkward the three of you together each and every-time he wants to see his kid. Watching him dote over his baby will be very unnerving for you. Especially when they must cater to the baby's needs and parent together. It will form a stronger bond between them as parents. They have a child in-common. They'll always have that to talk about. You'll feel left-out. Their unpredictable communication, and frequent time spent together for the child's sake will make you uncomfortable. And you think it unsettles you now? Babies get colicky, catch colds, fevers, and sometimes have to be rushed to the hospital. He will be pulled-away in emergencies. He'll have to comfort her, when she's upset. She will be left with 99% of the childcare. While he's spending his free-time running about with you! How long do you think she'll sit for that?

Women tend to put themselves through excruciating ordeals trying to hang-on to a guy. Trying to adapt to unbelievably strenuous situations, that are painful and unhealthy for them. Becoming martyrs and making extreme sacrifices to maintain shaky-relationships; where trust has been strained and stretched to the max. The reason often being to keep him away from another woman; who has managed to wedge herself in-between them somehow. Then it's territorial-competitiveness spawned from jealousy; and her pride that prevents her from just kicking his cheating-ass to the curb! Where it belongs!

You're too young to be treating this like you're holding-on to your husband, or saving your marriage. This guy was a boyfriend, who let you down! They both betrayed your trust, and you may grow increasingly resentful of an innocent little-baby. Your grief and resentment has to be vented somewhere! You've already focused it on an unborn-child!

I just don't think it's as easy as you think it will be. You just want to keep him so badly; you'll put yourself through hell to do it. Your mental-health will become increasingly strained. Anxiety-attacks may increase due to stress!

No, you don't need to go through baby-mama drama, and anxiety-attacks over some guy. You need time to heal, detach, and get your head right. You can't deal with a dental-appointment, but you think you're ready for all this? Mommy, daddy, baby...and you???

Sweetheart, you have to move on. The least contact the better.

Someday in the future, you may truly get-over what they did; but the length of your post indicates you're pretty torn-up about it now!!!

You're biting-off more than you can chew. You don't have to fight so hard to keep boyfriends; because they're kept on an honor-system. Only as long as they remain faithful, loving, and true. Of course, he'll be extra good to you; when his guilty-conscience compels him to be!

Learn from this. When guys betray your trust, you have to develop the strength to let them go and go forward. It's necessary to preserve your well-being and maintain your self-esteem. If they fear no consequences, they will repeat their worst offenses. It would be too easy to slip!

Mother should have told you that trying to ride-out unusually complicated situations, will take a toll on you. Your post is proof this is far too much for you to handle.

It's not just venting, it's expressing your high-anxiety. You're really hurt!

Let him go, and give yourself more time. He needs to attend to his responsibilities. He has to work full-time and support that kid; and then he has to have time to bond with his child. That will rake your feelings over the coals! I can sense the disappointment and anxiety in your words.

I'm sorry, but it is my opinion this is more than you're able to handle. You need to continue working on accepting the reality of the situation; and shouldn't delude yourself into thinking you'll handle it without doing yourself some emotional harm.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

I feel sorry that you feel you have to forgive them both and carry on your relationships with them. You are far too young to waste your wife with this.

Do you honestly think that you can'f do better than both of these people?

One off or not, they are having a baby together which means 18 years pf being linked together, sharing finances, sharing a little person, sharing care of this little person. I genuinely believe that you are too young to put your life on hold for all of this baggage.

In any event no matter what age, i'd be advising you to cut and run. Your age just makes it all that easier for me to say - cut them both off, block numbers, take a holiday, let you family know what's going on so they can support you and help you to move on. Take counselling for your self esteem issues and wait for the right one to come along - I guarantee you the right one will and he won't be swayed by anybody else. Not even i.mn a moment of stupidity!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2019):

I think you are an absolute fool! You now fully trust you bf and your so called bestie? Did you fully trust them prior to them screwing an innocent child into this world? I might add a child who is not wanted and who had no say whatsoever as to what kind of crew would be his or her parents! I know. Of course no child has any say, but in a perfect word, a man and a woman fall in love, and the get married, then they have sex, as a demonstration of their love, trust, and loyalty to one another! Then when the couple decide to start a family, the new child is born to loving, loyal, trustworthy parents, who can be trusted farther than the length of a mans dick! I find it so ironic that bf is Ok, bestie is Ok, but the only innocent party in all of this, a little child, is the only one that upsets you to the point that you would like to throw, said baby, out of your happy little lovers triangle! Trust me little girl, neither of the parents are your friend! When he feels his baby kicking inside her belly, guess what?

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