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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 28 July 2006: I still feel that if they have tried everything and EVERYTHING as you put it didnt work then they should move on first... Not start an affair. The person here was saying that things were great apart from that bit of attention, so hows that trying ... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 27 July 2006: I Agree with wild Thaing... plus if your not happy with the person you are with you should take steps to see if you can remedy it.. If all else fails then its time to move on. Cheating is not the answer, it only leads to heartache, but then as Wild ... (read in full...)
I cant *bare* the thought of him seeing other women naked.. please help!!
Q. ihave been with my bf for 3yrs but over the last 6mths my jealousy has become worse. i hate the thought of him seeing any other woman naked. its ruining our relationship help!...
A. 21 July 2006: In response to the annon poster asking what sort of porn i was referring to when i said most men dont compare thier woman to them. There are lots of sites out there of pretty young girls exposing themselves and they have fantastic figures, they ... (read in full...)
I cant *bare* the thought of him seeing other women naked.. please help!!
Q. ihave been with my bf for 3yrs but over the last 6mths my jealousy has become worse. i hate the thought of him seeing any other woman naked. its ruining our relationship help!...
A. 20 July 2006: If he is simply taking the occasional glance at a naked woman then theres not much harm no. Its when it takes over that you have to be careful. Of course hes going to say your being stupid cos its something he wants to do, but if it makes you that ... (read in full...)
I cant *bare* the thought of him seeing other women naked.. please help!!
Q. ihave been with my bf for 3yrs but over the last 6mths my jealousy has become worse. i hate the thought of him seeing any other woman naked. its ruining our relationship help!...
A. 20 July 2006: So your saying that he recieves naked pics in emails from one person ? Is he just looking at porn or normal pics of females and thats what your trying to say ? Or is this a real life person that he is interacting with ?... (read in full...)
My fiancee was brutally honest in telling me she thinks my penis is too short!
Q. Dear Cupid, My penis is 4.5" short. I've spent the past several years convincing myself that that's OK. I read up on it and discovered that most women either don't care or prefer medium length. I told myself "size doesn't matter" over and...
A. 20 July 2006: Its not the length of time its the person. Unfortunately some of us encounter the bad eggs and waste a lot of time on something we think is going to work, and it saddens us when it goes wrong and we tend to lose faith in what we once thought. You ... (read in full...)
My period stopped the day after sex! Normal or bad sign?
Q. I had sex whilst on my period and the following day it stopped completely. Is this a bad sign or normal?...
A. 19 July 2006: Did you use protection ? Are you on the pill ? If your on the pill then you are still covered if taken correctly in the 7 free pill taking days. It may have just come to the end of the cycle its hard to say, it takes 3 days to concieve from ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving too fast! I don't know whether I'm going to have sex right and I don't want to get completely naked!
Q. Hey guys, I know I've been asking a lot of questions lately but I really have just been thrown in to the reality pool at the deep end, so I'm really confused with everything. Anyway to the question... I'm 16 and my boyfriend has already had...
A. 19 July 2006: Honey, these fears are all but normal, but if your not ready babe your not ready. Just because hes had sex before doesnt mean that you have to have sex with him. There is no rule to say that you now have to have sex with him because he has before. ... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 19 July 2006: I dont condone cheating, partly because its been done to me! But well if you dont feel guilty then perhaps you dont love your husband as much as you think you do. If your not getting from your relationship what you need then perhaps you need to ... (read in full...)
She has hepatitis and wants to leave ME?
Q. GF has hepatitis B and she wants to break up- Having been dating this girl for almost 1 year, she is very caring and sweet. We are a good match in many things and talk about our future a lot recently. Unfortunately yesterday she came over and to...
A. 19 July 2006: The link that I have attached at the bottom should give you the information that you need. Shes obviously just been told the news and its a bit of a shock to her and she can only see the bad side of it and doesnt realise that all the things she is ... (read in full...)
My GF doesn't know about my female friend online. Should I risk a meeting with her?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my g/f for just over a year now. During that time I've been helping a girl on the internet with her problems, which my g/f doesn't know about. But the only problem is that the girl now wants to meet up with me and I want to...
A. 18 July 2006: Hmmm what were you hoping to acheive by meeting this girl off the internet ? Helping someone is one thing, but to then meet up with her, you clearly think that she has these sort of intentions towards you or you wouldnt have written on here. Im ... (read in full...)
My fiancee was brutally honest in telling me she thinks my penis is too short!
Q. Dear Cupid, My penis is 4.5" short. I've spent the past several years convincing myself that that's OK. I read up on it and discovered that most women either don't care or prefer medium length. I told myself "size doesn't matter" over and...
A. 18 July 2006: Sorry but what would she know about penis sizes after never having sex before ? Is she for real ?? 12" and thick ? shs thinks that normal ? you need to ask her which porn film shes been watching!! That is the only place she would have found such ... (read in full...)
It's ok at first, then it gets soree... Why?
Q. everytime i have sex i get sore after 10 minites into it. its happened with 2 people now, and its unconfortable to do it. then in the middle of it i dont fell like i want it and its not pleasurable anymore. also i get swollen which is awful. . . ...
A. 16 July 2006: Hi, this could be a couple of things, one your not lubricated enough hun, to remedy this maybe try some lubricating products. ky jelly is a good one and can be applied in a sexy way so doesnt have to take away the moment, ask your partner to do it ... (read in full...)
I love him this amazing guy... And he says he'll break up with his girlfriend at the end of the year!
Q. I'm in love with an amazing guy who completes me but something is in the way of us being together and that person is his girlfriend. I have been inlove wit him 4 bout 5 months but had a crush on him 4 a year and a half but he ays he wants us to be ...
A. 16 July 2006: If he really wanted to be with you and not his girlfriend then he would be, nothing would stop him. hes quite happy having you as a bit on the side. Why is he leaving it so long to leave her if things are that bad ? Come on hes playing you for a ... (read in full...)
Am I a virgin still?
Q. this may sound stupid, but i'm a girl who masterbates and never had sex yet. I was wondering if I'm still a virgin? (please don't laugh)...
A. 16 July 2006: Hey im not laughing, if you havent come into contact with a guy and he hasnt pentrated you sexaully with his penis then yes your still a virgin. Nothing to be shy about its all about respect, carry on masturbating as long as you wish and dont worry ... (read in full...)
Snooped through his text messages to confirm my suspicions
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a year and things were going good. lately things change and i got suspicious so i looked thru his text messages. his daughters mother sent him this"why you want to come over, u want to have sex, tuesday wasn't enough" ...
A. 16 July 2006: If your sure that hes cheating and your sure what you read, you should just calmly tell him its over. You dont know how long hes been cheating but it doesnt look good. Ditch him he doesnt need to know why you know just that you do and that your ... (read in full...)
She's in her 30's and still copies what I wear!
Q. I have a friend who regularly copies things I buy or wear. Or tings I buy for my child or house. She picks up on things I say then a day later she tells people my story as if it happened to her. I wouldn't mind, but we are both in our thirties...
A. 16 July 2006: Well perhaps she will take some time to think about it and if she valued your freindship she would see your point. She will probably calm down and in time will come to see how she was acting was causing some stressing on your behalf. She will come ... (read in full...)
14 with period problems...
Q. I'm having female troubles. Hi. I'm 14 and I just got my first period. I tried using a tampon but I have trouble inserting it. The muscles tighten up no matter what I do to relax. I'm worries that even if I manage to insert it I won't be able to...
A. 13 July 2006: Have you thought about trying Lilets... they dont have an applicator so might be easier for you to use. Just relax and over time it will get easier! Its best to only really use tampons with a heavier flow, so if its getting to the end of your ... (read in full...)
Need help making a big decision about my future!
Q. I am having troubles with making a reallly important decision. First off, I am 17 years old and next year would like to do attent univesity and get a degree in a particular area I have chosen. Problem is the town I live in does not offer it. So m...
A. 13 July 2006: Well I think you have already said what you want to do and that City B with this guy you have feelings for. At least that way it will feel more familar to you and you have someone around that you know and it will seem less daunting. The only ... (read in full...)
She's in her 30's and still copies what I wear!
Q. I have a friend who regularly copies things I buy or wear. Or tings I buy for my child or house. She picks up on things I say then a day later she tells people my story as if it happened to her. I wouldn't mind, but we are both in our thirties...
A. 12 July 2006: YOu may have to be ruthless in that case... just tell her to blooody stop it! lol Sorry but you gotta tell her openly and honestly that its scaring you and that you wish she would find her own identity! Being sensitive about it is one thing but if ... (read in full...)
Small but disturbing troubles in my relationship with my boyfriend... I've decided to end it
Q. My boyfriend and I started having sex early on in the relationship and we have been pretty careful so far. Recently he came inside of me, because as he says he got caught up in it. We have also been having a little trouble in the relationship, ...
A. 12 July 2006: Does he want children is this what all this is about and you dont ? I dont know why he would act like this its a bit strange if he will knowling allow this to happen knowing you could get pregnant. Why dont you start taking the pill than, or get ... (read in full...)
The boy I like said he wouldn't date me because I'm too shy!
Q. I've loved this boy since January and he turned to me yesterday and said he didn't think if he got with me it would work out because I'm too shy. After he said that I broke down and i haven't stopped crying. I'm even taking it out on my family a...
A. 12 July 2006: His loss... let him get on with it, he really is not worth it hun. When he says your too shy, what he really means is that he doubts he will get his wicked way with you!! You dont need someone like this, we all find love in different places and no ... (read in full...)
Asked him not to break off with his girlfriend just to be with me, and he disappeared!
Q. Me and this guy have been really good mates for years now and have always been attracted to each other. Nothing has ever happened between us but all of our friends tried to set us up. However, we lost contact for a while and he got a g/f who he is ...
A. 12 July 2006: Perhaps he has done as you said, stayed with his girlfriend. Maybe he was hoping that he could have his cake and eat it and you were not going to play that game so has gone back to the safe option, just his girlfriend. If he was really that ... (read in full...)
He's only mentioned his sexual health now... !
Q. I need some advice about something my boyfriend did recently. I strongly believe in giving blood and I find it really selfish when people won't do it for whatever pathetic reason they might come up with. My boyfriend has been like this for a while ...
A. 11 July 2006: Not sure how long the two of you have been together, but if he had any doubts then he really should have told you and put you first. Im guessing you thought you could trust him or you would have made sure that he used protection, so im assuming ... (read in full...)
I have a hairy question!
Q. I have a hairy chest and stomach and I don't know if I should shave it/wax it or not. I know that there are girls that like it and some that hate it. I always tend to care about what others think (bad habit) and when I see that most guys at the ...
A. 11 July 2006: Well personally i like a man with a bit of hair on his chest.. i happen to love the hair on my mans chest and across his belly, i think its quite sexy, he said to me once that he wanted to shave it, hes not that hairy anyway i was like dont you ... (read in full...)
Any tips to help stop my daughter twiddling with her hair?
Q. my daughter constantly twiddles her hair and it gets so knotty as her hair is natually curly you can omagine the difficulty in brushing any tips on getting her to stopthis habit...
A. 11 July 2006: Well this probably isnt going go help much, but well I still twiddle my hair and i'm 31! its a habit i picked up when young and its like a comforter, my grandad used to do it to the table cloth, it had little tassles that he couldnt resist ... (read in full...)
We work together... So I have no idea what to talk about!
Q. my boyfriend and i work together and i get all tounge tied with it comes to talking alot so i dont know how to go about talking about things or what all to talk about?...
A. 11 July 2006: Well have you asked him what he wants to talk about ? Find out what hes interested in and mention things you know he likes.. when he mentions something to you try and make a conversation yourself about what he has mentioned. Read the news that day ... (read in full...)
He didn't give me his number, is this a warning sign?
Q. I met a guy at the weekend whilst in a niteclub. We danced together. He was not all over me like most guys tend to be when i go out. He did keep dancin with me. When my mate went off to sit down, he told me to go with her and that he would still be ...
A. 11 July 2006: I think hes already spoken for. Would explain why he didnt want you calling him but texting was cool. Would also explain why he wasnt way over the top with the hugging thing etc, he probably likes you but hes either a, just broken up with someone ... (read in full...)
My husband, 27, is becoming increasingly and worryingly absent-minded!
Q. My husband is becoming increasingly absent-minded. It started out with little things, things that many people do, like leaving the toothpaste cap off or forgetting to brush his teeth at night, but recently he has started leaving water on after ...
A. 11 July 2006: It could be the fact that his mum passed away yes. Its a shock to the system and we all deal with stuff very differently. He may need to simply talk some things over with someone to get this all out of his system, the body mind and brain are very ... (read in full...)
I read on a website that males don't like dry-humping! But we do it all the time!
Q. I was reading some information on another website, i forget the name of it, and there was this article on it about dry sex aka dry humping. Anyway, it was written by a male and it addressed this sexual act from the male perspective and he went on to ...
A. 11 July 2006: Pete, its a form a of sexual contact, but with your clothes on..... here is the official definition is as follows..
In the context of human sexual behavior, frottage or frotteurism is the act of achieving sexual gratification by rubbing one's (c... (read in full...)
My husband, 27, is becoming increasingly and worryingly absent-minded!
Q. My husband is becoming increasingly absent-minded. It started out with little things, things that many people do, like leaving the toothpaste cap off or forgetting to brush his teeth at night, but recently he has started leaving water on after ...
A. 11 July 2006: This could be neurological.. Does he have any headaches ? any sudden shudders that you notice.. there are all sorts of things that can affect the brain and the thought pattern. Has he recently had a shock ? anything happen that wouldnt normally ... (read in full...)
I read on a website that males don't like dry-humping! But we do it all the time!
Q. I was reading some information on another website, i forget the name of it, and there was this article on it about dry sex aka dry humping. Anyway, it was written by a male and it addressed this sexual act from the male perspective and he went on to ...
A. 11 July 2006: Dont believe everything you read, we all have a different view point and all have something different that makes us tick. The only person that can answer this question is your boyfriend. From what you say he must like it as you two are doing it! ... (read in full...)
I can't keep it up! Help!!!
Q. i have problems in the bedroom department. i cant get it up for more than 5 minutes and my girlfriend is going to chop my d*** off if i dont last longer can u save my small penis. gavin moon...
A. 10 July 2006: This page might help you.
http://www.lovelifematters.co.uk/understanding-his-erection-problem.asp?wt.srch=1
Take care x... (read in full...)
We work together... So I have no idea what to talk about!
Q. my boyfriend and i work together and i get all tounge tied with it comes to talking alot so i dont know how to go about talking about things or what all to talk about?...
A. 10 July 2006: Are you talking about talking to each other at work or at home ? At work i would suggest talking about normal work things etc and if a topic of conversation crops up try and join in with it. If your talking about when you two are not at work, i ... (read in full...)
I am 11 years old and internet dating!
Q. well i am 11 and i talk to this guy on msn, i have never felt the same way about any one ever before, we went out a couple times. And now we arent going out, i want him more than anything else in the world. And trust me, i want alot of things! See ...
A. 10 July 2006: 11 Is far far far too young to be thinking about dating let alone saying you know you what you want and you want alot ? You have so much to find out and so much to learn yet.. Keep off the net, its full of dangers especially for someone of your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get pregnant from dry humping through layers of clothes?
Q. Well my bf and i were dry humping tonight and he got really into it and I think he "went". I was reading another post about this and one of the answers said that its very risky so I'm worried. Here is the situation though. He had on bball shorts a...
A. 10 July 2006: I know sperm are pretty robust and can travel along way but i dont think they can hammer there way through walls! tee hee.. I think you can safely say you were safe, think it would be a miracle if it had manged to get through!
So take it easy and ... (read in full...)
Haven't broken it off with the old boyfriend, but I *have* got a new boyfriend...
Q. I'm having a hard time finishing it off completely off with my bf who I've been with for a year and a half. I told him that I needed space but I didn't completely just break it off. I have fallen for my old high school flame. We have always h...
A. 10 July 2006: You have to be honest all round here. If you really have fallen for this other guy and there is no way back to your present boyfriend then you have to be upfront and tell him. He just thinks that you want your space, its not fair to keep him ... (read in full...)
I need reassurance that my friend-with-benefits isn't getting any weird ideas about us!
Q. Hey. I'm 22 and in a friends with benefits relationship with this guy I know. I'm fine with it, but some things he says kind of bother me. Like when we first hooked up, he said "you'd be a good wife" and I was shocked because I don't want to hear ...
A. 10 July 2006: Well to be honest "friends with benifits" is in other words a F*uck buddy! In these circumstances you almost always get one that falls the other couldnt care less. he has fallen for you and when he says these things he is testing the water to see ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a bisexual woman who is dating another woman at the same time as me!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a straight guy who recently started dating a bisexual girl who already has a girlfriend of 6 months. Both her and her girlfriend are ok with each other dating other men, just not dating other women. I really like this girl, bu...
A. 6 July 2006: Hi,
I think its still a form of cheating no matter what the sex. Shes having a relationship with you on one hand and then another at the same time with a woman. So that still equates to two relationships at the same time, just so happens ... (read in full...)
First I said yes I would, now I don't want to
Q. Hia, Me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over 2 weeks. He's much more experianced than me (He's 15, and I'm 13). The other day he asked me if I would give him a hand job (wank him off), and I said yes. He's coming over my house on Tuesd...
A. 6 July 2006: If you dont want to do something dont do it... Your only 13 and you shouldnt be thinking about any form of sex.. I also suggest reading Yos's post as it is totally on the mark!
Your not ready for the responsibilty of sex, so dont start it, and dont... (read in full...)
Hairdressing tips wanted for down there!
Q. I have a new bf and before him, i had never even been kissed!! i'm not planning o go too far with him yet as we haven't been together hat long but i have a problem that isnt gonna stop bugging me until i ask! As stupid as it sounds, i want to know ...
A. 5 July 2006: I think most men dont pay attention lol.. But so longs its neat then i dont see there is an issue. its up to you and how you feel comfortable remember, not what the man thinks, but on the other hand if you wanted to do it for him then maybe ask him ... (read in full...)
How do I break contact with this girl?
Q. Why does my ex and her mother continue to call me when she broke up with me? I told her we couldn't be friends as I am still very much in love with her and can't bear the fact of her with someone else so I just stay away and try to move on. We ...
A. 5 July 2006: Tell her to quit playing games. She either wants you or she doesnt. shes messing around like this as she does still want you, otherwise why do it ? either taht or shes trying to make you jealous. whichever it is its not very grown up is it! I ... (read in full...)
My fiancee is in love with another man...
Q. I have been with my fiance for over 3 years now and we love each other dearly. recently she told me she has feelings for someone else but she loves me and wants to be with me but she feels guilty because she feels this way. We have talked about this ...
A. 5 July 2006: Oh dear, She loves someone else and you want to still marry her... You are worried about losing her, sorry hun but I think you already have. You cant love her for the both of you.. it doesnt work like that.. I am truly very sorry for you but if she ... (read in full...)
She's in her 30's and still copies what I wear!
Q. I have a friend who regularly copies things I buy or wear. Or tings I buy for my child or house. She picks up on things I say then a day later she tells people my story as if it happened to her. I wouldn't mind, but we are both in our thirties...
A. 23 May 2006: Well I guess its nice to have someone to admire you but some do go OTT! Maybe do something say something thats going to make her look a little silly when repeating things to others, nothing too drastic, just something thats really silly that she is ... (read in full...)
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